Is it time to call it quits?

Hi everyone, so I haven’t been active for a few years but I’ve had more rounds of IVF and it hasn’t worked. Our 3bb 4th transfer hasn’t worked as I tested this morning 10dp5dt only because I got the dreaded brown discharge. We have no money left and a hole in our hearts again for the lead up to Christmas.

My hubby was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease last year and so we had to use donor sperm. I’m 33 and they retrieved 10 eggs yet only 1 fertilised with the donor sperm. There is clearly an issue with my eggs/fertility too.

Every time we receive a negative result it’s like torture. So upset xx

[Orla9298]

I’m so sorry to hear about your last transfer. It is just so cruel. Only you can know if it is time to call it quits as only you know as what lengths are acceptable to you and what is within reach. Every round you go through is expensive and hard mentally.

You could consider double donor, maybe abroad? If they really do think you have an egg issue too. This can be relatively inexpensive in some countries for double donor, I think I’ve seen Prague, Russia and Ukraine offer donor embryos or double donor. To pursue double donor in the U.K. (if that’s where you’re based) is pretty expensive.

Give yourself a week or so to process this round first before you can really process how you may feel about next steps xx

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Thank you for your kind words xx

[louladxb]

Hey Pandora, i am so sorry, its just the most awful feeling. I have been right were you are many times and it's bloody tough

I completely agree with Orla9298, only you know when its time and also its worth exploring other options abroad. I know its expensive and difficult to get your head around, but you have time.

Right now you need cuddles, cups of tea (or wine) feel your lose because its very real. When you are ready jump back on here and there will be so many warriors here to help with your next steps whatever they will be xxx

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Thank you! It’s the hardest thing and never gets easier. Yes, I think there must be an issue with my eggs too. Our 3rd ICSI cycle gave us 15 eggs and none was viable to transfer by day 3. That’s when the clinic decided that donor sperm is our best option. That hasn’t worked either xx