Well, yesterday was just awful. I was already feeling REALLY terrible and then the hospital called to tell us that they didn't have the proper paperwork?? And that because the thaw had already started that our embryo would DIE because we would still not be allowed to go through with the transfer!!!!!
I had the proper paperwork and I had already sent it to them. On the phone with them, I re-sent it. And then re-sent. And then again. Eight times. They were so rude and assumed I was just stupid and didn't know what sending an email meant. I said since we had the hard copies and digital files on a laptop that we would just bring them to the hospital, and they said that we weren't allowed to do that. After 90 minutes of this I started yelling "We have the papers! Just tell me what to do! What do I do? What do you want us to DO?!" And then of course they got mad. They called our doctor. He called us. He said "hey you know they really need you to send this documents." I said, "yes we already did, and then did so again this morning EIGHT times to every email address we have for them." He said "send them to me," so we did, and he got them, he says, "fine, come to the hospital." Then the hospital calls us back AGAIN, as if NONE OF THE OTHER CONVERSATIONS HAD HAPPENED and tried to explain to me like I was very, very stupid, if I could just please send them the paperwork. I basically had a mini nervous breakdown. Finally the doctor says to just come to the hospital and ignore them. We go. Yeah, it turns out their email system just wasn't working and they didn't realize it. They apologized, but still? Then my doctor basically humiliated me, trying to talk to my husband as an aside like I was some crazy lunatic. I hate everything. I want to divorce my husband. I'm staying in a hotel. Yes I had the transfer of a good looking blastocyst but I feel like no one, not even my doctor, was rooting for me. Like I just went through two straight months of hormones, egg collection, a failed transfer, and now this, which will probably be another failed one, for NOTHING. End rant. What a nightmare.
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Gosh! All I can say is I am so sorry this has happened today. No words, just know that I’m keeping everything crossed for you and that we on here are all rooting for you x
I'm so sorry this has happened to you! Some clinics can really act like robots not noticing that every patient has her own story and struggles. We are all here to support you during your 2WW. Keeping everything crossed for you ❤🤞
I'm so sorry you were treated this way. From my own experience, I know how poor service from the clinic/health practitioners can be enough to tip you over the edge! Do make a formal complaint if you feel up to it (hfea.gov.uk/contact-us/maki...
Otherwise, all the best with the tww. We are rooting for you!
i am so sorry you had to go through this, rooting for you..❣️❣️
What an absolute nightmare! You want transfer day to be as calm as possible and yours sounded the complete opposite. At least you now have your embryo where it belongs. Try have a relaxing TWW. Keeping everything crossed for you xx
Oh jeez, poor you. I'm sorry you had such a terrible day. It wasn't ideal, but you made it and Im keeping my fingers crossed for you. I hope you can make up with your husband if you think that might help in the 2ww? Xx
Wow, as if this whole IVF process isn't stressful enough! Even the smallest inconvenience is enough to throw you off at this delicate time so I can't imagine someone telling me they were going to discard my precious embryo because they couldn't get their shit together! I would have gone absolutely mental. So sorry this happened to you. Enjoy your hotel, treat yourself, eat something yummy, binge something cool, take a deep breath and shake the shit day off. Best of luck for your 2ww xxxx
This sounds like something that would happen to me. I always feel IVF has made my life a Kafkaesque nightmare. I admire how you got through such a terrible experience. I would go on Twitter and write about my experience in at least a 1000 messages tagging my clinic, HEFA and the doctor (and probably every other organisation slightly relevant to IVF) just to take revenge. But I guess that's not very healthy behavior. I just get so angry with the kind of nonsense these clinics get away with. And they way they patronise you! They're evil! Good luck and hang in there! Xxx
Honestly I really felt my sanity crack there for a second. To be told that they were going to discard our blastocyst! It was totally Kafkaesque. At least I'm chill now. xoxo
That’s so awful!! Seriously some of these clinics forget what they’re dealing with and how to be human…. So sorry you went through that but what a warrior for getting through it. Everything crossed 🤞 🤞💪🤗
Oh no, what a nightmare. Try to think positive and stay relaxed because stress does strange things to our bodies. Best of luck and congrats on the transfer xx
Jesus, what a bunch of c****. Sorry babe, this is awful. I could feel myself getting wound up just reading your description of events, nevermind living through it. You know what, fck 'em. All of them. Medicine is NOTORIOUS for treating women like shit. This wasn't personal and you won't, unfortunately, be the last woman they treat like this. You've got bigger things at play now. Focus on you and the little embryo firmly making itself at home. You'll be fine. You got this. And whenever you feel like devoting any spare energy to it, further down the line whatever happens, I'd submit a mega fckng formal complaint to the hospital clinical commissioning group. Best case scenario they don't pull this shit again, worst case scenario they get a bollocking and a fraction of the stress they caused you. Best of luck xo
Oh my God! best advise is to find your inner peace to try to calm down. eat something you like, what a movie.
Do it when you have a cool head, without the initial anger. the reason why i think a complaint should be made in this case is because EVERYONE always tells you that a big part of success is the woman's state of mind, to relax and not think about it. the fact that they told you not to even go even if you had all the documentation, does not seem normal to me. when they called you back, because the doctor should have told them that he had received the documentation, they should have asked him to resend it to them and asked you to apologize a thousand times or at least offered you possibilities of how to solve the problem.
Believe me I have worked for many years in front of the public and dealing with complaints, so I don't usually complain because we all make mistakes. However, I think your case is quite badly handled in a person who is going to undergo a treatment and needs to be relaxed.
I am crossing all the fingers and wishing you the best
thank you I hope it doesn't mean that my chances are ruined for this transfer. I booked myself into a hotel and will be here for two more nights just relaxing.
Oh god. So sorry to hear about this experience. This is absolutely awful! What is wrong with people?!?!? You think they would want to help and if an email wasn't coming through (even if you were unfortunately an absolute dinosaur who didn't really "get" email) to find an alternative and a way to move forward! Sometimes for clinics we really are just a number, and for us a cycle is absolutely everything. I'VE got my best thoughts put forward for this cycle for you and wishing you the best. Lots of love. xxxxxxx
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