Sad news at 10 week scan😢

[andromedae9]

Hello ladies, a bit of a sad update from me. Had a scan at the clinic yesterday and unfortunately there was just an empty sac. The embryo had completely regressed. We were so hopeful before Christmas as everything looked fine at the viability scan. (heartbeat etc). Clinic says embryonic failure. I really thought this was our time. As it was our last frozen embryo we now need to wait for another donor in the Uk or go abroad. So gutted!!!

[FrancyItaly]

Oh I’m so sorry to hear this. It must be truly heartbreaking. I hope you have lots of support, if you need to talk I’m here 💕

[Hidden]

Oh lovely so very sorry for your loss. Hope you have plenty of support around you. xxx

[Lots8788]

Oh hun I'm so so sorry to hear that. We had our first BFP Nov 19 but always had empty sacs and found out at 6w5d. PM me if you want to chat. Lots of love and hugs and hope you have lots of support around you. xx

[andromedae9 in reply to Lots8788]

❤️ So sorry to hear this. One builds up so much hope and then...

[Lots8788 in reply to andromedae9]

Im so so sorry. Massive hugs and love to you xx

[londonrc]

Oh I’m so sorry for your loss- after having a first positive scan it’s just awful to find out this news later on and just shows you can never stop worrying! No words can describe the sadness- take time to grieve and then move forward to make your next plan.

We used a clinic in Greece - 2-3 month waiting list for donors- too early to say if first round worked yet but clinic was great. Pm if you want more info anytime or just to chat. Big hugs to you and your partner. Xx

[Cinderella5]

Awww andromedae, Im so sorry sweetheart! Absolutely heartbreaking for you to have to go through this. We are just about to start a new cycle also but are, as Im sure you know going abroad as the waiting time is shorter but you may well need time to gather some strength before you decide to move forward after some grieving time. Sending love and massive hugs, its all so incredibly unfair!!xxx

[andromedae9 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks Cinderella! My UK clinic has recommended a clinic in Spain that has shorter waiting times so might look into it at some point.

Really hope this time is your time Cinderella! Keeping everything crossed.

We will get back on the horse at some point but right now I just want to pull the duvet over my head.

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[Cinderella5 in reply to andromedae9]

Well its always good to have another option when you are ready! Thank you for your kind words, it really means a lot with all that you are going through just now. Just you stay under that duvet for as long as you need lovely.xxxx

[Gem2410]

I’m so sorry to hear this. Truly heartbreaking. Sending you lots of love 💖💖💖 xx

[ttcemmie]

Really sorry to hear this. This is just devastating. Take your time to grieve; thinking of you in this difficult time. It's a cruel, cruel journey.

[KDA0510]

Oh I am so sorry to be reading this, lovely. So devastating - I can't relate at all and cannot even begin to imagine the heartbreak you must be experiencing. Sending so much love to you x

[Kit84]

I'm so so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you. X

[MrsH86]

So sorry for your loss. It’s so cruel, especially after a successful viability scan - it makes everything seem so real. Be kind and gentle to yourself, grieve in your own way and know that at some point you will start to heal (I promise). Sending love x

[Kiedy84]

I am so terribly sorry, life is so unfair sometimes. So cruel💔😢

Thinking of you x

[Hidden]

I am so sorry to hear this! It is so upsetting! Big hugs to you! Happy to chat if you need to! X

[Picalilli99]

Such sad news, I’m so sorry lovely xxx

[Solly-44]

I’m so sorry, it’s such a cruel process. Be kind to yourself xx

[SJA14]

So sorry to hear this, I can’t imagine how devastating this must be. Thinking of you xx

[MissSaoPaulo]

I'm so sorry hon, sending you big big hugs xxx

[Hidden]

That's a disappointing start to the new year especially going to the scan excited only to have it result in nothing.

[Lavender96]

I’m so sorry andromedae, it’s really heartbreaking. Sending love and hugs x

[Core]

So so sorry to read this, I don’t imagine it’s much consolation but my docotr said he really sees a pattern of ladies who have several failures then an early miscarriage then a later miscarriage and then a healthy baby. So hopefully this means you will get there xx

[andromedae9]

❤️Thank you so much lovely ladies for all your comments. Hope you all have had a good start to the year❤️

I might need to ask this in a new post but my clinic has said that I can either wait for a bleed (should come within the next 2 weeks but might last for 2 weeks as well) or have a D&C a small operation under GA. Not sure what I should do. Any opinions on this?

[FrancyItaly in reply to andromedae9]

With my miscarriage I decided to wait for it and have it naturally at home. It happened 2 weeks after we found out. I felt I needed that in order to have a closure and I wanted it to happen in our own home rather than in a hospital. I then buried my baby under a white rose plant which is now in our garden.

[andromedae9 in reply to FrancyItaly]

❤️So sorry for your loss.❤️

[Miraclebabyno2]

So sorry for this sad news especially having a viable pregnancy, it’s making me feel nervous now and thinking I may book a private scan. My clinic only gives me one scan at 7 weeks and then has signed me back to my gp. Was there a reason why they wanted you to come back at 10 weeks or do they just offer it to you. It’s such awful news. I really hope you are ok sending you lots of love. X

[andromedae9 in reply to Miraclebabyno2]

Thanks Miraclebabyno2 and congratulations!

We were offered by the clinic to come back at 9-10 weeks and we thought it was a good idea as we felt that there was quite a long time between the viability scan and the NHS scan and retrospectively that I would rather hear potential bad news from the sonographer I always see than someone on the NHS that I might see once.

Try not to worry. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

xx

[Miraclebabyno2 in reply to andromedae9]

Thinking of you. And I hope when you feel ready to do it again you get a positive outcome xx

[Shelleybean]

I’m so so sorry to hear this sad news. How completely devastating 💔 Sending you lots of love 💕 xx

[Georgie17]

I am so sorry for your loss.,..I can’t believe this can happen and I am so very sorry, take time to process this loss and good luck with your next steps. Xx

[everhopeful83]

So so sorry to read this😞❤️xxx

[Michael30]

So sorry to read this post...heartbreaking...take all the time you need and defo all the support. Sending lots of love and hugs xxx

[andromedae9 in reply to Michael30]

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[GiantPanda]

So very, very sorry for you both. Take the time you need and be kind to yourselves. I hope your next donor will not take long and you have a positive outcome. Sending hugs. X

[andromedae9 in reply to GiantPanda]

Thank you 💗

[FrancyItaly]

How are you doing?

[andromedae9 in reply to FrancyItaly]

Hi, thank you so much for asking. I have taken 2 weeks off work. Visited the Epu for a scan and I don't need an OP. I know I'm not the only person going through sth like this but at times I still can't believe this has happened. Feeling so tired of this process.

How are you doing?

x

[Cinderella5 in reply to andromedae9]

Awww Ive been thinking about you loads lovely!xxx

[andromedae9 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks Cinderella! Likewise. Sending you all the positive vibes that I can for your upcoming cycle! xxx

[Cinderella5 in reply to andromedae9]

💕xx

[FrancyItaly in reply to andromedae9]

Aw I know, at least you don’t need an OP which is better. I’m ok, I’m doing all I can to feel better each day and trying to take all negative thoughts out of my mind. Some days are easier than others, but I’m definitely better x

[andromedae9 in reply to FrancyItaly]

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