AF’s untimely arrival

[kelsbels88]

Hi all,

It’s just a short one really how do you all deal with her arrival?

I’m struggling emotionally at the moment and I’m not in a position to do anything like counselling.

I just wondered if anyone had any simple little tips.

Hope you’re all well wherever you are in your journeys

Thank you 😊

[XOXO13]

In the early days after my miscarriage, I dreaded my period turning up as it reminded me so much of everything I’d lost. I’d cry, be angry and I’d generally be emotionally exhausted. I allowed myself to be as well, it’s what I felt.

I started to treat myself after a while.. if it shows up, I’d indulge in yummy food I’d otherwise avoid when on this journey like lots of chocolate, sometimes I buy myself something that makes me happy like a new lippy or even just a book. Other times I just allow myself a pj day watching my favourite movies or binge watching something on Netflix. I always do a nice hair mask or face mask and over indulge my skin as it gets really dry and I just like a pamper day or two for myself! I do whatever basically to look after myself and allow myself to feel a bit rubbish.

Then the next day after it’s started, I try to remind myself that it’s a new month and therefore a fresh start. It’s gotten easier over the year, and now I’ve started IVF I see a new cycle as a step closer to starting another IVF cycle so I’m trying to continuously look forward which also helps a little. Of course there are tough days, but I allow them too.

Hope those ideas help a little xx

[Sunshine809]

It definitely is such a hard time - so disappointing 😔 I always have a lovely glass of wine and something nice to eat to treat myself, take it easy, but try to watch cheerful programmes on the tv and not wallow in the sadness too much.

I also try to see it as the beginning and not the end. The start of my next cycle, the cycle which might work this time. Another chance to have a baby. It is very hard to stay positive but each month is another precious month to try again, and as soon as my period is over I'm focused on the 'trying' again xx

[kelsbels88]

Thank you both for your replies I am feeling a little better today I just end up so angry at my body for what it doesn’t seem to be able to do.

Thank you so much xx