Devastating 7 week scan

[Bobbins233218]

Been for our 7 week scan and we were told that the pregnancy has not progressed to where they would expect it to be by now. They are doing another scan next week to be sure but we know deep down that we are out! My mind has started racing, if it hasn’t grown…does that mean there is something wrong with the egg/sperm or is it just bad luck? Any one had any experience like this? So hard to just wait again. Any experiences greatly appreciated.

[LuxFleur]

Hi lovely, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know that some people get a scan showing slower than desired growth but then things turn out okay. But then there are the other times. We lost our daughter this spring who stopped developing at eight weeks. We ran tests and it was because she had a fatal trisomy, which was also when we learned her gender. We had initially gotten a good scan at around 7 weeks, with a strong heartbeat, but then it seemed she stopped around week 8 and I was induced to miscarry at week 10. It was one of the most devastating things I have ever gone through. We grieved a lot, but three months later are doing much better. We had more genetic tests done on ourselves but they all came back normal. It was just the usual—a random genetic abnormality that happened for no reason but bad luck. Genetically abnormal embryos are more common with older parents, but I'm sure you know that. It's the most common cause of a miscarriage like ours. I truly hope that things work out okay for you with this pregnancy, and it's good that they want to see you again in a week. If things don't turn out well, please feel free to reach out over DM any time. Xx

[Bobbins233218 in reply to LuxFleur]

Thanks for the reply and I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, glad your doing better now. It’s relief to hear there are tests we can try. Did your clinic sort this? Amazing that they can learn so much but it also seems so unfair that some of us have to go through this! Just feeling sorry for myself today…..Thanks so much for reaching out xx

[LuxFleur in reply to Bobbins233218]

Yes, our clinic recommended the tests, both for us and for her. They said that they don't always get a clear result when testing fetal tissue but with us we got a clear answer as to what went wrong. Then the tests on us, which were just blood tests but they weren't cheap. Hopefully you won't have to go through any of that! Totally normal to feel sorry for yourself so take it easy Xx

[Hidden]

So sorry to read this, this has happened to me a number of times. Whenever it happened I searched this site and often found good news stories where things turned out ok so there is still a chance, but sadly for me there was never a happy ending.

It doesn't necessarily mean there is anything wrong with eggs or sperm, it can be any number of reasons and usually means chromosomally this embryo wasn't quite right but that doesnt mean the next one won't be.. it can just be such horrible luck.

I have everything crossed its better news next week. If it isnt then definitely give yourself time to grieve as you have invested so much, but don't despair there are positives to be taken from this when the time is right to start thinking future again. Massive hugs xx

[Bobbins233218 in reply to Hidden]

So sorry you have been through this too. It’s so hard because no one knows what you are going through and to try to carry on like nothing is happening is exhausting! If only we knew if it would all be worth the pain in the end! Thank you for replying xx

[AuroraXen]

I haven't been where you are but I'm sending lots of love and hoping you get good news next week. It does happen 😘 But I can't imagine how worried you must be. Hopefully the days fly past so you'll know where you stand. Agree completely about finding it so hard to plaster on a smile and act like nothing is wrong 💔 x

[Bobbins233218 in reply to AuroraXen]

Thank you for your kind words xx

[Sea_tan]

Sending hugs. xx. Give yourself space and don't do any thing at this time that you don't wish to

[Ranchu90]

I am really sorry 😔 don't lose your hopes Stay strong 😘💕🤗