Hi everyone I hope you are all well. I haven’t posted for a bit but today I got heartbreaking news that our little beans heartbeat had stopped we are absolutely devastated. 💔 We had a scan last Friday and were measuring 9.2mm a week behind and hadn’t had much growth from previous scan the Friday before at 7.1mm but were told all was well and that baby would catch up then discharged from our clinic. I wasn’t too happy about that as I knew something wasn’t right so payed for a private scan today and my fears were confirmed baby was still showing same measurements from my scan last week and had no heartbeat. I know what has happened was unavoidable but I feel something should of been picked up last week or they should of kept me on and given me a scan to check everything this week especially given I’ve been behind ect. I will be voicing all this when we have a review as we are not happy but for now we are going to get through this hard time and try an heal as best we can.
Sorry for the long post I had to get it all out and if anyone has any advice on this I’d be grateful, thanks you all for your support ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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I'm so, so sorry. Such awful news for you both 😔 I think your clinic were very wrong not to offer you another scan as I'm sure it would have helped having their support even if it couldn't have changed the outcome. I wish I could say something to take the pain away but I know that there's nothing other than the strength between you and your partner that can help right now. I'm sure some ladies here will have experienced the same and can share their experiences with you too.
It's so unfair and undeserved. Sending love and light your way ❤️
Kurstx I’m so sorry to see this 😢 I wish I had the words to make it better for you, I don’t have any advice to give but just wanted to say I’m thinking of you. Sending you a big hug xxx
Almost the exact same thing happened on my first cycle - baby was measuring small but clinic said all was fine and discharged me only for it really not to be fine by my next scan so I understand how you feel ☹️.
At the time I thought they had made an honest mistake, but it does still annoy me, we expect them to know better and to provide accurate info, I think if there is a heartbeat they just try to stay positive and send you on your way.
It’s such a tough thing to go through, sending you strength as you and your partner navigate your way through this. So sorry for your loss ❤️ x
Thank you ❤️ I just feel the doctor that seen me that day was very quick at shooting my concerns down, I knew there should of been more than 2mm growth in 7 days. no one could of stopped what happened but there had been signs last week at that scan that even my partner questioned! So sorry you had a similar experience 💔 xx
Hi kurstx as this a big loss and I suffer myself through this 2 years ago and it was a big phisical and psychological shock and hope you and your partner stay strong and God Almighty will must reward you after this pain and loss and then you will forget this loss maybe and may God bless you every woman who is trying including me.
Regards
Im so sorry reading this. Im short for words. Stay strong ❤️ and i pray you have your peace with this soon and can move on. X
I’m so sorry for this incredible pain. I have been here many a time and know it all too well. Try and keep occupied (granted that’s hard to do now) and take your time to cry and grieve and I wish you courage and light and love xx
Thank ❤️ I’ve not had much contact with my clinic won’t until I get my review but my EPU have been great and told us that it’s mostly down to abnormalities my yolk sac was showing large in earlier scans too then it wasn’t there yesterday so that could of been an indication but sometimes they just can’t pinpoint why this happens unfortunately xx
Oh Kurstx I'm so deeply sorry. This is so devastating news and you are completely right to feel annoyed with your clinic. You needed more checks to make sure everything was okay. ❤🙏
I'm so sorry to read this and for your loss, we had lost our angel at 9 weeks not to long ago, so I can relate to how you must be feeling. 😪I do think your clinic shouldn't have discharged you even though they couldn't have done anything but their supportive words would have been welcoming. Sending you lots of love and hugs xx
That's really difficult...take your time to be upset...defy voice your concerns at the review...very unsympathetic of the clinic. I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. Thinking of you xxx
I’m so sorry. This has happened to me too and it’s the worst 💔 though were offered another scan a week later at our clinic and this was where they said was a mmc. I would definitely raise your concerns about that side of it with your clinic when you feel ready. Take care of yourself and allow your heart and body time to heal. Sending love 💕xx
So so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you at this difficult time. Sorry your clinic weren't more supportive and you are in your rights to bring this up to them. Be kind to yourself in this time of grief. Sending lots of love and hugs. xxxx
So sorry for you're loss I think you should have been scanned as an emergency due to small growth this is happen to often now its not on and the doctor should all no this sends lots of he gs to you both. Xx
I am so sorry to hear this. For reference I had a MMC and my clinic were very clear that their job was to get me pregnant and it was EPU who should pick up from there and not their role to help me with any progress scans etc.
Thank you ❤️ so sorry for your loss it’s such a hard thing to go through. I just feel numb and that my clinic have been really insensitive last week with my concerns it should of been obvious to them pregnancy was in trouble after a 2mm growth in 7 days and still showing behind but yet they convinced me I was fine and got me signed off with false hope 😢 xx
Thank you ❤️ I was crying when I seen your devastating news absolutely heartbreaking 💔 you are right tho we will overcome this 💪🏼 if you need anything I’m here for you ❤️❤️❤️ xxxx
Same here ❤️I’m here for you too! I’m having the surgical removal tomorrow morning and I hope I will feel better after, I can’t bear the fact that my dead baby is still inside me 😢it’s killing me 😢how are you managing this? X
Thank you ❤️ I wanted a surgical removal but unfortunately my hospital is only doing emergency surgeries due to coronavirus. I opted for mva under local but I couldn’t go through with it as I was terrified and felt pain before it started. Im now going through medical management which I didn’t want either and it’s not quite went as it should have not much has happened since my 4 pills yesterday I feel like I’m being tortured waiting for it all to happen 😢 I’m going to call hospital tomorrow morning for advice on what we do next as if it’s not hard enough. I feel the exact same as you and it’s killing me 😢💔 xx
I hope so too as this is dragging on for to long I feel mentally and physically exhausted now. Thinking of you today I hope all goes as well as it can for you ❤️❤️❤️ xxxx
Oh Kurst I’m so so sorry 😔 this is so hard as it is without the torment being prolonged.
Just wanted to say when I had medical management, I had the pills on the Monday - same as you. I started to bleed lightly and had some pains but it wasn’t until the Weds evening things started to really happen for me.
Unfortunately for me, I had 3 nights of bad pain which only eased once I passed clots etc - I was further along than you so I imagine this is why.
I’m hoping for you things start to happen today/tonight and you can start to move forward.
I found hot water bottles agitated my pain so I used ice wrapped in a flannel instead which did help. Just an idea xx
Thinking of you and I’m here if you need a chat ❤️xxxx
Thank you ❤️ I really hope so too, this wouldn’t of been my choice of managment so i feel it’s more mentally draining on me it’s just so unfair 😢 thank you for your support means a lot ❤️❤️❤️ xxxx
It is really unfair 😥 Unfair this happened and unfair you’re having to choose this method.
I completely understand how draining it is and with things how they are at the moment, it will be hard to look forward.
But my lovely you will get through this, it will just take time & with every emotion you have which will also drain you but will help too. So make sure you cry, talk, scream, sit in silence at times too. Do what you need.
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