I never thought I’d be upset on Mother’s Day

[PurpleLove19]

I have always loved Mothers Day and I’ve not just celebrated my own mum but all women in my life that act as a mum towards me and who have looked after me!

I’ve always felt so lucky to have my mum and Nan, who are my complete rocks especially at this tough time, still here and my thoughts have always gone to those who have lost their mums.

Leading up to today I’ve known I wasn’t looking forward to it. My mum has gone away for a holiday so I knew I wouldn’t be seeing her and my nan had plans. I decided that I would spend a day with my two gorgeous fur babies- my dogs.

I joked with my husband about him getting me “pity presents” off the dogs.

This morning he gave me the most beautifully written card off them and some little gifts. I wasn’t bothered about gifts really but the card brought me to tears.

He went to his mums. I didn’t feel like going incase our little cutie of a nephew, he’s 1, was going to be their with his lovely insensitive sister.

I just knew I wouldn’t cope! I felt so guilty when he left! Cried again as some of my friends on social media had put lovely posts about people wanting to be mums. Shouldn’t have gone on today but I did! Then I saw it- the sister-In-laws over the top, insensitive post about “Always wanted to be a mama” well then I just realised that’s the reason I didn’t go!

I’ve kept busy- cleaning. My husband came back and he had been crying. He feels it just like me. I gave him a hug and we got on the day as normal.

Home is my happy place and I’m happy that I trusted my gut- which was to avoid people today. Today was hard and it’s a new feeling to all the emotions I already have.

I have such a huge support around me and now I’ve joined on here I’m hoping to become more stronger and resilient!

Well done to everyone that’s going through this undeserved emotional rollercoaster.

One thing I’m getting better at is feeling less guilty about having self care time and avoiding situations that make me feel anxious.

By self care I mean- pjs, Netflix and Ben and Jerry’s. Xx

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[Scarlett13]

Well you already sound very resilient, brave and strong...and your husband sounds like the perfect partner to get through this journey with - how thoughtful that you got gifts and card from the dogs ❤️ also, I’m really pleased that your husband is able to open up and let his emotions out, we have to be vulnerable with each other - one does not have to be strong for the other. Keeping yourself safe on days like today is super important. Well done you two - you sound like you have the right foundation to deal with and overcome whatever is thrown your way x

[PurpleLove19 in reply to Scarlett13]

Thank you!

He is the best husband I could ever want. There are days I can’t speak or be affectionate but I think that’s more to do with the stress of my job not the stress we are going through together.

He is one that lets his emotions out and it’s like we know when the other is having a bad day as he will message me at work and I know he’s having a bad day. It’s brought us closer and when/if we get our happy ending then I just think we will be even stronger.

I had a feeling he would off load to his mum and Dad today so that was another reason I let him go alone.

I sometimes need see my family alone so I can off load.

I am still learning when to say no to things but now people are aware of how I feel I find it easier to say no I am not coming.

Dogs are the best company in the world! I’d recommend to anyone. X

[Scarlett13 in reply to PurpleLove19]

I would definitely say that my partner and I have become closer and stronger through this journey - I think it either makes or breaks couples. My fur baby had all the cuddles in the works today (ragdoll cat) 🐾💕 Keep talking, keep hugging xxx

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We have a very spoilt ginger tabby cat called baby who is 15 in a couple of weeks!

[Scarlett13 in reply to Hidden]

Awwwwww xxxx

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Baby gets everything she wants and will be getting a 15th birthday party and she has a friend who is a colleagues cat who is a brown and white tabby called Percy who is 15 in June who is ruined as well.

[Scarlett13 in reply to Hidden]

I hope they get drunk together x

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Yes I had similar experience. I started crying in my yoga class when the teacher dedicated the class to all Mums. 😂 just couldn’t help it - it all came flooding out.

I spent the day with two close friends both of whom have lost their Mum so we hid away from social media together.

Hope you’re feeling better and by next year you’ll have a new addition as well as your fur babies. X

[Scarlett13 in reply to Hidden]

Did people in the yoga class notice? Hope you were ok xxxxx glad you had your friends support x

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No, I’m a quiet crier - I just get streaming tears and nose. The teacher did notice when I left the room to get tissue - at the point i was soaking my mat with my leaking face...! I think the fertility stuff is always bubbling under the surface for me and it doesn’t take much to trigger it to come to the surface.

[PurpleLove19 in reply to Hidden]

You’re are so right!

It’s always bubbling. I’ve almost lost my temper today at work.

Trying to set me deadlines for things and I am like “No, I’m starting IVF around then!” I feel I’m on the defence a lot x

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Yes trying to plan anything is a bit of a nightmare isn’t it. Finger crossed not for all that much longer! X

[Vatty]

How thoughtful was your husband so nice. Yesterday was an awful day such an sensitive Social media posts. A new month starts today good to get the month of Mother’s Day over. Doing so well take care xx

[3005]

I live away from home and the hubby was away the weekend too so i was on my own and I cried like a baby all morning then decided right that’s enough get ready get out. People really don’t realise how hard it is for those wanting children on Mother’s Day, don’t get me started on social media.

Hope you’re ok today, these things we go through eh!

[Novice_knitter]

All about self care in this journey - really brings home the importance of it 💛 bless your hubby - hope you shared the ice cream with him when he got home! Xx