Hi all, I hope this doesn’t upset anyone but I wanted to come back and share the end of my journey. I always found positive stories helpful and gave me that bit of hope that was needed.
My little girl was born 08/02/2019 weighing 9lbs 6oz (!) by emergency c section (11 days overdue) and I truly feel like the luckiest person in the world.
I first found out in 2007 that I would never become pregnant naturally. If only I had been able to know that nearly 12 years later I would have a baby in that same hospital - it would have saved years of heartache - but I guess infertility doesn’t work like that 😢
Although I didn’t begin my ivf journey until 2016, once I was married and I knew I had to try, the time was right and I felt ready for the battle. In the years up to it I never gave up the hope that maybe my period was late because I had been lucky that month- but no those negative pregnancy tests were always there and the sadness and pain hurt just as much each time.
One by one every friend became pregnant (several times over) and I was the only one who couldn’t join in baby meet ups and baby talks. It hurts like no one can ever describe. Each pregnancy announcement hurts like never before and I hated myself for crying(sobbing hysterically after putting on a brave face) alone and hating the fact they had become pregnant after one go (and what hurts more is them not knowing how lucky they are!). Finding this group and realising these are completely normal feelings made it that bit easier - I just wish I had found it years before. I would never wish it on anyone but knowing I wasn’t an awful person helped.
I honestly never believed I would have a baby, I had over the years thought it would never happen for us. There always seemed to be more bad news at the fertility clinic, each time destroying that little bit of hope I had left. My first round ended in a BFN and the sadness and pain hurt like hell, I will never forget that day. After my second round - Seeing that positive pregnant test (well about 20 just to be sure) is a moment I will cherish forever.
If I can give any advice it would be to be kind to yourself. If you don’t feel strong enough to attend a baby shower, get together etc then don’t. I didn’t tell many people about our ivf and there were some friendships that suffered. However after explaining our situation afterwards, people understand (to some degree!) and these friendships are now ok. You have to look after yourselves and be strong. Save your strength for fighting this cruel battle.
Be proud of what you are doing, it’s tough and a relationship that can get through ivf, can get through anything. Il tell anyone who will listen about our journey now - I’m proud of what we got through. Anyone who can pull off a two week wait - is one tough cookie! It’s amazing though opening up about it, the amount of people who have told me about their own fertility problems. Oh and yes I really enjoyed telling the woman who relished in telling me over the years we needed to crack on with having children and maybe get rid of the TV in the bedroom - yes if that had been our problem it would have saved us years of heartache!! Over the years I’ve heard it all.
Also don’t read into signs on your TWW (I know easier said than done) but both mine were the same - on both I felt my period was coming and I was adamant the second go hadnt worked. I never had any of the common pregnancy symptoms, was never sick, never had sore boobs, big boobs - nothing! It was only when the heartburn kicked in at about week 15 that I felt any different. And believe me I looked for any small change 😂 just for reassurance all was ok.
Anyway I honestly wish every single one of you all the luck in the world. You truly deserve this and I hope all your dreams come true. My journey over the years will never leave me and I think about you all most days, never forgetting how lucky I am. Some of you have been through so much - my heart is saddened by the things some have gone through, sometimes several times over. My heart also smiles for the happy news on here and hopefully you all one day get to be the amazing parents you deserve to be 😊
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Your baby girl is georgeous, congratulations! I am so glad it all worked out in the end for you. I can totally relate to your story and loved reading about it, thank you for sharing your journey!
What a heart warming, honest and helpful post. Thank you so much. It’s really helped me 😊😊 I love these birth posts it brings so much hope to me. Enjoy your beautiful baby girl 💕💕 xxxx
This post really made me feel so much better. It gave me this hope that things could work for us as well. Congratulations to you! I am soo happy that things worked in your case. Just stay strong and postive. I got my first BFP as well. However, I am still a little skeptical about the situation. Hoping it all goes smoothly.
Thank you 😊 and massive congratulations on your BFP! It’s hard when you have gone through so much to get this point. I still didn’t believe I was having an actual baby even in labour 😂 wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy 🥰
Like you we also feel incredibly lucky to got our happy ending 😍 it’s like we won the lottery but better 🙂very exciting times ahead ❤️👶🏻 I definitely agree the journey stays with you & I’ve resigned myself to the fact most people will never understand.
My mother in law has been very annoying first of all had a preference for a girl 🙈( obviously we didn’t have any preference) then started saying should you buy pink ( we are having a baby girl) in case you have a boy next time!! We have said we are not doing this again & I have said countless times how lucky we are to have one baby & some aren’t so lucky.
I love to see others get their happy endings & that’s why I stay here 💗 xoxo
Yes I’m totally with you on that. We are completely happy and thankful for our one little miracle, we won’t be trying further - blooming grateful we are lucky (not young enough or rich enough either!). Like you I already get the will you be trying again or well a friend of mine got pregnant naturally after ivf itl happen for you. Ur no Iv literally been sterilised (tubes clipped!) so if it didn’t happen before it def isn’t now 😂
And Iv Leant that as much as people try and understand unless Uv been through it you just don’t “get it”
Like we all do.
Yep I’m keeping the app on my phone to pop in from time to time, seeing those happy endings is just amazing ... itl be yours very soon too 🥰😍 very much deserved xx
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m still fairly new to all this and at the beginning of my journey but it’s so nice to hear positive stories like yours and that it can work! A big congratulations to you and your daughter looks super cute!!
Huge congratulations, your baby is so sweet! Enjoy every second- as I’m sure you will! It was nice to hear you had no symptoms in the beginning, I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant and not feeling any symptoms, so it’s put my mind at rest a little! X
Thank you 😊 yes I would have paid to have had a bit of sickness just to feel “pregnant” but I was just fortunate to have an easy pregnancy. If it wasn’t for having ivf I could have easily got to 20 weeks without knowing! I think we just need reassurance but it’s just completely normal not to have any symptoms. Wishing you a healthy happy pregnancy 😍
Are she is gorgeous!!! Congratulations! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Thanks for sharing your journey with us. I can see myself in yours and I couldn’t have written it better. I wish you all the best xx
Massive congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl and thank you for sharing your story. It’s such a relentless journey so hearing good news really does help x
Hi Star. Fabulous! Hold her close and enjoy her laughter, as you are going to know love like you've never known before. xxxxx's and gentle hug for you. Diane
What more can we say than Thank you ? If only I had the confirmation that it will happen for sure in 2/5/10 years I would be soooo patient and willing to wait. But the struggle... Damn, that's difficult. Congratulations on your precious little one. Sending you love!
Thank you 😊 yes I’m with you on that - just knowing it would all work out in the end, I guess that’s one of the things that make it so blooming tough. Fingers crossed and zillions of luck for you that it does 😘
Aww thank you, I’m glad it helped. I know when I first joined a few years ago these posts gave me the hope that it can and does work out. I truly hope you get to do yours one day very soon. The bestest of luck to you xx 😘
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