FET failed

[Iwanttobeamom]

Hello, Yesterday was my 10 post Embryo transfer and I went for my HCG BETA and it was negative. <1 to be exact. I couldn't wait and went in one day early from the date my doctor has recommended. I am devastated and hurt , I honestly thought all starts were lined up for us. Not sure what to do now.

[Sas1101]

I'm so sorry. It's so devastating 😔 Be kind to yourself and treat yourself to something amazing. Sending massive virtual hugs. Xxx

[Hidden]

Its just devastating when you get a BFN. Take some time to grieve for what might have been and have all of those things you weren't allowed in the run up. You will have a follow up appointment and your consultant will talk you through what worked and what didnt and what you could try next time. I always think the first round is the tester and your body is learning what to do... you never know next round might be the one xx

[Kkbx]

It really is devastating. I remember my 1st failed IVF. I was an emotional wreck. I had a follow up appointment a few days after getting My BFN and they didn’t know what had gone wrong. I had 16 eggs collected only ended up with one suitable for a transfer. I also had to do a FET due to high estrogen😩 I soon got back up and tried again. Actually on my 3rd round now - due for my transfer tomorrow so fingers crossed🤞🏼 Please don’t be disheartened by the first results.

[Twiglet2]

So sorry to hear this 😢 nothing we can do or say can make it better but a lot of us know exactly how bad it feels. Thinking of you xx

[feminist]

I am so sorry to hear this. I know exactly how it feels as have been through two negative transfers. Try to be kind to yourself, it is absolutely devastating but you will get through it. xxx

[Luna_79]

So sorry to hear this, it’s so hard , like others have said take time to grieve. It’s so heartbreakingly disappointing , I found the follow up app helpful and helped me refocus my mindset to try again but you will know when you’re ready. In the meantime take care of you xx

[Simz143]

Please be kind to yourself, I had a negative hcg beta and it was my first ivf cycle. I was devastated and angry but I am determined to try again once I am ready. It gets easier each day. They say the first cycle is usually a tester to see what protocol and meds work for you etc and others well they just get lucky straightaway. Take some time to yourself and stay positive x

[Hope76]

Am so sorry to read this, having had 3 x BFN’s well I know how devastating it is. My way of dealing with it was always to push on with the next shot and asking lots of questions at follow up appts. I can recommend ubiquinol for quality if you are not already taking it. I have taken it this cycle and for first time in 5 years of IVF got a top grade (grade 1) embryo, transferring tomorrow am hoping this is the one as it’s our last ever go with my own eggs x

[Jols in reply to Hope76]

Hi Hope, how long did you take ubiquinol for? Thank you

[Hope76 in reply to Jols]

I say the longer the better. I started January this year as was meant to start cycle April but cancelled due to covid. I had a short break then got more and kept taking it up to my rescheduled cycle which started in July.

[Georgie17]

I am so sorry. See what can be learnt from this attempt and I hope you find the strength to try again xx

[Libsie3103]

I’m so sorry to hear this my 3rd transfer failed this week and even though I’ve had one failed transfer before and 1 MMC it doesn’t get any easier. Give yourself some time as others have said and do some of the things you enjoy. I promise it does get easier with time and you’ll be able to pick yourself up and go again just give yourself time to grieve xx

[Libsie3103 in reply to Libsie3103]

Also, just to say I’m not sure if this was your first cycle but the clinic can learn a lot from your first cycle so may suggest changes and tweaks to future cycles xx

[Peanutchips]

Oh lovely, I’ve been where you are and so can understand a bit of what you’re feeling. It’s so devastating when you’ve put so much effort into trying. Take time to look after yourself and grieve the loss. You will get through this. Lots of hugs xxx

[AAT127]

Please be kind to your self and please believe that it will happen at the correct timing sooner or later ..