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So after seeing a strong heartbeat at 7weeks, I was feeling much happier. My world has just come crushing in around me at 9+3, to be told my baby died earlier in the week. I still feel pregnant, have already started showing, nauseous etc.

Got to wait for EPU to ring tomorrow.

Utterly heartbroken xx

UPDATE earliest appointment is next Monday for D&C. Counting down the days. Thanks for all the lovely words of support 😘

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PurplePiggie profile image
PurplePiggie

So sorry that this has happened, life can be so bloody cruel. Sending you lots of love xx

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ChloeL934

So so sorry. Sending lots of love x

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JenRoy

That’s just so awful. I’m so sorry. How utterly devastating 😢. Sending hugs x

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Ivf2020A

I am so sorry to hear that hun x sending you my love hun xx

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LizzieBW

I'm so sorry for your loss. Absolutely heartbreaking xx

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CLDxxx

I’m so sorry lovely. Sending love to you and here if you need a chat 💕xxx

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Cinderella5

Gosh I'm so, so sorry honey!! Life is so bloody cruel.😪💔 xxx

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CAS2

So very sorry love 💕

So very sorry x heartbreaking xx sending lots of love x

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PenguinBlue

Oh I’m so sorry lovely, that is so heartbreaking. Sending lots of hugs xxx

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FrancyItaly

I am so sorry to hear that, it’s heartbreaking 💔 if you want to talk pm me x

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Shirazlover2013

I’m so sorry, just so cruel 😭😩. Sending love and very tight hugs xxoo

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RhinoCat

Oh sweet lord, I know this Pain and do not wish it on anyone 😖 I’m so sorry you have experienced this too . Such a hard journey . I found out at 10 W 2 days..... it’s horrible. I had surgical management Two weeks ago and need to go back to the epu.

My advice is to take time off work and cry when you need to , sleep

When you need to and try to accept what is going on. You will cry so much but In two weeks should start to turn a corner.

Love and hugs.

I’m in the same pain.

Message if you need to

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Shazb123

So sorry to hear this. Life can be so unfair. Sending you love x

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Jessy1280

I'm so sorry. The same happened to me last Xmas. I can't say it gets easier with time but I live in hope I'll get my take home baby soon. The first few weeks are the hardest to deal with. Try and get pregnancy loss counselling if you can or support through the fertility network. Even though it was my first ever loss, I insisted on testing with epu to discover the cause. Not sure if it helped but it made me feel at ease knowing it wasnt genetic. I also was lucky enough to get genetic counselling. Take time to grieve and reach out if you need to xx

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hifer

Oh hun I’m so so sorry. This has happened to me twice. I have had 2 mmc where I had a heartbeat at 6/6.5 weeks and then lost it between 7 and 9 weeks. It is devastating!! I’m so so sorry that you’re going through this and I understand. Xx

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MissSaoPaulo

I'm so sorry dear, it's not fair, it really isn't. Sending big hugs xxx

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Zaazee

So sorry to hear about your loss. Sending you hugs xx

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Blue1978

So deeply sorry to hear this 😢 Life can truly be a bitch sometimes for sure. Sending huge hugs your way 🤗 X

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Anipea

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. Sending you big hugs xxxx

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Positivevibe

I feel you girl ! I went thru the same damn thing ! You will be fine . Don’t worry 😕

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Olivia11

I am so sorry, so devastating 💔😥

That's not fair is it getting your hopes up like that only to find out no you're not having a baby after all!

It's one thing that drives me nuts is when I am led to believe I am getting something and then the door is slammed in my face at the last minute as no I am not!

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Chimdike

So sorry for your loss and take heart. May God console your heart.

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Rainbowdreams82

I’m so so sorry reading this. Just so cruel 💔😔hope you’re doing ok. Sending hugs. Have lots of time to rest & process it. All here for you xxx

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Downonthefarm

That is so sad. My heart goes out to you. Xx

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Core

So so sorry to hear this sending big hugs must be devastating xx

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Hartley1

This isn't fair :( Thinking of you xxx

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Mary80

My dear sorry 🙏 for your loss. You will fall pregnant again so start getting your body ready. God will see you through in Jesus name Amen

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L2213

I’m so so sorry to hear this and just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you. The same thing happened to me a few weeks ago and it’s just devastating. Take time to grieve your little one, they were special and they mattered, it’s so unfair they were taken too soon. Look after yourself sending you hugs, if you ever want to talk feel free to message xxxx

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Ayesha1601

Sending you so much love. Sometimes they come into your life leave a little kiss and then go but they were yours. You were blessed even for a moment. Take and be kind to yourself xxxx

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Picalilli99

Oh god I’m so sorry to hear this. Absolutely heartbreaking 💔 Sending love and hugs xxxx

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BettyBe

So so sorry to hear that!! Life can be very cruel and unfair indeed. Sending you lots of love and hugs 💖 xx

So sorry to hear this sending you lots of love take care of yourself we are all here whenever you need us xx 😘

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shaolin2010

Oh I am so sorry to hear this..this is absolutely heartbreaking. Sending you so much love xxx

Im so sorry Celloheggy. This is by far the most horrible heartache a woman can experience. Sending you alot of love and i hope your treatment. Its so unfair. X

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LCharlton

So so so sorry you are going through this xxxx

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lizzybee81

I’m so sorry, there are no words. We’re all terrified and holding our breath, thank you for sharing it’s a subject that needs to be talked about more. Can I ask why you had a scan at 9 weeks, I’m 8+4 now and don’t have even my 12 week scan date yet, I’ve never been more anxious in my life. Big big hugs and love to your family

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Celloheggy in reply to lizzybee81

For reassurance 🤦🏼‍♀️. That didn’t really work out. Really, good luck with your pregnancy xxx

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TexasRose210

I'm sorry for your loss 💔

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flutterby44

So sorry you are going through this xx

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Corchi

I’m so sorry 😐 I’m praying for you and sending you courage and love in this difficult time 😔

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Westielover16

So sorry for your loss and sending loads of love.

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Green-elephants

So sorry this happened to you ♡ sending lots of love and hugs xxx

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Lisichka

I’m truly sorry for your loss. This is horrible and so unfair. Sending love and hugs xxx

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Hopingmommy2b

So very sorry to read this. I know this feels cruel and unfair and simply heartbreaking...but take time to process and grieve and most importantly - be easy on yourself. Sending you lots of love.

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andre70348

I'm so sorry!! I recently had a missed miscarriage, went for my 12 week scan to be told that there was no heartbeat and the baby had stopped growing at 9+1. This was 4 weeks ago, I had a medical management 3 weeks ago. Its heartbreaking, I'm thinking of you and sending lots of love!! X

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Celloheggy in reply to andre70348

I’m sorry you’ve had a rough time too. Not being allowed to take my husband with me makes it even worse. I’m going to ask for surgical management, I have an Ivf toddler, I couldn’t possibly do medicated with her at home. There is a senior nurse in tomorrow who can do something similar to surgical but under local anaesthetic. I might go with that, I just want this over. Xxx

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andre70348 in reply to Celloheggy

Apologies I opted for a surgical management because the thought of being home terrified me. I completely understand having a toddler you wouldn't want that!! Yeah I was the same, and luckily managed to get a slot. I wasnt sure if I could have it because of covid numbers rising. (I was under general) it was difficult my partner not being able to come through with me. But the one silver lining was that the nurses were amazing! My body still thought I was pregnant, I was and still am hormonal and struggling with my body.

I am here to listen whenever!! Xx

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Celloheggy in reply to andre70348

The nurse I spoke to today was lovely and said they would do everything they could to support me.

I’m so angry with my body for not realising and playing tricks on me.

Pleased you’re doing ok. I’m never normally hormonal, I hate being emotional. 🤦🏼‍♀️I might try some reflexology to try sort myself out xxx

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andre70348 in reply to Celloheggy

Yeah same!! This was my 1st pregnancy and we had been trying over 2.5yrs and were going down the icsi route aswell. That was my reasoning for choosing the surgical management, I didnt want to wait any longer!

Good idea for reflexology, I'm going to try do some yoga and see if it may help! Xx

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Abs37

Oh sweetheart, that’s so cruel I’m so sorry xx

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Freckles80

My thoughts are with you. I’m so sorry for your loss. Xxx

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Libsie3103

I’m so so sorry to hear this, it’s such a tough journey. We had a MMC with twins last year and it’s heartbreaking. Please take things a day at a time, look after yourself and talk to people if you can. Thinking of you & always happy to chat if it would help xxx

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Dorekhani

I m really very sorry for ur loss... I haven't words to share your pain.. Just praying for you🙏🙏may Allah grant u full happiness very soon amin

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GLASTONBERRY

So sorry to hear that no words csn comfort you right now. Sending you lots of love

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Daughterofaking

So sorry to hear this. Take heart. .xx

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JanuaryOrchard

I'm sorry to hear this, and wish you a gentle recovery.

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Baby1985

That's heartbreaking, I'm so sorry x

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joey81

Im sorry to hear this hun. But all of us on hear are stronger than we think. We go through such roller coasters, and we pick ourselves up everytime. Stay strong and get through this, the way you know you can. I pray you are blessed soon. Chin up xx

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