All over.....

[Sofi1]

Hello lovely ladies

I've posted on here a few times of my journey and you have given me some good advice and support. I look to you all for encouraging or supportive words once again...or if anyone has been in a similar situation.

So I went to my follow up appointment after my second failed ivf 2 weeks ago which resulted in 4 follicles ( i was told today) and one immature egg. Basically the hospital have told me there is nothing more they can do for me and it seems as though I'm just not responding to the meds...My amh was 8 but according to doctors that doesn't make a difference because I'm just not responding.

I was told donor eggs could be my only chance but I can't do that for religious reasons so I'm feeling so deflated, upset, useless and alone. I don't know what to do...I've spent the whole day crying. My eyes are so sore.....

Ive basically been discharged from the fertility unit now....I'll never be a mum

[Prayingforafamily]

I’m really sorry to hear this. No words are going to help at this point as I imagine Its very raw but didn’t want to read to run. Thinking of you. Look after yourself x

[Sofi1 in reply to Prayingforafamily]

Thank you x

[MissSaoPaulo]

I'm so sorry sweetheart, sending you a big hug xxx

[Sofi1 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Thank you x

[kitscat]

I’m so sorry. Can you try a different clinic? Xxx

[Sofi1 in reply to kitscat]

I've requested all my notes from this hospital and will see and think about what to do next x

[kitscat in reply to Sofi1]

I think it’s worth a go. I’m not expert but what I’ve learnt from this forum is that sometimes having lower strength drugs can yield a better response?

[Sofi1 in reply to kitscat]

Yes I did think about lower dosage drugs and I think it was best to get my notes so I was equipped with information. I think I will do thank you xx

[kitscat in reply to Sofi1]

Best of luck. I definitely wouldn’t give up hope yet. They have been lots of pregnancies on this site with lower AMH’s. Mine is low too and I start my second round of IVF soon 😬

Take care xx

[Sofi1 in reply to kitscat]

Yes you're right a lot of ladies have got pregnant with lower amh which is fantastic it's just devastating when it doesn't work and you put all your hopes in it. All the best to you. Hope it goes well. I usually do a silent little prayer when I'm in the waiting room for all the couples there pray it works for you too x

[Countrymouse56]

I agree with Kitscat. It’s definitely worth getting another opinion or even a third like in my case!! Xx

[kitscat in reply to Countrymouse56]

I’ve just read your story! Amazing outcome! This gives me hope! Xxx

[Lowamh in reply to kitscat]

I agree, it’s definitely worth seeing another clinic once your notes come through x

[Sofi1]

Oh wow so have I! That's great news. So happy for you! If you don't mind me asking which clinic are you with countrymouse56?

[Countrymouse56 in reply to Sofi1]

I’m not allowed to post clinic details on here but can on private message. Can you message me then il reply. For some reason I can’t instigate messages, they don’t seem to come through to people! Xx

[Crumble7]

Sending lots of love to you 💜

[Hidden in reply to Crumble7]

Is that your dog in the pic?

[Elynn]

Hi there

just want to encourage you not to loose hope. You concieved naturally, it can happen again. Pls try another clinic.

[Sofi1 in reply to Elynn]

I really hope so. I feel so helpless at the moment

[Redpixie]

I’m so sorry. It is so understandable you are so devastated.

Have you looked into natural cycles. Near me there is a clinic that specialises in natural cycles that don’t use drugs, I’m sure there will be others around the country. Maybe it would be worth having a chat with one? I haven’t done it myself but my acupuncturist was explaining that they concentrate on getting one perfect egg rather than multiple eggs. I don’t want to give you false hope but I really really hope this could be the path for you.

[Sofi1 in reply to Redpixie]

Thank you I'll have a look into it and start making enquiries. Do you think accupuncture helps? X

[Redpixie in reply to Sofi1]

I had very heavy periods and acupuncture has helped relive that. I also find it relaxing. I am pro acupuncture, I see a fertility specialist so it’s also nice to get support from another place. I’ve been doing acupuncture for about a year and I really enjoy it. However, it doesn’t suit everyone. Good luck!

[Sofi1 in reply to Redpixie]

Thanks I might look into it. I had the mizan massage which was nice and relaxing. Thank you x

[Redpixie in reply to Sofi1]

Yes, my acupuncturist did a Mizan massage on me. It was lovely.

[Care-Bear]

Hello Sofi,

I am using donor eggs due to premature menopause at 35, I was shocked when the doctors advised me my only chance of being a Mum myself was via donor eggs.

Once over the shock which was a good month or so I did proceed down that route and I couldn't be happier for my decision.

Donors and their gifts are a beautiful thing and a donor exerts her own body to give us a rare chance that is a beautiful thing - in my opinion..

My advice is don't make rash decisions let the information sink in, talk to your religious leader about it, I know in my religion to receive such a gift is ok but I understand not all religions advise this. Maybe there is a way?

Don't write yourself off just yet please !

[Sofi1 in reply to Care-Bear]

I think with the religion aside I don't have a problem with donor eggs as you still have the baby inside you and you still have that experience but it's just the religious aspect. I am going to look into it further.

I just feel useless at the moment. It's so raw at the moment

[Hidden]

That's not fair is it. My advice is not to decide on anything right now whilst it's still raw but wait until you feel better and then decide what you want to do.

Thing is decisions made when you are upset are the ones regretted and have a think about what you want to do when you feel a bit better as tomorrow is another brand new day.

[Sofi1 in reply to Hidden]

So true at this moment in time I'm so emotional and upset. Thank you for your encouraging words x

[Kaylon]

Hi Sofi1, I agree, get your notes and try a different clinic. There are lots of different protocols out there. And maybe mild IVF could work for you. It really makes a difference which clinic you go to. Sending you a hug xxx

[Sofi1 in reply to Kaylon]

Thank you at least with my notes the clinic will have my history x thank you for your support x

[Kaylon in reply to Sofi1]

Wishing you good luck. Honestly we were shocked at how clinics differ from their approach, labs, technology, approach, how much a cycle is personalised. We've had 3 failed cycles at one clinic and are now about to start a 4th at a different clinic. Already I have so much more faith in their approach and this time if nothing comes of it at least I can move on to donor eggs without this horrible what if! Xxx

[Sofi1 in reply to Kaylon]

Yes your right I need to give it another try somewhere else. I came out of my current clinic that day feeling so deflated as she had said don't bother there is no point they can't do anything and any supplements won't help either. I hope you have a successful round this time. Everyone deserves to be a mum especially if we want it so badly xx

[Kaylon in reply to Sofi1]

That's just horrible! I hate how Dr always dismiss any attempts to improve your body. We have also seen a nutritionist who recommended a bunch of supplements which we've been taking for nearly 4 months now and we've cut out all plastics, switched to eco cleaning products and started buying organic everything. There is def room for improvement even if its just marginal. And just to prove this is working, my AMH was 7.4, 1 5 years ago, just remeasured it and it is now 9.2!!! And I'm dead certain this is a result of all the supplements I've been taking and all the other changes we have made.

I was so convinced donor eggs was our next step but I want to be sure there is nothing else that can be done first. If this cycle doesn't work then we will try mild IVF which is much better for older ladies and low AMH or poor responders.

I honestly hate Drs for being so discouraging. Xxx

[rivershark]

Hi dear

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just wanted to repeat what's been said before about trying lower dose meds like a natural cycle or modified natural cycle. These are often better for those of us with low AMH and I'm told lower dose drugs yield better quality eggs.

I had AMH of about 7 and my first cycle on the highest dose of meds(600) only got one follicle and one egg. Then switched to much lower doses 75 and managed to get 5 eggs. Unfortunately that cycle didn't work for me either but they did all fertilise.

If you can definitely get a second opinion in another clinic try one that specialise in lower ovarian reserve. There's definitely still hope for you dear. Lots of success stories here of ladies with low reserve.

Wishing you the best XX

[Sofi1]

Thank you so much for your advice. You may be right. My clinic basically said there is no point. It was heart breaking. I just need to pick myself up. Thank you for the advice really appreciate it. X

[Westielover16]

So sorry to hear about this sad news. Definitely get a second opinion. Sending you loads of love and hope xx

[Sofi1 in reply to Westielover16]

Thank you xx

[IVFWTF]

I’m so sorry to hear this. Don’t discount your feelings- it’s truly a grieving process. I do so hope that there is a happy ending for you some how or some way x

[Sofi1 in reply to IVFWTF]

Thank you hope all goes well for you too xx

[Hope25]

There are no words that will help right now but just remember that if you ever need to talk x

[Sofi1]

Thank you. I have found this forum so helpful as people really understand as they are or have gone through the same thing x