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Need prayers or positive stories


So apologies firstly for the essay!

I had my egg collection on Tuesday. All went well and was so pleased to hear that they had managed to collect 12 eggs. My scan the Friday before had only shown 6-8 eggs so I was overjoyed to find they had got more. Hubby’s spent sample was perfect and the embryologist’s parting words to us were “we’re in a really good position”

Now onto Wednesday and the call came with the bad news that only 3 eggs had fertilised. I am devastated. I couldn’t stop crying. Now don’t get me wrong, I never expected all 12 to fertilise but I expected a little more than a 1/4. Is this normal? This is our first IVF cycle so we really didn’t know what to expect.

I’m so worried for the call tomorrow to tell us IF any of the 3 fertilised ones have made it to day 3 and what sort of quality they are. This is torture. I really don’t know how I’m going to cope if it’s game over. I know it only takes 1 but I can’t help but prepare myself for the worst. Has anyone else experienced similar and it all worked out in the end?

No wonder they call this journey a rollercoaster! It really is 😢

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Hey, I’m so sorry you’re so upset with your first round. Honestly, I was exactly the same. When I had my first round in the summer, I had 12 eggs collected, only 5 mature and only 3 fertilised and I was so devastated so I completely get how you feel. In that cycle, on day 3 all 3 were progressing well and on day 5, 2 of them were at the right blasto they needed to be at for transfer. Unfortunately the one transferred did not stick but I’ve still got one frostie!

Like many women in here will tell you, it only takes one! So I hope you’re also going to end up with some good ones come day 5. 🤞🏽🤞🏽

Just to let you know I’m in the middle of my second fresh cycle - they changed my protocol and I’ve retrieved 20 eggs, of which 14 were mature and 10 fertilised so there is a lot to be said for the protocol you’re on as well! What protocol did you have this cycle?

So although my story isn’t the most positive, I hope you find some consolation that of the 3 which fertilised I ended up with 2 good quality embryos.

It’s a horrible horrible journey but you are strong. Good luck for your day 3 call xxx

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I was on long protocol, so 200IU of menopur.

I’m so sorry your first fresh transfer didn’t stick but it does give me some hope that you had 2 good ones so that’s positive.

Good luck on with your second fresh cycle 🤞🏻 I hope this is the one for you xx

Yes, keep all those positive thoughts for those 3 embryos! Keep me posted on how you get on with your day 3 call xxx

Hey, I haven’t had the same as you but on my first round I had 8 eggs collected and none fertilised. My husbands sperm sample was great too but they said they didn’t survive long enough to fertilise which they couldn’t test for ahead of the cycle.

Have your clinic explained why they think fertilisation was low? Did your husband produce sample at home because of COVID or at clinic?

I can completely relate to how you’re feeling as i was not prepared at all for bad news at that stage and it hit us both really hard.

I really hope it works out and you get to embryo transfer stage. We have changed to ICSI on round 2 so help fix fertilisation so if the worst happens, know that you have options! Stay strong, you have 3 at the moment so you still have chance this time xxx

Thank you for replying. No they haven’t explained why but I think it’s something I will ask tomorrow. My husband took the call as I was at work. He said that the clinic told him with some of the eggs, 2 sperm had penetrated them so they were non viable. My husband produced his sample on the day at the clinic.

I’m just keeping everything crossed for good news tomorrow. Good luck to you for round 2! 🤞🏻🤞🏻 xx

Keeping everything crossed for you too. Good luck 🤞

Hi so sorry to hear how you're feeling. I can totally understand how nerve wracking it is waiting for updates and seeing the numbers drop. I had 10 eggs collected and only 3 fertilised, I was so nervous about none making it to transfer. But all 3 made it to day 5 and two were top grades. It is all about quality rather than quantity as everyone says! With 3 you're definitely still in a good place. Fingers crossed that your day 3 call is a good one and that they're all progressing well 🤞 Lots of luck xx

Thank you. I really hope so. You have given me hope ❤️ xx

I had less than half fertilise, and so was expecting to lose another half at each stage but I didn’t. They almost all made it to blast! They said it wasn’t usual for it to happen that way round, normally more would fertilise and then drop off whilst developing but mine was just the other way round! Yours might be too. It’s so hard not to worry and be disappointed or even angry, especially when there is nothing we can do to change it. I hope you have 3 really good ones! It only takes one though xx

I hope so too. Keeping everything crossed for today 🤞🏻 xx

Just wanted to send you a big virtual hug and say thinking of you today for your update call and hope your embryos are doing great so far! All the best 🤞🥰

Wish you all the best. You will get the good news you expect.

I had 15 egg 9 fertilise,and 5 made it day5 and 3 were normal to transfer so don't worry we can't stop to think but pray hard everything goes well,good luck for next call 😘😘😘

I had 11 eggs and all got fertilized but I couldn’t get normal tested one.. you only need one xx

Hiya. Please try and stay positive. I got 19 eggs collected only 9 fertilised. 3 survived but only 1 was good enough to transfer, none could be frozen. I thought my odds were so low but it really does only take 1 lucky one. My 1 good embryo is now a 4 year boy lying next to me so try and stay positive 😊. Im sending you luck.

Hi thank you so much for replying. So update yesterday was that all 3 are still doing ok and dividing as they should. Now we wait till Sunday, (day 5) transfer day. The nurse did say that it is possible to loose 50% from day 3-5 so I’m just keeping my fingers crossed we have at least 1 strong enough to survive and be transferred 🤞🏻🤞🏻 xx

Hello darling, wanted to wish you the best of luck for tomorrow’s transfer! 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀✨✨✨✨✨🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️Sending love and baby dust!

Thank you xx

I just wanted to wish you all the best for your transfer day tomorrow!! I really do hope it is good news! 🥰🤞

Thank you xx


We got through our first round pretty similar, we have 12 collected, and again only 4 made it to day 5 embryos! Unfortunately our first round didn’t go to plan but we are on a frozen cycle now, so hopefully it will work out better, just remember it’s quality over quantity and it only takes 1 ❤️❤️

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