2ww buddy?

[Cuppa]

Had my FET on Friday (11/1) and now on the dreaded 2ww. After my 1st fresh cycle in June I had a chemical pregnancy, so it’s so nerve wrecking this time round! We don’t have any more embryos on ice, so feeling the pressure!

Anyone else on their 2ww?

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Cuppa. I'm sure lots of these lovely ladies here will be available to support you. Good luck! Diane

[Cuppa in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you Diane x

[SeaChange]

Not at the 2ww yet. Had a failed fresh cycle in Oct last year and starting again with a medicated cycle frozen transfer in Feb.

Sending lots of luck and wishes your way for the 2ww! Hope it isn’t too tough and you find time for you and to relax. Xx

[Cuppa in reply to SeaChange]

Thank you, wishing you every bit of luck for February too 🤞🏻X

[FoxBaby]

Hi Cuppa I had my very first ivf fresh transfer on 10/01 so am in my 2ww too. How are you feeling? Unfortunately I started to bleed yesterday so feeling quite down. The clinic said not to stop taking the progesterone yet though and to wait til my test.

[Cuppa in reply to FoxBaby]

Hi Foxbaby, thanks for replying. I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a bleed, has it settled down now? Try & keep positive, I’ve read & been told that it happens a lot and ladies can still end up with a positive, it’s just so hard to tell. The 2ww is just a nightmare isn’t it? X

[FoxBaby in reply to Cuppa]

Thanks cuppa, yes it really is! I'd kept myself so calm through the whole process but this has knocked me as it seems so soon after transfer so didn't feel mentally prepared for anything conclusive yet. I know it's not over til I get the test but it feels so unlikely as it turned into proper bleeding. Just have to wait and see now. Did you have to wait a while between your fresh and FET?

[Cuppa in reply to FoxBaby]

It’s certainly tough & a rollercoaster. I was told to wait for 2 cycles before we could go for the FET, but due to work committments / life in general we ended up waiting a longer and I’m glad I gave my body a good rest. I had to build myself up to face it again, especially with this being our last attempt.

[FoxBaby in reply to Cuppa]

That makes a lot of sense and sounds very wise to give your body chance to recover. When's your test day? X

[Cuppa in reply to FoxBaby]

I definitely think I needed the break and felt like I wanted to stop putting things on hold, so just did it when it was best for us. My test date is 24/1, feels like so lonnnng away! When are you due to test?

[FoxBaby in reply to Cuppa]

I completely get that, feel like I've put so much of life on hold on this journey. You need to be able to focus on other things in life to keep yourself sane! Mine's on 23rd but as I started bleeding yesterday I called the clinic and they said if I wanted I could do a blood test on Saturday, so I think I'll do that. Keep me updated, sending lots of positive thoughts your way x

[Cuppa in reply to FoxBaby]

Sending you positives thoughts back too, I hope it is all ok. I know how you feel and it’s just horrible. Please let me know how you get on with your bloods and I’ll do the same x

[Cuppa in reply to FoxBaby]

Fix baby, how are you today? I’m praying your bleeding has settled. X

[FoxBaby in reply to Cuppa]

Hi Cuppa, thanks for the message. Had my hcg blood test today and it came back negative. I had expected it so feel like I did a lot of my grieving during the week so I'm feeling ok at the moment. Hope you're doing ok, how are you feeling? Praying you get your bfp, it sounds like you've been through an awful lot x

[Cuppa in reply to FoxBaby]

I’m so sorry to hear that, it’s so awful. I think we build ourselves up for bad news, but still when you get it you need to allow yourself time, it’s bloody hard. Do u think you will try again or is it too early to say?

Thank you, we have been through an awful lot & im praying for a positive. I’m feeling ok, feel very tired & sick, so I just keep eating! It’s hard to know whether the symptoms are genuine or from the medication, so have no idea!

I am truly sorry for your outcome and believe me I know what you are going through, ivf is so tough. I hope you are okay x

[FoxBaby in reply to Cuppa]

Hi cuppa, thank you for your lovely message. Sorry I've been awol I've just been taking time to heal, there's been some pretty low days but today was a good one. Been thinking of you lots especially yesterday and logged on to see your news. I am so sorry to hear it was negative. I know you mentioned this would be the last go, is that definitely the case? Sending lots of hugs, I know how crushing it feels xxx

[Cuppa in reply to FoxBaby]

Hi Foxbaby, thank you for your message. I’m okay, finding myself being ok one minute & upset the next. We can’t do it again, it’s just too much money. I’m so disappointed and the desire for another child will not just go away. I’m very thankful that we already have a child, but it’s still hard to take. I wish you all the very best with your future ivf journey, it’s certainly not for the faint hearted x

[HollieW]

Wishing you lots of luck and that you get your BFP 🤞 xx

[Stephj18]

Hey! 🙋🏻‍♀️ I’m on the tww. Had a fresh transfer on Monday. This is my second transfer.

How are you feeling x

[Cuppa in reply to Stephj18]

Hi, I am doing okay at the moment. How are you feeling?

[Stephj18 in reply to Cuppa]

Yeah I’m ok. I’ve not been sleeping though ☹️ past two days insomnia has kicked in.

How has your journey been x

[Cuppa in reply to Stephj18]

Sorry for delay. My journey has been like lots of other, a complete rollercoaster. My fresh cycle failed due to a CP, which was gutting, especially as the year b4 I had an a ectopic. My husband was diagnosed with leukaemia in 2015, and due to his meds changing (in 2016) we cannot ttc naturally. Thankfully we have a DD, who we are so thankful for. Therefore our ivf has been self funded and we cannot afford to do it again. I had a good response re EC having 8 maturing, but only 2 made it to freezing grade, 1 was used for fresh cycle & we have just used the last. Got everything riding on this little embryo, so fingers crossed tightly.

How are you feeling today?

[Stephj18 in reply to Cuppa]

Oh wow! You have been through some rough times! I really hope this little embryo is the one!! I hope your husband is getting better. We have self funded this time too and it is tough ☹️

Feel better today. First time I slept all night this week. Days are dragging now x

[Cuppa in reply to Stephj18]

Yes, won’t lie it’s been tough. My husband was only 30 & as got as a fiddle, so a complete shock. He is doing really well, there’s no cure but it’s maintained by medication - pray for a cure to the big c one day, it’s got to be out there somewhere. I’m glad your doing ok and managed to sleep, sleep is the key somethings, makes everything look brighter the next day. Wishing you well & keep the updates coming, it’s nice to have someone to chat to who is going through the same x

[Cuppa in reply to Stephj18]

Hi, I’m just wondering how things went for you? 🤞🏻

[Stephj18 in reply to Cuppa]

Hey! Yes I’m doing good thank you! I got a bfp and I’m having my 6 week scan on Tuesday 😊 how are you xx

[Cuppa]

Update: started spotting 11dpt with watery brown stuff, not a lot tho. Continued and turned pinky 12 & 13 dpt, again not a lot only in morning. Tested this morning (OTD - 14dpt) and it’s a bfn. Gutted it is the word.

[Hidden in reply to Cuppa]

Oh no I am so sorry to read this. Big hugs to you. It's a very very hard journey - especially when every single element is under the microscope. I hope you can take the time to recover before you plan your next step xx

[Cuppa in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, it will take time to heal, again. There’s no next step for us, cannot afford to do another fresh cycle and tbh I don’t think I could go through it again. Wishing everyone luck, it’s so bloody tough. Wouldn’t wish this outcome on anyone. 😪

[Hidden in reply to Cuppa]

Oh cuppa, it really is so so hard. Hopefully you have lots of support around you xx

[Cuppa in reply to Hidden]

I do, which I am thankful for. I think I’m more worried about returning to work. People don’t know, and because my 2ww happened directly after my Christmas leave I’ve been off for a while, so people are going to ask. I’m so fearful I’ll just keep bursting into tears, and I don’t want to be that person. I’m happy to cry at home, but not in front of colleagues, I just feel uncomfortable with that.