We had our transfer a single embryo on Tuesday 28th jan and I “only” have to wait 10 days until the clinic said I should test.... so it’s been 3 days and I am already losing my mind 😂
Day 1- was like this is ok, but by day 3 - I am like .... is this twinge good or bad....
It is so many emotions. There is little part of me that fears the test day as currently I still have hope that it’s worked and I’m scared of that been taken away but of course I would like to know if it’s positive 😁
Just 7 more sleeps to go 😂 feel like a kid at Christmas!
How does everyone else deal with this period? I’m trying to keep myself busy. I went back to work Thursday (yesterday) as my job is quite desk based now and trying to keep my stress levels down. Any other tips or advice on how best to manage the waiting game?
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We transferred on Monday but can't test till 7th and 9th Feb x I had a week working from home but going back to work next week to get some sense of routine and to stop me thinking too much xx maybe go for a nice lunch or cinema over the wkend. I did some baking and that kept me busy for a bit too lol the brownies went down well haha 😂
Haha. Got to love a Betty Crocker box- still classed as baking in my book! 😊Yeah I’m feeling ok thanks. First time at ivf and never been pregnant before. I have sensitive nipples- but unsure if that due to progesterone suppository that I’m using. I have had a few stomach/pelvis cramps over the last couple days but no idea if I’m just over- thinking it all! I am not the best at being patient but my husband is and doesn’t want us to test until the day. So the plan is as he leaves for work very early (before 5:50am) I will be setting my alarm early to do it together. It’s best to do it in the morning isn’t it? First urine of the day? Is this your first ivf cycle? Did you have a single transfer or could you be having twins? 😊 X
Time never passed so slowly 😂😂😂 I find spending time with others means it passes quicker , plus back to back Netflix , random walks to the shop for carrots 😂 but to be honest ..... I’ve never experienced the like of it! I was never good at waiting 🤣😂 although I’m also trying to pretend that the 8th is not happening because I’m afraid of the big bad wolf 🐺.... I mean bfn . 😝Do you also spend the days fake feeling negative then fake feeling positive ? These hormone overloads are pure fun and games! 🤡 I had a good laugh at myself earlier by crying over my imaginary negative then planning what colour to paint the nursery ( that I don’t even have)🤪 ain’t no crazy like an ivf crazy 😜 popping in at out of this wall reminds that women all over this forum are feeling the exact same makes it bearable 😁☺️
All the best with the two week wondering 😘💐💐💐🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🤩🤩🤩
I’m away here to google my symptoms for the 42nd time tonight to read yet again it’s prob progesterone and it good be good or bad #repeat 🤯
I know exactly what you mean!!!i find myself imagining positives and negatives outcomes and having conversations with people in my head about it- I feel crazy! Also, if someone looked at my google search history.... 🤪
I know it's irrational but I feel like I'm battling constantly with myself to stay positive but not TOO positive 🤷♀️When I start to feel negative and think 'this hadn't worked ' I then panic in case the negativity will somehow affect the result 🤦♀️😂😂
I’ve had lots but pretty sure they are all hormone overload related.
You asked so I shall answer...
Day of transfer: sore cramps at night ( prob due to transfer)
Day 1 after: evening cramps and watery discharge ( due to transfer and progesterone gel)
Day 2 : watery discharge
Day 3: watery discharge and achey flu like at night ( needed paracetamol) bit of pinky orange thick discharge at night (tmi sorry 😂) indigestion . Bad sleep.
Day 4 : achey all day ( more paracetamol) achey back at night . Boobs not sore anymore. Indigestion. Good sleep.
Day 5: boobs sore again and spent the morning trying not to cry 😭 feeling ok at mo. Defo a bit constipated too.
Also feel just like I do but a stronger version of when Aunt Flo comes.
So I suspect, all of the above are normal after FET transfer and hormone overload ( 3 estrogen for last two weeks plus a week on 2 progesterone gel thingies 😁😝😂)
Thank you for sharing! I've been ok the last few days. Was worried very early though as d1p5dt I had a tiny bit of brown discharge. But figured fine, probably from the procedure. But the next morning I woke up and there was a bit of blood. Bit more pink somehow than period but I was really stressed. Throughout the day had more spotting and that evening there was more (mainly when I wiped but also a bit on its own). So I panicked and thought right, period starting somehow. Hadn't even occured to me you could start AF before test date! But I guess if the progesterone levels aren't high enough, you can 😢. So I was feeling pretty negative and was sure the bleeding would get heavier on day 3 but thank Heaven it didn't. Woke up and there was none! Got a little bit of brown blood spotting across day 3 then touch wood nothing since. So who knows 🤷♀️🤷♀️. Hoping and praying it might have been implantation bleed as most sources I've found suggest implantation happens on day 2-5 and you bleed a bit around then (IF you bleed at all). But could also have been bleeding from the procedure... doc found a little polyp during ET so maybe that caused It? Otherwise... few cramps over past few days, like before AF, but not v significant. One big quite sudden cramp on night of 4-5 dpt. Bit constipated 😣😥. Boobs sore (but have been since srarting pessaries). And a very nasty headache on days 3 and 4, which felt like a hormone headache. TBH, not sure if I feel positive or negative at this point! Changes hour to hour. Main feeling is fear that I'll start bleeding properly! 😓😓😓 Sorry, this became an essay 😂😂😂 xx
Ah thanks RhinoCat. I'm going to hold out till Friday before testing. Actually kind of dreading it!! If it didn't work I'll have to fund another cycle as my first 2 gave no frosties 😢 That must be such a comfort, to have a couple of decent frozen embryos to turn to 😍... anyway, glad your husband us back tomorrow!😘😘 xx
I ain’t got any Frosties left . This is my only embryo 💫 had to be a frostie as I needed a huge polyp removed . These cycles are self funded , we paid two upfront with access fertility as it was a bit cheaper. I’ve my one free partial nhs turn coming soon but I really hope it’s not needed 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻💐💐💐💐💐💖💖💖💖 hope you have a lovely day 😘
Ah sorry to hear that RhinoCat (I meant to write 'IT must be such a comfort' as I wasn't assuming you had backups 😘 - more that I know some people do and wish I was one of them 😂😂). I did exactly the same, Access 2 cycle! If no luck next week I'll have to buy another 2... or see if by some miracle I'd qualify for their partial refund scheme. Either way, if not successful I feel I'll have to go again as with cycle 1 getting nowhere (no eggs fertilised... DS and eggs hated each other 😱🤣) this has been my only shot from those 2 cycles. BUT... FINGERS CROSSED... neither of us will need to think about plan b (or c or d...) as we'll both get the result we're waiting for next week 🤞🤞🤞🤞xxx
Just wanted to wish you very best of luck,easier said then done but my advice would be to try and stay away from Google...toughie I know!! And just be kind to yourself and find a great box set on Netflix and go out for nice walks to get the blood flowing xx
Only time will tell! The 2ww is very cruel and keeps you guessing! And Google is not your friend. I have taken no symptoms to be a symptom in the past! It gets a bit fraught! TV, walks, seeing others - distraction basically is the only way. And lots of treats!
😊 I like the idea of “lots of treats”. I’m going to try distract myself by making dates to see people for the whole of the next week! I feel like I maybe out for dinner a few times! 😁 x
Ha! I’m exactly the same! I start off thinking ‘ it’s totally fine, I’ve got this, no need to get all stressed and obsessed’. Then by day 3 I’m exactly the same as you - reading into every little twinge (or lack of twinges) and obsessing about EVERYTHING for the rest of the 2ww! 😂🙄🤦🏽♀️
Im afraid I have no advice of how to keep calm as I’m rubbish - serial testing and constant googling 😂 but I just wanted to say you’re not alone feeling like this!
All I can say is I really hope the 2ww passes as quickly as it can for you. I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed you get that BFP sooooon! 🤞🏻🙏🌈 xx
What helped me in the countdown was reading one book. So the final chapter was read the night before the test. And I'd read after dinner. So between work, cooking and eating, it was the last thing to do before bed. I found this a good distraction (and I'm not a reader!) as I knew I HAD to do it before I go to bed but other things like work kept me busy during the day. Get like a 14 chapter book so you have to read 2 chapters a night. Before you know it you have 4 chapters left till test day! Best of luck with the results x
I like this idea. I use to read a lot and now only do on holidays. I actually got a book for Christmas which I started but only read two chapters, I shall plan out the rest of the chapters like suggested. Thanks you. X
Arh, I feel there is so much pressure we put on ourselves to make sure this works. Well fingers crossed it will work again 1st time for you. Did you have any symptoms last time or was it a surprise when it was a positive?
It was only 2 years ago but I can’t really remember 🙈 I think being on hormones makes everything feel different to how you naturally feel so you just second guess everything. I think that’s good though otherwise I’d be comparing constantly!
My planned transfer date is Wednesday That’s if the embryos are ok I had 5 eggs and 4 fertilised ok so will hear tomorrow how they are doing. Hope all goes well for you x
I’ve taken pregnancy tests every single day after every transfer I’ve ever had. I don’t know how anyone has the self control to not test. I always get positives 4dp5dt.
You tested every day!!? I’m so tempted (I have some spares in the cupboard) but I have stayed strong so far! Do you ever find you have symptoms? Twinges or anything with the BFP?
I just bought like a 50 pack of test strips on Amazon for each cycle. I tested multiple times a day sometimes. I seriously don’t understand the waiting.
I’ve had one fresh transfer (BFP, 4-years-old now) and four FET cycles from embryos frozen that round. The first was a BFN due to a hydrosalpynx. I had surgery to remove my left tube and endometriosis. The next transfer was a BFP, miscarried at 6 weeks. The one after that BFP, her heart stopped beating at 11 weeks. I’m almost 11 weeks pregnant now from the most recent FET. The only thing I really noticed was sore breasts after starting progesterone in all of the cycles. The BFN wasn’t any different for me than the successful ones.
Arh sounds like you have gone through a lot. Thank you for all the information. I have noticed my breasts are sore (also probably due to progesterone).
You can do it, its not easy but try and keep distracted.
I actually did wait till OTD, I'm probably in the minority, and I dont know what got me through it, I think if I had tested early and got a negative I'd have been really disheartened so I done as I was told and waited lol. Best of luck to you xx
I know what you mean about worrying about testing early and being disheartened. I have waited, but I’m not going to lie it’s been tempting, 6 more sleeps 😅! Thank you for your message x
My test date is also the 7th was ok on first 3 days like you now going out of my mind. Not back at work due to being high risk for OHSS so clinic told me to avoid work.
I’ve baked brownies and bread rolls cooked new different meals everyday. Going stir crazy now no symptoms and losing all positivity. So desperate to test but my partner wants to wait x
We are in exactly the same boat. My husband wants to wait (he has the patience of a saint and I am the opposite). I don’t have any twinges either the last two days either ☹️ so also losing positivity. Should we be feeling things?
Your also testing on 7th- testing buddy 😀
I baked brownies and sponge today. I’m not as good a cook as you to make bread rolls.
The bread rolls didn’t come out perfect just trying to do different things to keep myself busy. My transfer was Saturday 25th so I made it through 1 week.
Think some people have said they had implant bleeding or feeling the implanting. Gonna try getting out next week or I will go demented. Wishing you the best also on the 7th x
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