2nd bfp positive.... feel anxious as last bfp ended in MC

[Emmanev1]

Hi lovely ladies....we are lucky in the sense that our 3rd transfer resulted in a BFP last week I patiently waited until OTD too. I've nor re tested after either as last time I tested positive the morning I went for my viability scan and was told there was no heartbeat. So I basically now feel what's the point in excessively testing.

My question is what is the likelihood of history repeating itself twice in a row. The anxiety has started to rise again etc and I know I shouldn't help overthinking but it'd what we do best right? Xx

[MagicTourmaline]

I don't know much about it unfortunately to reassure you that everything will be ok but I just recently had my first MC still trying to get over it and the doctor I was talking to said that after a MC is very likely to be a healthy pregnancy...Not too sure whats the reason for it but it gave me lots of hope so I thought id share it with you...

I wish you success and all the best with your pregnancy... ❤

[Emmanev1 in reply to MagicTourmaline]

I'm really sorry to hear about your MC it's so tough I was there not that long ago. It's such an emotional rollercoaster. All I told myself was even though this ended I'm still a day closer to getting what I want however many attempts/time it takes.

Thank you for sharing this it does help xx

Wishing you success and all the best in your journey too xx

[Alexm06]

Congratulations! Today was my OTD and I tested positive( I did test early though) but yeah I completely get where your coming from. I had a MMC October last year then have had 2 failed cycles and 1 chemical. This one doesn’t look like a chemical but I’m still making myself crazy haha. I don’t have much words to help but thought it may help having someone in the same boat! Let me know if you find a way to stop the overthinking haha

[Emmanev1]

Congratulations to you too. I couldn't face testing early this time. I drove myself mad testing early last time thinking it would end. Thank you for your reply. And I've no advice on the overthinking unfortunately haha xx

[Priyasharma]

Don't worry this time you will have your miracle baby.

[Hopingtobecomeamummy]

Hi, I am in exactly the same position. I had a MMC in September and then an FET in December and we got our BFP one week ago.

I am a constant ball of anxiety. I also have had spotting the last two days, which I’ve never had with any previous cycle. Worrying I’ll never be a mum. My clinic are doing my bloods today and Wednesday to check HCG levels and progesterone and given us an additional scan to check baby is measuring on track.

I did the same, tested and saw everything was good only to got to the first scan and see no heartbeat. That experience has definitely impacted the way I feel about this BFP because I’m so on edge.

My clinic did say the chances of having 2 embryos that have chromosomal abnormalities is very slim. Hold on hope. It’s all we have 🤞🏻

[Emmanev1 in reply to Hopingtobecomeamummy]

Thanks for you're reply and I'm sorry you're in the same position. Hopefully Xmas will keep us occupied the next few weeks now.

Thanks for the note from your clinic and you're right hope is all we got xx

[Fruitandflowers]

Just to say I felt/feel the same way and I'm now 21 weeks! I had two back to back early losses and the doctors kept trying to tell me how these were a positive sign because it ruled out so many problems that could have stopped us even getting that far, and also made a load of tests unnecessary, and it was just numbers. I struggled with that and the doubts that what they actually meant was it will never work... in the end, the two were probably a progesterone issue and when we fixed that our first FET worked and stuck. But I didn't believe it would last no matter how many FRERs and blood tests I had. Had a super early scan and fully expected to be told there was nothing or it had stopped, then another scan, then another... My midwives have told me that this is just a 'normal, boring' pregnancy but each day I worry I can't feel anything, or enough, or that I will eat something that will have terrible consequences... I think most first time (maybe anytime) Mums are anxious, and after having fertility problems and losses, and all the years of anxiety and what we put our bodies through, it's natural to ramp up the worry and catastrophising. It's a shame not to be able to fully enjoy what you've tried for for so long, but I'm checking off each day everything is fine and maybe, inching, towards thinking this may actually be ok. (Also I have spotted/had bleeding since I came off the meds around 12 weeks, had it investigated and that's all fine too, but just one more thing to add to the list of reasons this won't work). Oh and don't worry about the worrying either - I was convinced I could ruin everything purely by stress (excessive cortisol?) given that everyone tells you to relax and rest, and I have so far proved myself wrong. Best of luck x

[Emmanev1 in reply to Fruitandflowers]

Sorry you have had such a tough journey too. And wow 21 weeks past the half way marker. Has any of your anxiety lessened or is it still through the roof? Thank you for your reply and best of luck to you too xx

[Fruitandflowers in reply to Emmanev1]

Definitely less so than at the early stages (I was an absolute mess before my first scan, then when the bleeding started...) but the 12 week scan helped, then the 20 week. Not sure I will completely relax (perhaps that is also just my nature) and tbh it doesn't seem real, but it gets better each day. My SIL is a couple of months ahead of me with her second and if anything she is worse than me with anxiety - covid worries probably haven't helped - so I think even without fertility problems it's natural to be ball of nerves x

[courage2021]

It's really hard not to be anxious . Honestly do ypur best . Rest , eat , take medication and stay off Google

[Emmanev1 in reply to courage2021]

Thank you I'm keeping Google barred haha xx