4dp5dt -feeling empty

[Catlady12345]

Hey ladies,

Hope you’re all ok! So I’m back on my 5th transfer… I had the transfer last Tuesday and I’ve felt nothing. Nada. Yes I have sore boobs from the progesterone but other than that I just feel empty inside.

My first FET worked (until I miscarried) and I had constant cramping, implantation bleeding and I just knew it had worked.

This feels like my 3 failed attempts - just nothing.

Im sorry to be so negative but I just needed to rant. It’s so hard and I just don’t know how many more times I can go through this without getting success. X

[Petree86]

Its perfectly okay to rant and worry about how you're feeling because it's an emotional time. You just have to remember that sometimes you can have symptoms and sometimes you don't. Neither symptoms or the absence of them guarantees that its worked. You just have to stay positive as much as possible and maybe try distracting yourself

Wishing you the best of luck for your test day🤞🏾

[Catlady12345 in reply to Petree86]

Ah thank you! I’m doing my best to keep distracted but it’s so hard isn’t it when you’re constantly looking for ‘signs’.

I think it’s just because I’ve had 1 pregnancy and 3 failed transfers and I just sort of know when it’s failed 😣

Hope you’re ok and thank you for replying xx

[Redsequin]

Uff sorry, lovely. Symptom spotting when you’re not getting symptoms is truly the worst.

However, I have seen other ladies on here truly astounded to get a positive after they were sure a transfer had failed again because it felt similar to their other failed transfers. Fingers crossed that will be you this time!

Hugs xxxx

[Catlady12345 in reply to Redsequin]

Thank you 🥰 trying to detach myself from what’s ifs and just get through the next week! Xx

[Redsequin in reply to Catlady12345]

Sounds like a good plan 🧡 I highly recommend jigsaw puzzles as a strangely effective way to stay calm.

[Millbanks]

Hey lovely,

It’s so difficult isn’t it. Sometimes you just have a gut feeling.

But my last FET I had absolutely no symptoms at all. I was completely convinced that it hadn’t worked so was completely blown away when they called with my beta numbers…

I know positivity can be a bit toxic sometimes but you’re really not out yet.

You’ve got this xx

[Catlady12345 in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you so much and a massive congratulations to you! It definitely gives me hope but I’m finding it really difficult. Just don’t know if I can keep doing it if it’s another negative! Xx

[Millbanks in reply to Catlady12345]

I know exactly how you feel, but at the moment for all you know it’s positive.Try and not think about what the outcome could be either way. Cross that bridge when you come to it as worrying about it won’t make any difference but will make you feel worse.

I know that is a lot easier said than done though.

Wishing you all the luck in the world xx

[Leigh2244]

Hi I’m 5dp5dt and feel exactly the same no symptoms apart from sore boobs and just feel it hasn’t worked. This is our final attempt so gutted if it doesn’t work out x

[Catlady12345 in reply to Leigh2244]

It’s so hard. Sending you lots of positivity too! We have one more embryo after this but it would be our 6th and I really don’t think I have it in me to keep going.

Hope this one works out for you 😘 xx

[SunnyMc]

I’m on my 5th transfer too, I’m 3dp5dt and feel exactly the same! Not a twinge or anything. This is our final shot, we have no more embryos left and financially/emotionally etc I don’t have it in me to keep going. Sending you lots of luck and hoping the success stories of positives with no symptoms happens for us! ❤️

[Catlady12345 in reply to SunnyMc]

It’s so so tough isn’t it. Sending you lots of good luck- you still have a few days I’d say, so stay positive xxx

[Idril]

Just wanted to say, I had an ectopic before and before OTD I felt like it has worked, can't explain why. This time, I felt nothing and thought it didn't work at all as last time I had this feeling but actually I got a BFP too ! And not an ectopic this time... Just to say that it really can vary from one BFP to another to even a BFN, no difference ! Good luck xxx

[Catlady12345]

Thank you so much, and congratulations 🥰