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Sensitive post - birth announcement and to wish everyone all the luck in the world

Star9
Star9
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Hi all, I hope this doesn’t upset anyone but I wanted to come back and share the end of my journey. I always found positive stories helpful and gave me that bit of hope that was needed.

My little girl was born 08/02/2019 weighing 9lbs 6oz (!) by emergency c section (11 days overdue) and I truly feel like the luckiest person in the world.

I first found out in 2007 that I would never become pregnant naturally. If only I had been able to know that nearly 12 years later I would have a baby in that same hospital - it would have saved years of heartache - but I guess infertility doesn’t work like that 😢

Although I didn’t begin my ivf journey until 2016, once I was married and I knew I had to try, the time was right and I felt ready for the battle. In the years up to it I never gave up the hope that maybe my period was late because I had been lucky that month- but no those negative pregnancy tests were always there and the sadness and pain hurt just as much each time.

One by one every friend became pregnant (several times over) and I was the only one who couldn’t join in baby meet ups and baby talks. It hurts like no one can ever describe. Each pregnancy announcement hurts like never before and I hated myself for crying(sobbing hysterically after putting on a brave face) alone and hating the fact they had become pregnant after one go (and what hurts more is them not knowing how lucky they are!). Finding this group and realising these are completely normal feelings made it that bit easier - I just wish I had found it years before. I would never wish it on anyone but knowing I wasn’t an awful person helped.

I honestly never believed I would have a baby, I had over the years thought it would never happen for us. There always seemed to be more bad news at the fertility clinic, each time destroying that little bit of hope I had left. My first round ended in a BFN and the sadness and pain hurt like hell, I will never forget that day. After my second round - Seeing that positive pregnant test (well about 20 just to be sure) is a moment I will cherish forever.

If I can give any advice it would be to be kind to yourself. If you don’t feel strong enough to attend a baby shower, get together etc then don’t. I didn’t tell many people about our ivf and there were some friendships that suffered. However after explaining our situation afterwards, people understand (to some degree!) and these friendships are now ok. You have to look after yourselves and be strong. Save your strength for fighting this cruel battle.

Be proud of what you are doing, it’s tough and a relationship that can get through ivf, can get through anything. Il tell anyone who will listen about our journey now - I’m proud of what we got through. Anyone who can pull off a two week wait - is one tough cookie! It’s amazing though opening up about it, the amount of people who have told me about their own fertility problems. Oh and yes I really enjoyed telling the woman who relished in telling me over the years we needed to crack on with having children and maybe get rid of the TV in the bedroom - yes if that had been our problem it would have saved us years of heartache!! Over the years I’ve heard it all.

Also don’t read into signs on your TWW (I know easier said than done) but both mine were the same - on both I felt my period was coming and I was adamant the second go hadnt worked. I never had any of the common pregnancy symptoms, was never sick, never had sore boobs, big boobs - nothing! It was only when the heartburn kicked in at about week 15 that I felt any different. And believe me I looked for any small change 😂 just for reassurance all was ok.

Anyway I honestly wish every single one of you all the luck in the world. You truly deserve this and I hope all your dreams come true. My journey over the years will never leave me and I think about you all most days, never forgetting how lucky I am. Some of you have been through so much - my heart is saddened by the things some have gone through, sometimes several times over. My heart also smiles for the happy news on here and hopefully you all one day get to be the amazing parents you deserve to be 😊

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CatDV

What a sweet baby you have there 🥰

Congratulations, and enjoy being a mummy xx

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Star9
Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Hollibob

Congrats on your happy news x

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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ElishaEzykyl

Congrats and enjoy your little angel

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Kyell2

What a gorgeous baby girl😊. Massive congratulations xx

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Star9
Star9
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Thank you 😊

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SConnor

Your baby girl is georgeous, congratulations! I am so glad it all worked out in the end for you. I can totally relate to your story and loved reading about it, thank you for sharing your journey!

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Wtfc

This post is so beautiful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing, giving me hope. Lots of love to you and your beautiful family 💖💕🌟

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Hidden
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so glad it worked out for you x your little girl is gorgeous congratulations x now enjou being a mummy and have lots of cuddles xxx

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Star9
Star9
in reply to Hidden

Thank you and I will 😊

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Leesara

Huge congratulations to you

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Gemz29

Congratulations and what a lovely post 💕 xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Wrighty82

Many congratulations!!

What a heart warming, honest and helpful post. Thank you so much. It’s really helped me 😊😊 I love these birth posts it brings so much hope to me. Enjoy your beautiful baby girl 💕💕 xxxx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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hannahding

This post really made me feel so much better. It gave me this hope that things could work for us as well. Congratulations to you! I am soo happy that things worked in your case. Just stay strong and postive. I got my first BFP as well. However, I am still a little skeptical about the situation. Hoping it all goes smoothly.

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Star9
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in reply to hannahding

Thank you 😊 and massive congratulations on your BFP! It’s hard when you have gone through so much to get this point. I still didn’t believe I was having an actual baby even in labour 😂 wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy 🥰

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Drives

What a lovely post!

Huge congratulations, I'm so happy for you 💕

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Star9
Star9
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Thank you 😊

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CardiBaby

What a beautiful post! Must feel like a dream 🥰

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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gcw104

Aww beautiful baby x

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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everhopeful83

This is a lovely lovely post💝 huge congratulations! She’s beautiful xxx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Camillage

Massive congratulations xxx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Kazz777

Congratulations to you. Absolute beauty you get there. Thank you for your positive vibes we need them xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Anna_88

Thank you so much and congratulations xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Georgie17

So gorgeous ....congratulations to you both. You story gives me hope so thank you xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Apples2665

Amazing words and a beautiful baby ❤️

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Jane_141

Congratulations, thank you for sharing and reminding me there is hope xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Rainbowhope

Thank you for your kind post. Congratultlations. Best of luck in this new journey.

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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jess1981

What a beautiful post I have a tear in my eye reading it. We had a long 7 year struggle & I can identify with so much you have said.

Anyway congratulations on your having your beautiful daughter. So glad she’s here safe & sound. Enjoy every moment with her 😍xoxo

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Star9
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Thank you 😊 I was tearing up writing it. Even though I was lucky enough to have a happy ending- the getting there will always stay with me.

Congratulations to you too, you must be so excited to meet your long awaited little one 🥰 xxx

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jess1981
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in reply to Star9

Thank you.

Like you we also feel incredibly lucky to got our happy ending 😍 it’s like we won the lottery but better 🙂very exciting times ahead ❤️👶🏻 I definitely agree the journey stays with you & I’ve resigned myself to the fact most people will never understand.

My mother in law has been very annoying first of all had a preference for a girl 🙈( obviously we didn’t have any preference) then started saying should you buy pink ( we are having a baby girl) in case you have a boy next time!! We have said we are not doing this again & I have said countless times how lucky we are to have one baby & some aren’t so lucky.

I love to see others get their happy endings & that’s why I stay here 💗 xoxo

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Star9
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Yes I’m totally with you on that. We are completely happy and thankful for our one little miracle, we won’t be trying further - blooming grateful we are lucky (not young enough or rich enough either!). Like you I already get the will you be trying again or well a friend of mine got pregnant naturally after ivf itl happen for you. Ur no Iv literally been sterilised (tubes clipped!) so if it didn’t happen before it def isn’t now 😂

And Iv Leant that as much as people try and understand unless Uv been through it you just don’t “get it”

Like we all do.

Yep I’m keeping the app on my phone to pop in from time to time, seeing those happy endings is just amazing ... itl be yours very soon too 🥰😍 very much deserved xx

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Poppy16

Massive congrats! Delighted for you. A beautiful baby girl. X

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Noah1981

Wow what a story you have given me hope on my own journey your little girl is beautiful now go and enjoy motherhood there is no better feeling xxx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Catgirl1976

Congratulations on the new arrival!

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Purple_star

Hi

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m still fairly new to all this and at the beginning of my journey but it’s so nice to hear positive stories like yours and that it can work! A big congratulations to you and your daughter looks super cute!!

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Star9
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in reply to Purple_star

Thank you 😊 and good luck with everything 😘

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Purple_star
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Thank you x

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Shelleybean

Gorgeous baby girl and beautiful words. Thank you and congratulations xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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ArienAnwamane

You. Are. Amazing.

Everyone here is amazing no matter what you've gone through, what you're fighting for, the positives and the negatives.

Thank you Star9 for your story.

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Star9
Star9
in reply to ArienAnwamane

Thank you 😊 your right I have never come across so many amazing and strong people 😘

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CJones40

Huge congratulations, your baby is so sweet! Enjoy every second- as I’m sure you will! It was nice to hear you had no symptoms in the beginning, I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant and not feeling any symptoms, so it’s put my mind at rest a little! X

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Star9
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Thank you 😊 yes I would have paid to have had a bit of sickness just to feel “pregnant” but I was just fortunate to have an easy pregnancy. If it wasn’t for having ivf I could have easily got to 20 weeks without knowing! I think we just need reassurance but it’s just completely normal not to have any symptoms. Wishing you a healthy happy pregnancy 😍

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CJones40
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Thank you. Xx

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Cinderella5

Congratulations, she is beautiful! What a beautiful message to everyone on here too!! Wishing you all the best.xx

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Star9
Star9
in reply to Cinderella5

Thank you 😊 just wanted to pass on some of the amazing support I received - this group is priceless 😊

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mimisquiz77

Are she is gorgeous!!! Congratulations! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Thanks for sharing your journey with us. I can see myself in yours and I couldn’t have written it better. I wish you all the best xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Lots8788

Many congratulations to you, shes gorgeous. Thank you for sharing your story xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Hopingforgood

Congrats dear for the bestest gift of god. May god bless u n ur family always

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Babyjoshua

She is so beautiful and sweet congratulation.

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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3005

Massive congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl and thank you for sharing your story. It’s such a relentless journey so hearing good news really does help x

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Debrakay1704

What a lovely post, so overwhelmed by your lovely news, congratulations. xxxxxx

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Star9
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DianeArnold
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Hi Star. Fabulous! Hold her close and enjoy her laughter, as you are going to know love like you've never known before. xxxxx's and gentle hug for you. Diane

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Elynn

So encouraging thank you. Such a beautiful baby.

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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hoping-for-the-best

What a lovely post - thank you for sharing your story and congratulations! Xx

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Star9

Thank you 😊

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ALLY81

Congratulations your story gives so much hope and inspiration xxx

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Star9
Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Devj

Aaw congratulations on your miracle, what a gorgeous little one!

Enjoy every second xx

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Star9
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Thank you 😊

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ChristineB05

Congratulations lovely, she is gorgeous. Thank you for sharing your inspiring story, it gives me hope that I will realise my dream 💜💜

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Star9
Star9
in reply to ChristineB05

Thank you 😊 and I hope so much you do 😘

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Core

Congratulations and thanks for sharing your story and such positive words xx

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Star9
Star9
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Thank you 😊

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Hidden
Hidden

Beautiful baby and a really touching post! Congratulations! Xx

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Star9
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Aww thank you 😊

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lilou3110

What more can we say than Thank you ? If only I had the confirmation that it will happen for sure in 2/5/10 years I would be soooo patient and willing to wait. But the struggle... Damn, that's difficult. Congratulations on your precious little one. Sending you love!

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Star9
Star9
in reply to lilou3110

Thank you 😊 yes I’m with you on that - just knowing it would all work out in the end, I guess that’s one of the things that make it so blooming tough. Fingers crossed and zillions of luck for you that it does 😘

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Dace19

This has made my day!

Your description of feelings in the early stages is where I’m at now!

It’s only now that even my husband really understands why I get wound up as he’s suffering too!

I hope that in the next couple of years I can post a happy ever after like you that will brighten people’s shitty days.

Congratulations x

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Star9
Star9
in reply to Dace19

Aww thank you, I’m glad it helped. I know when I first joined a few years ago these posts gave me the hope that it can and does work out. I truly hope you get to do yours one day very soon. The bestest of luck to you xx 😘

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