What to expect at First appointment at a fertility clinic?

[Luna2019]

Hi guys,

Soo I finally have my first appointment at a fertility clinic soon after two months of waiting for my referral to go through.

One of the reasons it has taken soo long is because we had to wait for 3 weeks to receive the result of my partners sperm test. Which came back all normal which is a good thing, however this may sound very selfish but I’m feeling slightly down as now I know it’s all down to me :(!

I was just hoping to get a little insight of what to expect from my first appointment? If anyone would like to share their experience would be greatly appreciated?

[Klndmr]

Heyyy do not feel that way! You are together in good and bad and think about it, no matter where the problem is the main thing is there is a solution 🥰🥰🥰🥰

The first appointments is mainly to talk about the causes of infertility, make an action plan with timeline etc and loads and loads of consent forms to read and sign. Make sure you prepare a list with questions of things you want to know. Best of luck on your journey! It's tough but you've got this. Do not let ivf overtake your life and make sure you still do some fun stuff with your other half. Do not forget to live while in the ivf bubble 🥰🥰🥰🥰💗💗💗💗💗

[Dev_J]

Hey there, try not to think about the cause. At the appointment ask about options that you have, timelines, further tests if required. I had an initial call with the Dr before I met him and he set realistic expectations.

[Jen37]

Hey,

You're not being selfish and it's perfectly normal to feel that way, but don't be hard on yourself. You are in this together and I bet your partner isn't thinking like that at all.

As the others have said the first appointment is just talk about the infertility and what is the best plan of action. There are a lot of forms to fill in so be prepared for that and definitely agree that you should take a list of questions with you. Don't be afraid to speak up if you don't understand something and don't worry if you forget to ask something as you can always call or email at a later date.

I would also say to be as open and honest with your partner and encourage them to be too. You have a tough journey ahead of you and it helps to talk to each other about how you are feeling. Try not to let it rule your life (easier said than done!) and definitely make time for each and to have fun and unwind. I know it all seems a little daunting at the moment but once you get your head round the treatment and what's involved it does make it easier.

Wishing you all the very best with your journey

xx

[sarahharas]

HI,

I felt the same when I got the result that it is all about me, but as everyone said, you are going through this together. It is nobody's fault and nobody is guilty and I am sure your husband does not feel like that.

My first appointment was very exciting actually. The doctor talked me through everything, asked a lot of questions. Then I had a scan which together with my bloods confirmed PCOS. And then already that day I took my first pill to start everything, I did not expect this.

I guess it depends on what the issue is, but they will definitely explore further the reason for your infertility and what actions might be take.

xx