Advice on having 1 embryo or 2 transferred

[Mishmash12]

Help needed...

As some of you may know I had my 1st round of ivf this year which sadly ended in a mmc I started taking the tablets for my 1st FET on monday I have my 10day scan booked on Wednesday they've asked me on the telephone if I would like 1 embryo or 2 transferred... I'm finding it really hard in what to do.. a single baby or twins we would be happy with I scared after the mmc it happens again I have 6 top grade embryos left but this will be my last go as I cant keep going though this I'm stuck on how many to have transferred I'm 38 in January already have a son who's 10yr old naturally pls ladys help me out on what you would all do to help me make my mind up xx thank you xx

[Coral86]

If you have the option I would def have the two embryos xxx

[Mishmash12 in reply to Coral86]

Hi hun thanks for your reply have you ever had 2?xx

[Coral86 in reply to Mishmash12]

No unfortunately I don’t have the option coz of my heart shaped womb but I def would have if could xx

[Mishmash12 in reply to Coral86]

So because of the shape they will only allow 1.. x I'm really stuck on what to do I'm so scared if the same happens again with the mmc they would only allow me 1 last time they said they will disgust it with me when I go on Wednesday for the scan because it work last time 1st go but they found no heartbeat at my 11week scan this journey is so hard as it is.. is this your 1st cycle? X

[Coral86 in reply to Mishmash12]

Oh god that must have been so hard for you 😞 good on you for goinf another go I fell pregnant naturally but misscarried at 11 wks too why can’t u conceive ? Xxx

[Mishmash12 in reply to Coral86]

I've had 2 ectopic pregnancies so have both tubes removed if is my only chance I had my son naturally after the 1st ectopic then went on to have another so i have no other option but to do ivf i got caught 1st round of ivf this year but went for scan at 11weeks and there was no heartbeat baby died at 7w 3days had to have a surgical management as my body held on to baby and there was no sign of me miscarrying was very heard but I'm here again I have 6 top grade embryos on ice just cant make my mind up what to do I no this will be our last go as we are private we cant afford to keep spending aswell as all the pain and sadness plus we both have kids so we are blessed anyway but we really want a baby together xx

[Coral86 in reply to Mishmash12]

Ahh bless you you have had tough time too with it !! Do what you feels best xxx

[Sunshineraye]

We had one the first time which failed and then was given the option of two and both had stuck. They say about risks but there risks with everything and anything. I just always thought if I didn’t try it then I might of always regretted it. But thankfully both are doing well, I’m currently 8.5 weeks I do think the fact we had them frozen helped, when I look back it my body wasn’t fully recovered from egg collection so wasn’t in the best place with my diet or mind. Good luck xx

[Mishmash12 in reply to Sunshineraye]

My 1st worked but at 11w 4days I had a scan at mothercare baby had stopped growing around 7w.3days was heartbroken.. I wanted 2 last time but wasnt allowed as I got 19eggs so they said I was at risk of ohss.. if i new then what I know now I think I would of waited for transfer as I dont think my body was ready with all the drugs we pump in our self my hormones was every where.. I'm so scared this FET wont work and scared it will and the same happens again I'm really stuck on 1 or 2 then nurse said on the phone she will talk with me when I go for my 10day scan because i already have a son naturally and my 1st ivf worked but like I'm gona say that doesn't mean it will work this time I've signed for 2 but can change my mind it's so hard dont you think.. how are you coping after everything you've been through to now? Congratulations on the twins I think twins are amazing keep having dreams I end up with twins even before I even thought about doing ivf.. glad everything is working out for you and you got lil and Phil xx

[mushy19]

We put back two embryos with both of our cycles, 1st fresh which ended in MC and now FET.

I had a early scan last week which showed only one gestational sac.

So it’s not 100% confirmed as it was still very early to be sure but it has been comforting to know at least one out of the two has stuck.

I would definitely go for two if given the option again.

I also have tubal problems after having a now 10year old conceived naturally.

Best of luck with whatever you do decide. x

[Mishmash12 in reply to mushy19]

How many weeks are you hun? Congratulations bet your over the moon it's so hard I keep thinking 2 but then i get so scared after what happened last time I wouldn't mind twins just get scared at what the doctors say but I have a friend who has had ivf and she had twins and everything was fine it's hard not knowing what to do... most people I have spoken to have all said 2 xx

[Cinderella5]

If it were me I'd personally go for putting 2 back but yes its a hug decision. My clinic feel that it improves the possibility of a pregnancy but of course there is a risk that both may stick. I always choose to put two back but havent had much luck so far. I think that if you think its your last go then go for broke!xx

[Mishmash12 in reply to Cinderella5]

I wanted 2 with my fresh but they said I could only have 1 because the risk of ohss I guess I'm just getting scared after all weve been through as the days go by I keep thinking 2 but then my mind goes back to 1 bloody hell this is so hard I really just want to give myself the best chance.. when i did the 1st round I new in my heart it would work I was testing positive from day 3 this time round I'm just scared I've got everything riding on this maybe 2 is the right way to go xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Mishmash12]

After your loss you are bound to be stressing out about everything....that's normal! I have only had early losses and the prospect of going again is so scary. Im terrified that we get a negative but also terrified of a positive as none have stuck so far, we lost the last 2. Best of luck with your decision, completely understand you not knowing what to do but keep thinking no regrets!xx

[Rella22]

Hi there,

If it was up to me and I had more on ice (or any) I’d definitely choose two. But this is something entirely up to you as it poses risks and if you’re not up for the possibility of multiple babies then better go with 1.

I am currently doing IVF and begging my clinic to allow 2 rather than 1 to give us a better chance of staying pregnant with one or two!

Best wishes in whatever you decide ❤️❤️

[Mishmash12 in reply to Rella22]

I dont mind how many babies I get it's the risk of losing 1 or losing both as they say 1 can pull away the other that's why I'm worried as I've said I've had a mmc on my 1st go and I'm so scared of it happening again if it works I guess I will have to make my mind up and stick to it it's just so hard xx

[MissSaoPaulo]

Everything you've written here makes me think, logically, go for 2:

- you said you would be happy to have twins

- if successful (fingers crossed!), given your previous experiences, you're going to be anxious and worried whether it's one or two

- if it's your last go you might as well put back two and increase (although not double) chances and the transfer cost will be the same I guess - it was at our clinic

However, you have to go with your gut on these things, so if deep down you're thinking 1, go for that.

Best of luck whichever you decide. I had a double transfer and one stuck. She's now 9 weeks old

[Mishmash12 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Your right I'm going to be worried no matter what if I have 1 or 2 I'm just gona go for it and have 2 my gut is telling me 2 my head says 1 I wanted 2 with my 1st go and wasnt allowed so I'm having 2 this time thank you xx and it's my last go xx

[Kitcat12]

I had a very similar decision to make last year, fresh transfer sadly ended in MC at 6 weeks and I had 5 frosties to use. Clinic recommended transfer of 2 day 5 blastocysts, both great quality but left the decision down to me. We decided to go for the double granger and I'm now 24 weeks with a single baby. I would always go for the 2! I was 30 at the time of transfer so quite young and both top quality blasts and still only one stuck so I'm definitely glad we went for the double. Best of luck whatever you decide x

[Mishmash12 in reply to Kitcat12]

Congratulations on baby.. xx I'm going for 2 my embryos are top grade 5day blasts aswell I just dont want to look back with regret knowing this will be my last go my gut keeps telling me 2 I dont no why my head says 1 I think it's all the scary things they tell you at the clinic with carrying more then 1 baby I'm 38 next I'm getting older by the day lol 2 is what I always wanted when I Frist started the process I guess I'm just getting scared at the last min after what happened in june as it was so hard losing baby after everything we went through I'm praying this time it works and we get our happy ending im also very ready for a negative test I wont get my Hope's up like I did with the last transfer once I got that positive im plan the rest of our life in my head because it's all I've ever wanted xx thank you hun and so happy you got your happy ending xxx

[Kitcat12 in reply to Mishmash12]

Thanks lovely, I totally relate to your mindset. I was exactly the same. I'll be looking out for your updates and keeping my fingers gets crossed for you x

[Sarah_37]

We have a 5 year old through ivf and have just had a frozen cycle. We knew we were only giving it one more go so opted to defrost all 4 frozen embies and have the 2 strongest put back. Now blessed and pregnant with one baby. Sadly one didn’t make it but feel so lucky to have one xx

[Mishmash12]

Thank you ladys after thinking long and hard I'm having 2 transferred there top grade both 2.2A so I'm praying this works xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Mishmash12]

Wishing you lots of luck.xx

[Mishmash12 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you😘😘