Sensitive post ❤️ 6 week scan - measuring under but there is a beat

[PenneyPots]

Hi all, thank you again so much for all you words of wisdom. I feel like every time I post I have some worry or another. I worry that I sound ungrateful because I’m asking questions about a pregnancy.

I just want you to know that I am so extremely grateful to be in the situation I am in. Before this forum I had been trying for over 3 years, I feel like we’ve all already been through the mill before we even started IVF. It’s just that I’ve become so used to the negatives that I feel like it’s too good to be true. So when I started to bleed I worried that it was being taken away already. I told myself that it was fine and I’ll fall pregnant again, at least I know I can, which is huge, etc etc.

But it hasn’t been taken away and I cannot be more grateful. I’m grateful for the NHS, for the opportunity that we have been given, for my health, for the endometriosis ablation, for this forum and for my support system. (Work, family, friends)

The foetal pole (as he kept calling it) measure at 4.2mm at 6 weeks. he said it was a bit smaller than he would have liked. Of course I worried about that one slight negative and ignored all the positives. Then I thought about the above. Took a spoonful of cement and hardened the f*#k up. I am lucky. And I’m sorry if I ever seem like an ungrateful mare.

Anyone else have measurements?

xx

[Hidden]

congratulations!

Looking at your post i could’ve written this 15 months ago- I had a 7 year struggle- 3 surgeries to treat endometriosis & 1 chemical pregnancy till we conceived our daughter Francesca. I spent my entire pregnancy believing it was too good to be true & something would go wrong. I worried about about decorating the nursery ( once I was full term) in case something went wrong but didn’t fancy decorating it with a baby here! 😂 I even kept asking my hubby if she would be okay as I was in labour. I feared every scan & every heart beat check by midwife. It was a relief to see all was okay but that reassurance never lasted long!

Unfortunately I think infertility ruins pregnancy excitement.

But try to celebrate each milestone because it is a step closer towards your baby arriving.

The fact that your baby has a strong heart beat at this early point is good ( some don’t see a heartbeat until 7 weeks ) perhaps baby was a late implanter? My daughter implanted 12 days post Lh surge ( I thought it was my period coming!)Hopefully they’ll re scan you & it’ll put your mind at ease

Early weeks are particularly tough but you will get through them

By the way there is a NCT forum which has many IVF/ struggling mummies and to be mummies there xxx

[PenneyPots in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Jess ☺️

And congratulations on Francesca. She’s beautiful.

I’ll definitely try to chill out and you’re right about the heartbeat. I didn’t expect him to even mention it. I’ve got another scan in two weeks.

I read a lot to distract me, every other thing I do is consumed by pregnancy thoughts.

Thanks again x

[ttcemmie]

Ohhh so they managed to see it! You must be quite a bit relieved (even if still anxious)! You don't sound ungrateful; you sound like someone who has been through a hell of a journey and are worried about it all being taken away from you. Hopefully you're slightly less anxious than yesterday? Hopefully (apart from the one slight negative), this appointment was a generally good experience for you and was at least slightly reassuring. xxxxx

[PenneyPots in reply to ttcemmie]

100% I feel much more relaxed ☺️

Thank you so much for your reassurance xx

[dreams28]

Congrats. From everything ive read in my experience the fetal pole (crl) should be about 4mm at 6 weeks exactly which you are. So I am not sure why the dr said that to you. As hard as it is try to relax and hopefully all will be well. X

[PenneyPots in reply to dreams28]

Well that is reassuring thank you. I have done a bit more research and one post said 4-7mm so I feel better. I am just truing to chill so I can enjoy this experience

Thank you x

[dreams28 in reply to PenneyPots]

I have just looked back at my emails and my measurement was 4.3 at 6 weeks and 1 day as per IVF date calculations. Si was measuring at 5 wks and 6 days. So your measurement us fine. My 4.3 measurement us jow my 8 month old daughter. Enjoy! X

[PenneyPots in reply to dreams28]

That’s amazing!! Thank you ☺️

I wouldn’t have even looked up the size if he hadn’t said it was a bit small. Maybe I would have 😂

Xx

[dreams28 in reply to PenneyPots]

Perhaps you would have. I remember I did lol. X

[Hidden]

Congratulations ❤️ 💐💐💐 Hearing your baby's heartbeat is such a huge milestone. Best wishes ❤️

[PenneyPots in reply to Hidden]

I didn't hear it unfortunately, he just said there was heartbeat. I couldn't see anything either but there is no reason for him to fib I will take it. Not long until 4th March xx

[Luce123456]

Congratulations that's fantastic. I dont think you sound ungrateful. Our viability scan is on the 3rd of march and by that time I'll be nearly 8 weeks. It was nent to be a week earlier but we are away. It feels like the longest time. People who know like my husband my mum get excited and talk about the future and I find myself shutting them down. Like of the baby is ok. If we make it to 12 weeks. I am constantly worried with and twinge. I think it must be normal especially when we are told that the risk of eptopic or miscarriage is higher in ivf babies. So pleased for you tho. Xx

[PenneyPots in reply to Luce123456]

Thank you so much! Day before my scan It does feel like so long away and I never like to wish time away.

Maybe we will relax after this one now.

Thank you x

[Lindaashleyrosie]

Wow, well done for getting through everything you have. We have our first scan today and I'm SO nervous. I've not had any symptoms and I just don't know how it can be real. Was yours a vaginal scan or an ultrasound? I hope everything goes well for you, it sounds like it is!

[PenneyPots in reply to Lindaashleyrosie]

Hi, thank you! Mine was a vaginal scan. I hope your went well x

[JoP32]

You don’t ever seem ungrateful Penney! Just a normal lady with normal anxieties. Unfortunately infertility/miscarriages/ivf etc can all ruin pregnancy excitement. Each time I reach a milestone (ivf or pregnancy) I’m happy for an hour or so and then worrying about the next! 😂🤦🏽‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Just wanted to say that I get it! Don’t worry, we’re here for you and you’re allowed to feel anxious! In fact, you’re allowed to feel however you damn well please! 💕We would never ever think that you’re ungrateful because you’re asking questions - quite the opposite in fact! It shows just how much you care! ❤️

Wishing you all the very best of luck for your pregnancy 😘💐🌈 xx

[PenneyPots in reply to JoP32]

Thank you so much Jo. Such a nice reply. I am starting to feel less anxious. Even have cramps today and I am not panicking as much as I would have a week ago.

Hopefully all these worries will be a distant memory.

Thank you for your well wishes xx

[JoP32 in reply to PenneyPots]

Well done! Yes, definitely, hopefully these worries will all be a distant memory soon! Xx

[Lesmec]

I feel like I could have written this. I had my 6 week scan yesterday and they said everything was fine and a strong heartbeat. I was delighted but straight after terrified something might happen. Like others have said I'm trying to go each milestone and hope for the best but prepare for other eventualities.

[PenneyPots in reply to Lesmec]

It's hell of a ride isn't it

I am aiming for 8 weeks and then 12 and then the tests etc etc. We will get there. How are things with you now? x

[Lesmec in reply to PenneyPots]

I'm stressed but totally exhausted.

[Cinderella5]

Great news, glad all is looking good. Its hard not to focus on a negtive comment but really pleased you've had some reassurance too!xx

[PenneyPots in reply to Cinderella5]

I am pleased and a bit more confident today, even though I still have the "bleeding" and cramps. I am going with stretching uterus and who knows what this dark brown blood is. It has been over a week now. But I am listening to everyone and going from the tests and trying to chill x

[12356]

I did my 6 weeks scan last week the fetal pole was 4mm and my doctor said is super cool with strong heart beat, so why will your doctor say that 4.2mm is small,

Well am wishing you all the best and try to relax and be positive. ❤❤❤❤

[PenneyPots in reply to 12356]

Ah I have no idea then. That is reassuring though. I have read 4-7mm is normal too so I am going to chill. Maybe he was just thinking out loud and I hung on that statement.

Congratulations. I will try my best xx

[Jen37]

Hey, I just wanted to say congratulations and that I am currently in a similar situation to you. I had an early scan yesterday and I was advised that I am 6 weeks and 4 days but the foetal is measuring slightly smaller at only 6 weeks. Like you I instantly worried but the consultant reassured me as there was a strong heartbeat. I have to go back next week for another scan to check my progress.

I had a lot of brown spotting over the last few days but it seems to have almost disappeared now which is a huge relief.

I'm just taking it one step at a time and trying to not stress too much and look after myself.

Wishing you the best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy 😘

xx

[PenneyPots in reply to Jen37]

Hi Jen, thank you for your message and congratulations.

My brown bleeding hasn't stopped yet, I am considering stopping looking every time I go to the loo, but then I look.

Best of luck to you too and thanks again xx

[RhinoCat]

So , is it ok if I just read the

‘There is a heartbeat ‘

part ? 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💖💖💖💖💖💖💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💖💖💖💖💖😘😘😘😘💐💐💐💐

My heart can’t take the worry and I just need to read a 🎉 post right now this moment 😘🤪