9dp5dt

[Orla9298]

😔 our first surrogate transfer hasn’t worked, we tested at 6dp and now 9dp with FMU on FRER.

It was our best embryo of our four so that makes me panic to have 3 left of lower quality. We have gone through so much to get here that losing the best on panics me.

Our surrogate is great and is happy to go again in November. My mind always looks ahead and I’m already panicking about whether I need to start banking more embryos.

Not sure about the point of this post, I’m absolutely petrified that we will never be parents after years of torment and after substantially reducing our savings and disposable income for the last 5 years.

So all embryos with my own eggs and husbands sperm failed in me (x6) Both embryos (x2) from donor eggs (my friends) and husbands sperm failed in me, even though my friend got pregnant the very moment she tried, and now a 3AB embryo using my sisters eggs and my husbands sperm failed in a surrogate?? Our surrogate had no miscarriages and got pregnant easily and immediately with all 3 of her boys.

Even though we have been through Dr Ramsay to address mild sperm issues and supposedly his sperm is ok, is my husband maybe the common factor??? He’s 44.

Urgh I hate the unknown and the fact I’m already panicking about what we will do after we use these remaining embryos.

[Lowamh]

Sorry it hasn’t worked Orla. Don’t worry about those other 3 though, they were good enough to freeze and they have a chance. Mine weren’t good quality and they worked x

[Tweeteaha]

Is this post transfer or post collection?

[Orla9298 in reply to Tweeteaha]

Post transfer of blast

[MrsH17]

Sorry it hasn’t worked this time. I wouldn’t focus on the quality too much. I know it’s easier said than done but being on ivf boards and having friends that have done the treatment I have seen so many times that poor quality embryos have made it when the good ones haven’t.

I agree I hate the unknown too and the lack of control but we have to accept that is the way for us and try and get on with our lives as much as we can without focusing on it. This is from a control freak 🙈

Don’t give up hope. Your surrogate sounds amazing xxx

[Orla9298 in reply to MrsH17]

She is! I’m just totally paranoid now that it’s my husbands sperm 😥

[MrsH17 in reply to Orla9298]

My husband has low sperm and morphology... we had icsi and I am pregnant again 😊 they are made it to blastocyst and the thawing process before implanted

Ask her if she would mind

Keeping her feet warm

A shot of Pom juice daily

Lots of water

And low salt xxz

[Chel91]

So sorry it didn't work this time hun, it's so disappointing! Glad you'll be able to try again quite soon though. Sometimes the best looking ones aren't the best genetically, hopefully the others will be totally fine and stick 💕🤞 xxx

[Shirazlover2013]

I’m so sorry this transfer didn’t work out. The unknown is awful 😝 I wish we could get answers. There’s every chance this one was just unlucky, but I understand it’s hard to believe that after all the previous failures. You sound like you go through the same thought processes as I do, planning 2 steps ahead whilst trying to solve the greatest riddle of all. It’s great your surrogate is keen to go again in November though, that’s good news to hold on to xx

[Ash2016]

So sorry to hear this Orla, that's heartbreaking. After our failed cycle earlier this year we had dna frag test on husband's sperm and his results were v bad. Even with that dr thought that a good egg would help repair the damage and wasn't adverse to donor eggs and his sperm as opposed to double donor. Would be worth having that conversation with your Dr though I think just to get view based on new info from this cycle. The other thing is whether to consider getting the remaining embryos tested, if that's possible so you have a bit more info. Good luck x

[jengi]

Oh how disappointing for you all. Is it your surrogates first attempt at going through the process? Maybe next time she’ll be more relaxed as she’ll be more familiar with everything. As we know it can be very overwhelming. Nov will be here before you know it! Don’t get too hung up on quality, I’ve read plenty of success stories on here with similar quality. Best of luck & stay positive Xx

[Cinderella5]

Oh I missed this Orla. I'm so sorry that it hadnt worked out this time.😔 I know it's hard but remember we have seen other ladies have success with some of their lower quality embryos when failed with the really good ones. Hang on in there lovely.xxx

[Hidden]

Im so sorry Orla. It might have been the embryo or just bad luck (literally the words my consultant used and i know its not much) so glad to read she is willing to try again. Stay strong lovely. Sending hugs.

[Lilly12255]

Hi Orla, this is heart-breaking. Did you get to the bottom of whether your husband sperm was the problem? Xx

[Orla9298 in reply to Lilly12255]

Hey, not really, as our next embryo has worked. But these embryos were made with icsi with his best sperm sample after antibiotics, and no booze or caffeine for 3 months. The first embryo seems to have been bad luck as it was a 5ab or 5bb (can’t remember) and now the 3bb has worked 🤷🏽‍♀️.

It’s the worst feeling in the world when you’re trying to grasp at finding out what can be the issues. All I can say is stick with it!xx