Not looking good for round 2 😢

[Emma672]

Well I’ve been woken up by the most ferocious period pains today. I’m 12DP3DT, we’ve said we’re not testing early and OTD is Friday. I don’t think there’ll be any need, Mother Nature is clearly going to show up. I’ve had cramps on and off since a couple of days after transfer but this is different, proper period pains. It’s our second fresh round, I’ve never had anything to freeze, and just the thought that this likely hasn’t worked and we’ve got it all to go through again from scratch is exhausting and heartbreaking. We’ve got 2 little embryos in there and I can’t tell you how much we want at least one of them to stick. Well you all know anyway, you all feel the same. I’ve been so good this time, I haven’t been crazy googling, I haven’t spent hours on here when I should be working like I did last time (which brings a whole heap more stress when you get so behind in your work). I knew this week would be difficult but now I can’t help but feel it’s over. I also know the show’s not over till you pee on a stick but honestly, I don’t have much hope left now. And I feel so sad.

[Millbanks]

You're definitely not out! I always wonder when people say they are getting period cramps before period showing up - would you get period cramps like that on a normal month? I only ever get period pains on the first full day of my cycle - so it seems odd that they would appear before... Maybe it's a good sign? Everything crossed for you xx

[Emma672 in reply to Millbanks]

Hi Millbanks, thank you for taking the time to reply to me and my pity party! Yes I do get period pains a few days before it arrives every month, probably another one of the joys of endometriosis. I’m getting a bit twitchy to test now but I promised my husband we’d wait until Friday so I suppose I’ll find out for definite then x

[Millbanks in reply to Emma672]

Aww you 100% deserve to have a pity party! But there's still hope - don't give up yet! xx

[leo1980]

Hi. Just sending you a massive hug! I know how you feel. I had a negative test day yesterday with 2x5 day blastocysts (average quality) and I just knew it didn’t work from about 2 days after the transfer. Unlike you I did google and spend far too much time on here ‘researching’. It’s all heartwrenching. Are you on progesterone support? Periods usually start when there is a drop on progesterone. Yours should be elevated/maintained. Maybe it’s just one of your embies settling in? Let’s just stay positive until Friday. Thinking otherwise will only serve to stress and upset you. Fingers crossed and sending you love ❤️

[Emma672 in reply to leo1980]

Thank you that’s really kind, I like the idea it’s one of them settling in ☺️ And I’m so sorry to hear about your result, it is awful and I feel for you. Yes I’m still on progesterone but I was last time and my period still arrived minutes after my BFN (even though I had had the pessaries the night before). I’ll keep my fingers crossed and hope Friday comes quickly x

[PenguinBlue]

I agree with the other comments, you’re not out yet. I had awful period like cramps before my positive test in Jan. I was so sure it was my period coming but I turned out to be pregnant. I know it’s so hard to remain positive but you’re almost there. Wishing you lots of luck xx

[Millbanks in reply to PenguinBlue]

Hi lovely, hope you're well - just wondering - would you normally have period cramps BEFORE your period starts? on a non IVF cycle? xx

[PenguinBlue in reply to Millbanks]

Hi millbanks! I’m good - how are you getting on in your cycle?

Yeah my periods have always been awful generally - I get slight back ache and cramps a day or two before so I know it’s on it’s way! It’s almost like a warning it’s coming 🙄 so I was fully expecting it in January but it never happened and I had the same back ache and period cramps all the way til 7-8 weeks! Xx

[Emma672 in reply to PenguinBlue]

Thank you PenguinBlue, I’ll keep you and your period pains in mind (!) until I test on Friday, and fingers crossed it turns out like yours did 🤞Congratulations on your result. I know not to get too worked up about symptoms or lack of them during the TWW, I learned a lot from our last round in November, but sometimes it just gets on top of you doesn’t it x

[Miracle43]

Hey lovely, please try, hard I know to stay positive. You’re not out yet. Fingers crossed and lots of baby dust xx