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My quest for a sibling has failed yet again. 3 failed FET’s and this was a whole new round hoping for embryos to get tested with PGT. Unfortunately got the call today confirming that none of the 4 fertilised eggs made it to day 5. I just don’t understand, last round was a few years ago but still got 3 for the freezer. I can’t believe it, and don’t know what to do with all these feelings of loss and frustration and actual anger, I’m so mad with nobody to get mad at!! I don’t know where to go from here

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MissSaoPaulo

I'm so sorry to see this, so disappointing and frustrating. Hope you can find a healthy way to discharge these totally understandable feelings. Sending you big hugs xxx

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KiboXX

I’m so sorry lovely 😢 One bad round doesn’t mean you won’t get any embryos in the future, if you decide you want to try again. Sending you a huge big hug today xxx

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AuroraXen

Really sorry to hear this. I know how disappointing it is to have nothing to transfer. When you have a poor round it's very hard to know why... with my June cycle (3rd one ) I honestly despaired and thought 'has my fertility just crashed off a cliff since my previous round (which was a year and a half previously)?' We managed to get 1 blastocyst despite that but BFN. I was pretty much expecting a similarly poor cycle this time, in terms of low follicle numbers etc, but it was actually quite a lot better. So it's hard to say if it was just a really cr*p cycle for no particular reason, or if changes made a difference. But I also fully understand that the costs (financial and emotional) of a new cycle are horrific, and sometimes 'just go again' frankly isn't possible. Sending lots of hugs xx

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Picalilli99

I’m so sorry to hear this lovely. Getting news like this really is just crushing! Sending huge hugs xx

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Twiglet2

So sorry to hear that 😢 the anger at no one is the hardest!! I remember walking up a hill with the dog and just letting it out when no one was around. Felt better (if a little silly) afterwards. But helped me clear my head as to what to do next. Sending love 💜 xx

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Tobytubs11

I had to have additional 3 fresh to get anywhere, the last two were basically crap! Just take sometime out and decide what you need to do next xx

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