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It’s a girl...for my little sister.

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Today – as I was struggling with terrible period cramps on the first day of my cycle – my little sister messaged me to let me know she’s having a baby girl. It was a punch in the gut to hear she was pregnant (with her second child) at Christmas, and getting this update today somehow felt even more devastating. I want to be happy for her. And I know I will love this baby girl. But today I just feel broken 💔

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Bizzlebee26

Awh Hun I’m sorry your struggling today, I completely understand how you feel, my sister in law announced she was pregnant out of nowhere in Jan just after my first cycle failed and I was totally broken hearted! It’s so much harder when it’s someone so close to you. I can’t really offer much help, but just wanted to say your not alone, stay strong! 💪🏻 😘

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cggregory in reply to Bizzlebee26

Thanks so much for your support, love ❤️ My sister and my three best friends all announced their pregnancies in a span of 4 months (whilst I was undergoing treatment). Most of the time I can cope but some days it’s so overwhelming. It’s good to know I’m not alone!

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FrancyItaly

I’m so sorry to hear this. I know it must be a very hard position to be in. I’m struggling for pregnant friends on their first pregnancy, I can only imagine how hard it must be for you! I send you a hug and hope you’ll get a happy news of your own too soon x

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cggregory in reply to FrancyItaly

Thank you so much, lovely ❤️

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Patches86

I’m in the same boat! I’m trying to remind myself that her pregnancy doesn’t influence my journey. But it is just hard, and unfair, and all those terrible emotions!

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cggregory in reply to Patches86

We’re in this together ❤️

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Italy300618

I can totally relate with you, it's ok for it to knock you so hard and feel broken from it. I try to cope with it all too, I'm going to visit my best friends new born on thursday, her 2nd child in 2 years , and I'm petrified, but you can only feel what you feel and know that you arent alone and we are all here for you xxxxx

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cggregory in reply to Italy300618

Thank you so much, love ❤️ And I’m sorry you’re going through this, too.

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Mara84

So sorry dear... it’s not easy to see others get pregnant easily when we are struggling... Of course you will love the baby, it’s just not easy to deal with our emotions sometimes.

Sending you lots of love. Xx

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cggregory in reply to Mara84

Thank you so much ❤️

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Lots8788

You're not alone my lovely. My two closest friends who didn't have children already had their first babies last year a month apart, and my little sister is due this month with her 1st. My boss is also pregnant. Its hard as you're so happy for them and I cannot wait to meet our 3rd little neice (hubbys sister has 2 girls already) but it doesn't stop the yearning for having your own. But we are all in this together and here to support each other. Big hugs xxx 😘

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cggregory in reply to Lots8788

It’s so tough, isn’t it? Hugs back ❤️

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Lots8788 in reply to cggregory

All the hugs xx ❤😘

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Boo718

I’m so sorry your feeling like this. I felt the same with my sister. She text me asking to guess if it was blue or pink for her third child when I was in the middle of ivf (which she knew about) I was sooo upset and sooo angry. I was happy for her of course I was but baby number 3 is it blue or pink I couldn’t help but think at this moment it could be bright yellow with tartan spots 🤣🤦‍♀️

We will get there one day it will be our turn. Keep on smiling keep your chin up and remember it’s ok to not be ok xxx

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cggregory in reply to Boo718

Thanks for making me smile with “bright yellow and tartan spots” 😂 Sending love ❤️

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Kiedy84

I totally understand how you feel, my sister rang to say she was holding a positive pregnancy test on a morning of my embryo transfer.

Being an Auntie is a blessing too, but so so hard to feel positive when all you want is a child of your own. Sending lots of love x

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cggregory in reply to Kiedy84

It always hits harder when the timing is bad. Sending love ❤️

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Rainbowdreams82

I totally understand where you’re coming from. We’ve been undergoing treatment for a year and a half and in that time my sis in law became pregnant and had a baby girl, my partner’s best friend is pregnant with twins and on after our last IUI my other sis in in law and 2 best friends have all announced pregnancies and due the same week (would’ve been the same as us if IUI has been successful). I was broken about it as we move on to ivf and as the news broke and I got told I may need a Fallopian tube removed I broke down and had to take a day of work due to crying solidly for about 3 days. Here for you and totally sympathise. I know it doesn’t help the pain but just knowing there are some others out there helps xx

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cggregory in reply to Rainbowdreams82

Wow, you’ve really been through it. I decided this morning to take the day off work...I have nothing urgent on and I feel like I need to sit here in my emotions instead of just returning to “the grind” and getting even more worn down. Sending love ❤️

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ttcemmie

Ohhhh. Sorry to hear this lovely. Ugh. Here for you. xxxx

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cggregory in reply to ttcemmie

Thanks so much, love ❤️

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CLDxxx

Sending love ❤️you’re honestly not alone with these emotions. Xxx

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cggregory in reply to CLDxxx

Thank you ❤️ Lucky to have so much support.

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Sambab

Its normal to feel like this. When my brother and his wife told me 2 years ago they were expecting I cried for a week. When they announced it was a girl I was devastated and the first time I met her I cried alot.

However these days I see her as a blessing and spoil her alot. After putting my dreams of motherhood behind me, my niece has become like the daughter I couldn't have. She brings alot of joy into my life.

So please remember you're not alone. I think many of us have these torturous feelings alot of the time. Xx

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cggregory in reply to Sambab

Thank you so much, love. I think I’ve just always pictured myself having a little girl...so it hurt especially when I got the news. I know it’s not logical, but it feels like something is being taken away from me. My sister lives in America, which makes it harder to bond with her little boy (and the one on the way), but I hope one day we can have a close and special relationship like yours ❤️

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Luvfat

It's just a natural feeling... and we are all here for you. My little sister had a beautiful baby girl last night within six months of trying and I am in my fifth year trying... but I know our time will come soon God willing... you are not alone and baby dust to you all

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cggregory in reply to Luvfat

Thanks so much, love ❤️

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