I had a BFN last week and am still feeling not OK about it. I thought I’d be fine by now bit am still struggling. I don’t want to be negative but wanted to post in case others felt the same way. It takes a while to get over these things so please don’t worry if this applies to you. I’m going to take my time and then we we will go again.
Lots of love to all xx
Darling it’s absolutely fine to feel that way - I understand how you are feeling I really do and I must admit I cried/wonder why me but I took some time out and have now been through second cycle and got a BFP however told today the result is in my blood is 38 and on the low side so back in on Thursday! It’s such a tough journey but talking about it is so important xx you are not alone ❤️❤️❤️ Here if you need to talk at all
Thank you and wishing you all the best for your repeat blood test on Thursday xx
Thank you very much lovely xxx
Thinking of you Elle32inz 😘😘 anxious times 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💖💖💖💖💐💖
It really is - you think you get over one hurdle and then it’s another but that is the journey of IVF! The rollercoaster is takes you on but got to be thankful that made it this far - we do have some on freeze so not like the last tine we had nothing! It doesn’t make it easier but having all you wonderful ladies to talk to really does xx inspires me everyday. How are you? Xxx 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I’m ok today , I’m like your last time, nothing in the freezer and staring down the track at the whole thing again 🎢🤯🥺.... think I’ll feel better when the dr tells me the plan . Right now I’m gathering my questions etc so as not to waste our review. Glad it’s tomorrow . Hopefully the dr won’t be too brutally realistic , my heart might break if he is . But if I cry on him I cry 🤷🏼♀️ I’ve told myself it’s ok to cry when ya need to, other people can just suck it up 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hope ya have a better day today 😘💖💐💐.
I’m so sorry to hear about your BFN. I too, had one two weeks ago. At this moment, two of my sister-in-laws are going into labor. It is a joyous occasion, but I can’t help being sad. It feels so selfish of me. Infertility is a cruel game that none of us signed up for. I will send positive energy your way in hopes that we will both, someday, be going through the joyous occasion of delivering a baby ourselves. xxx
I feel for you. My cousin, who is like a sister, is 14 weeks pregnant with her second. I started trying before she’d even had her first! It’s so tough xx
It is definitely tough, especially in the beginning of their pregnancies because they are so excited & want to talk about it. We are lucky to have a space like this where we can relate to each other. Sending you strength and love ❤️
You’re not selfish hun, you’re human ❤️I totally understand how you feel as I felt the same with a dear friend of mine. We’re just human. And one day we’ll be in so much pain while delivering our babies 😃😃😃🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🍀🍀🍀🍀💋💋💋💋💋
Haha as crazy as it sounds I can’t wait to be experiencing that pain!!
Yes it is okay not to be okay.
I felt the same when I had a failed FET but I just kind of embraced the sad feeling so I could feel sorry for myself then move on. That worked for me. I didn’t see people I felt like I couldn’t face and I did things that would make me happy. After a few weeks I was back to myself 
I am someone that does that though ... I can’t just put things to the back of my mind and move on. My sister is the opposite she just ignores what’s going but then something small can happens and will have massive melt down🙈
We are all different but my opinion is deal with your feelings there and then so you can properly move forward.
Good luck for next cycle. When do you think you will? We are thinking of doing it again soon been to clinic ect but don’t have a start date yet
Xxx
Sorry to hear your news. Just wanted to reassure you it’s 100% ok to not be ok- it takes its toll. Please just reach out to others as/when u need to and be kind to yourself, giving yourself some time and space xx
Dear Hifer, take all the time you need and be kind to yourself. Sending you hugs 💞❤️ xx
Thank you xx
It’s Absolutley fine and I can completely understand it’s a grieving process so take your time it took me a fair while too xx
Standing with ya as I read my words come out your mouth 🤣
Please see my post Pooh, I’ll be your piglet . ☕️ 🍯
Sending hugs and standing with you as you navigate this hard stuff . It’s hard . Hard and stingy and swear words times 4352.
Honesty is my favourite , this journey is hard . 🤯🤬😳🥵
Massive hugs of understanding to you this night .
You just need some more time .
You will be fine in a bit, Just don’t rush the bit 😘💐💐💐💐💖💖💖💖💖 here if ya need me 😘I get ya 💖
Hi Hifer, I can so relate to your post. We had the same OTD I think and today it’s hit me hard, everytime I think I’m over it, I get reminded again and just start all over again. You are not alone, it’s so difficult but we have got this and we can do it! 💪💪🤗🤗
Sending hugs to you too Pinkforever 💐💐💐💖💖💖💖💖😘😘😘😘 tough oul road ! 💐
Thank you hun 💓💓. Crying myself to sleep as we speak but tomorrow is another day 🙏🙏
Indeed pet, just so unfair ......let the tears flow. It’s actually allowed . Because I said 🤣 We came , we saw, we lost ...... tears permitted. Let them out . Massive hugs 🤗 tomorrow , we move on , but for now ..... ouch . Just ouch 😘😘😘💖💖💖💖💖💐💐💐💐💐😘
Thank you for this...I don't feel ok at all, but taking it one day at a time. We also started fertility counseling which was a MASSIVE help. Sending love xx
It is so hard feel for you Def takes time to pick yourself back up again !! Look after yourself xx
Sending lots of love Hifer 💕take your time and a good care of yourself, no rush. Everyone has their own time and ways of recovering. Mine usually involves pizza 🍕😬
We are here and rooting for you! 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you xx
How are you this morning Hifer ?
Sending hugs 🤗 and ☕️ and 🍯 😘😘
Ahh thanks for checking in. I’m ok thanks. Cancelled all my plans today and just watching Netflix!! Started a juice detox today which I do frequently and makes me feel better and going to head to the gym. Been self sabotaging quite drastically in the last week so it’s time to put all that to bed and prepare for transfer number 2! Thanks hun 😘😘xx
Sounds like the perfect day 😎 hope you feel better after the gym etc I’m still on the treat myself cycle which I plan to stop tomo after my review . Then I’ll join ya back on the fitness track 😘 I need to get back to my juices or at least up my veg intake to lift me. Nice to have a transfer two to look forward to🎉💐💖 have a fAb day 😎🎉💖💐
You too hun. I’ve really not been eating well so it was well needed. We have our follow up appointment too tomorrow. Keeping everything crossed for you xx
It’s so bloody hard 😔 Sending hugs. It will take time, but you will feel better than you do now. Take as long as you need, lean into the sadness a bit, it will help you heal xx
‘Lean into the sadness ‘ I’ve really learnt that I try to freeze and go! But leaning into it allows ya to feel and heal much quicker . You are right Solly 🤗🙏🏻💖💐
Hey, you're not alone! I have taken this one pretty hard too although Im starting to get back on my feet! You're right it does take time to get over these tricky times but we'll get there!!xxx
Oh hun I’m so sorry! Am with you all the way xx
Awwww hifer. Sending love. The ups and downs of this journey are awful. Here for you and take all the time you need. Grief doesn't have a timeline. xxxx
We've all been there with our BFN, it's not nice. Keep going when you're ready but for now take it one day at a time (I used to hate that phrase but love it now) xx
It’s over! 😭 Bleeding at 10dpt
Last embryo and it’s a BFN 😢
OMG it’s a BFP!!! 😁👏🏻🍀🌈
BFN 11dp3dt - it’s over.
