Another BFFN! (The extra F is a sweary word)

[Helto200]

So... OTD today and it's a BFN. Its always a hard one to come to terms with, because we have a beautiful girly from ivf nearly 6 years ago. I always feel guilty when I get a bfn because I feel I should be grateful for what we have, however this is 4th failed transfer now and its still devastating. This will be it for us... can't do it again. Will take a wee while to come to terms with, but will be content with our wee family and get on with things. I have been dipping in and out of this forum for a good few years now and everyone is always super helpful and makes us strong women feel hopeful and know we are not alone. So... thank you to everyone. I wish everyone the very best in their journey. Xx

[zytajones]

I'm so sorry to hear that it didn't work again! I always wonder why it did work once, but doesn't want to happen again. I'm on my last IVf try as well - whatever the outcome. Send you lots of positive vibes

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[Helto200 in reply to zytajones]

Thank you. Yeh I know... you think it worked once, so what's the problem. Just need to rethink some things now. Sending baby dust to you. All the best to you. X

[zytajones in reply to Helto200]

Thank you! And all the best to you and your family

[Riri88]

I am so sorry to hear this hun and won’t be able to say anything to make you feel better but sending big hugs for you and your partner! ❤️I totally think by the way it should be standard BFFN. Makes much more sense.

[Helto200 in reply to Riri88]

Lol. I'm glad you liked the BFFN. Can't believe I didn't use it before. Your comment made my laugh, so thank you for that. Thank you for your kind words also. Xx

[McQueeny]

I’m so sorry…. We’re also trying for a sibling, having had our little boy through IVF - we’ve so far had 3 BFFN and then a chemical which really broke my heart…. We’re going to go for one more try, but then that will probably be it. Everyone says ‘you’ve managed once, you’ll manage again’ - if only it was that simple 😥 Sending you love, and happiness with your gorgeous little family 💜😊

[Helto200 in reply to McQueeny]

Yep.. totally with you there. So sorry about what you have been through as well. It's just so unfair. Our wee girly would love a sibling... so it's actually breaking my heart more thinking about telling her it probably won't happen. Good luck to you. Xx

[McQueeny in reply to Helto200]

Thank you 💜. Absolutely, as much as I’d like another baby for me, it’s just as much for him, I so want to give him that….. I grew up with a sister and so did my husband, it breaks my heart that our son might not have that - even though intellectually I know there are so many only children out there who are perfectly happy! Sending you strength xxx

[sun-and-rain]

Big hugs ❤ No other words will be very helpful... 💔

[Helto200 in reply to sun-and-rain]

Thank you. Much appreciated. 😘

[Hoping20]

So sorry for your BFFN...they really are devastating. Take time to process what has happened and when things get a bit too much...give your beautiful little girl the biggest cuddle. I hope your heart can mend eventually. Take care now x

[Helto200 in reply to Hoping20]

Thank you for your kind words. I will definitely take some time to heal my heart. X

[Helto200]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I can always rely on you strong women in making me feel better and understanding the journey we all go through. I am glad you all like the BFFN, 🤣 I obviously don't want anyone to have to use it, but also, use it if you so wish. We are going to take some time to process this and then decide what's next. We do have one more frostie left, however it has certainly taken its toll on us emotionally and financially. My hubby has taken it exceptionally hard this time round... we have to use donor sperm, so he feels to blame. Of course I don't see it that way... but I get it. Sending love and hugs all round. Xx