How to cope?

[Lorita1984]

Tonight i'm due to attend a gathering at my brother in law home. The sister of his wife will bring her newborn baby with her. I just dont know how to cope. I feel like everyone is pitying me. I cant stop crying but don't want to hurt my husband by not attending. Its so hard knowing ill have to put a happy face.

2 months ago i transferred my perfect pgs tested embryo and i knew it was a girl. The transfer did not work. Im due to start Ivf again in February but feel. It will never work if a pgs tested embryo failed to implant.

[Grazangelique]

Oh hun, I do know the feeling...BUT please remember you are not defined by your (in)fertility. You are a beautiful, unique individual who I am sure has a lot of things to be proud of. You may be going through a rough patch at the moment but that does not define your life, shelf worth and eventually your happiness. Try to remind yourself of all the great things you have/ are, chin up and walk into that room with pride. Because if nothing else, your are for sure a warrior! x

[Lorita1984 in reply to Grazangelique]

Thankyou so much for your lovely reply and words of encouragement ❤️

[Tiddly1984]

Hi Lorita, so sorry things didn’t work out during your recent transfer. However please dont lose hope as there are so many factors which determine a successful pregnancy. There really so much that medical professionals don’t yet understand and the quality of an egg is just one factor. Women tell the tale of lesser quality eggs implanting all the time so don’t give up...x

[Hope4another]

This sounds so hard - sending a big hug and lots of encouragement. X

[KB11]

Hang in there. I had so many experiences like this which are so hard and heart breaking even if you do feel happy for others. Be strong and do things for you, book a holiday etc. if you can.

I had success with round 3 natural frozen transfer x

[Hidden]

If all it will do is upset you then don't go and make up an excuse!

[zital]

Oh, I understand how hard it was for you. But you need to accept this situation. I hope there are ways that can help you. The main thing is to protect yourself from stress. Try not to get depressed, I hope your family supports you. I believe that your subsequent attempts will be successful. And soon you will hold your baby in your arms.

[sadievalentie]

Hi Lorita! How are you? I hope you are feeling better. I know this is very hard for you. It's perfectly fine for you to feel this way. If you are angry then you can start by punching a pillow and if you feel like crying, then just let it out. It's not easy when you are not even close and other people are making it work. And you need to believe in yourself. Things will get better for you. If it doesn't work this time, then change your clinic. I am sure that will change your results as well. Good luck. Stay blessed. Take care. Bye!

[Alyssa123]

Hi Lorita! I hope you are doing well. I can understand how tough it's going to be for you. Try to focus on yourself. What if there's a newborn baby around you? Soon you will have your own newborn baby to hold. So don't think about it as a bad thing, you can ask many things from her mother. So when you have your baby, you are ready for it. I am sure the mother of that baby will be happy to help you out. I hope this helps. Take care of yourself. Good luck. Stay blessed. Bye!

[LorrieWalden]

Hi Lorita! How are you doing? That is going to be so awkward for you. Whenever there was a situation like that, I always skipped the gathering. It's just too hard to hide your emotions. And When you have to hold the baby, it's so hard. I am sorry that you won't be able to skip it, but whenever you feel like crying, make an excuse for the bathroom. That is the only way you will be able to make it through. I will pray that things get easier for you. Best of luck. My blessings are with you. Take good care of yourself. Stay strong girl. Goodbye!