After a fifth straight BFN on Saturday we’ve decided to give up on IVF and we’ll go down the adoption route to get our family.. in the meantime we’re going to go on holiday and then get a puppy to help us heal 💔💗.
Infertility - you’ve beaten us but you haven’t broken us.
IVF has taken everything out of us and unfortunately we’re one of the unlucky few where it just didn’t work and they’re not really sure why but I know our relationship is stronger as a result. We tried our very best and couldn’t have done more so now I think it’s time to bow out gracefully and accept defeat. Thanks to this forum for all the support and I genuinely hope the rest of you get your miracles and I wish you all the best on this incredibly tough road. We are all warriors 💪🏻 each and every one. Suzanne 💗xx
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What a strong and positive post. I can imagine it’s been a long and tough journey for you both. Congratulations on taking back some control and choosing your future; it’s a decision that requires determination and strength, both individually and as a couple.
There is a child who is out there right now who waiting for you to be their mum, they don’t know how lucky that are that it’s going to be you!
Wishing you lots of love and happiness with your new family.xx
Ps Puppies are THE best! I got my little chap 12yrs ago after my 1st BFN; I’m so grateful for the world of difference that he made. Go for it, you won’t regret it!
Thank you so much that’s lovely of you to say. It’s funny that we’re all strangers on here but just like a big family in terms of the bonds and understanding. Good luck to you xxx
This post has filled my eyes with tears! You are amazing 🤗💕 I wish you all the success in the world. You are going to be one truly inspirational mum xxxxx
I’m so sorry you didn’t get your BFP, but I want to wish you the best with the adoption route. I think it’s a wonderful thing to do. I hope it’s not too long before you find the child that is meant for you 😍 Enjoy your holiday & please do keep us updated with your journey. Wishing you every happiness xoxo
Thanks Jess. I will stay on here and keep you all posted but we’re going to take a good break from everything and leave it a while before looking into adoption just so we’ve fully come to terms with everything and we’ll go for counselling. I think they need you to have done that before they accept you anyway xx all the best to you
You're an inspiration to us all - and I'm sure you would be able to give an adopted child a wonderful life filled with lots of love. I'm sorry to hear that it hasn't worked out, all we can do is live in hope on this journey. I wish you a wonderful future going forward x
What an inspirational lady you are. I am so sorry to hear your struggles , you are so positive and although i know it may be something that can’t be maintained but your plan is really well thought out. I love that your relationship is so strong and you are amazing !!!! Take care x
I'm so sorry it didnt happen for you and your partner you are such a strong postive lady... this post brought tears to my eyes. good luck with the adoption when you do it I hope all goes well. take care of yourself xx
Such a strong and brave post for a Monday morning; thank you. I am sorry the ever so elusive BFP didn't find its way to you, but I wish you and your husband all the very best for the future. My sister and her hubby adopted a baby 18 months ago. She is growing into an amazing little girl, happy, confident and surrounded by love. Whichever route to parenthood is taken, it will be worth every aching step. Take care, and cling on to your incredible attitude, xxx
A beautiful and honest post. Good luck with your future. IVF may not always result in a baby, but it certainly brings teachings on who we are, what we value, why we want what we want, what we need versus what we thought we wanted , and how there’s a greater plan for us than the one we are able to imagine.
You are an inspiration to us all. You have been an amazing support to me. Be kind to yourselves. Take as long as you need. Stay strong. Lots of love 💖 xxx
Sorry to hear your news ... but what a lovely thing to do. There are so many children out there that need a loving home and they will be so lucky to have you as parents. I hope you have a really amazing holiday and find a loving puppy to focus on in the meantime. Hope all goes well for you xx
Thanks Sarah. All the best to you and good luck! I will stay on here. We need to come to terms with everything first and we don’t even know if we’d be accepted for adoption but we will def have a little family one way or another hopefully in the not so distant future! Xx
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you are such a strong postive lady... this post brought tears to my eyes. good luck with the adoption when you do it I hope all goes well. take care of yourself xx 
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