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OTD is this Sunday but my period has started today (8dp5dt) done a test and it’s a BFN 💔

As I was doing the test, had a text to say my sister-in-law has gone into labour. Couldn’t write the timing in that one 😭

Out of 9 eggs, 5 fertilised, 2 were transferred on day 5, sadly nothing to freeze so we shall be starting over when we can face round two.

Feeling numb, so thought this could of worked, was hoping for the best Christmas.

Any tips for picking yourself back up appreciated... right now I just want to go to bed and hide for a while.

Sending everyone lots of luck and best wishes for your journeys xxx

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Faith103

I know exactly how you feel the same thing happened to me I started bleeding on day 8 as well I didn’t even make it to test day. I did a test early on day 5 and was negative I knew at this point I was out. No words will make you feel better but keep strong and be kind to yourself. You have been through a lot so don’t feel bad for feeling sad.xxxx

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Hopeful_wishes in reply toFaith103

Thank you, sorry to hear you’ve also been through this. I’ve decided this is the hardest part of IVF 😢 xx

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Faith103 in reply toHopeful_wishes

It definitely is. Somehow you feel like you will never get there but if we give up we will never know. Stay strong 💪 xxxx

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Pearso78

So sorry to hear this news. Sending big hugs take your time to recover and you will get there. Xx

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Hopeful_wishes in reply toPearso78

Thank you xx

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Cinderella5

Im really sorry, I sympathise....BFN's are rubbish! Look after yourself.xx

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Hopeful_wishes in reply toCinderella5

Thank you, worst part of this journey so far. Hope you’re doing ok xx

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Italy300618

I'm so sorry my lovely, really wish this wasnt the case for you, thinking about you lots xx

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Hopeful_wishes in reply toItaly300618

Wasn’t our day today was it 😢 hope you’re doing ok xx

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Lots8788

So sorry x lots of love to you and hope you have lots of support around you. Take it easy and do whatever you feel is best,there's no right or wrong and no rush xx

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Hopeful_wishes in reply toLots8788

Thank you, we’ve decided not to tell our family atm as they are, understandably, very excited about the new baby. Did you have your next scan today? Xx

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Lots8788 in reply toHopeful_wishes

Oh bless you, big hugs to you. Do you get any on NHS? Yeah missed miscarriage I'm afraid so back up to EPU for final scan Tues and to discuss miscarriage management xx

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Hopeful_wishes in reply toLots8788

This was our only nhs funded cycle, time to start saving 🙈

I’m so sorry to hear that, big hugs back at you, this journey can be so cruel xx

I am so sorry to hear this. I totally know how upset you are. Did you get a blood best to confirm? I have heard sometimes women get spotting before their bfps. I have had spotting today and am worried. Sending you lots of good vibes and love! X

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Thank you, I phoned the clinic, I have to keep going with the cyclogest and test again on Sunday, although they admitted it’s highly unlikely the test will be any different. Sadly it’s a lot more than spotting so I’m 99.9% sure I’m out 😢

Wishing you all the best, hope the 2ww is going quickly for you xx

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Thanks. What's your discharge like? If it doesn't look like period pain, you will still have a chance! I am sending you lots of luck and good vibes! Xx

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Mara84

So sorry to hear this, we had a BFN almost three weeks ago... what I did to helping myself cope was researching and concentrating on making my body ready for the next cycle. Do not loose hope. We will get there ❤️

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Hopeful_wishes in reply toMara84

Thank you, we are stronger then we realise 💪🏻

Are you making many changes for your next cycle? Xx

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Mara84 in reply toHopeful_wishes

Im taking Ubiquinol and Fertility vitamin from Wild Nutrition, also I'm completely off caffeine and of course alcohol. I spoke to my Doctor on Tuesday and she thinks actually my body responded well and now they have a better idea for the second cycle. We are hoping to start again end of January.

I do hope you are feeling better. xx

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helsbels_2016

I'm so sorry to see this, it's such a hard time. I don't really have any advice other than to look after yourself and allow yourself to grieve. I've found the only way I could get through each day after my BFN recently is focusing on hope for the next round, which has brought me some comfort. Keep strong 💪🏻❤️ xxx

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Hopeful_wishes in reply tohelsbels_2016

Thank you for the reply, this is such a hard process 😢

I know in time I shall pick myself up and be ready to go again - I keep trying to tell myself that we can do this! 💪🏻 wishing you lots of luck for your next round xx

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