Scan pictures 😥

[LucyBeaver]

Why do people put scan picture *warning* it’s too late by then I’ve akready seen the picture . And then they say sorry! 😢

[TRYING2016]

People who post the scan picture don’t put it up to upset anyone (although it may). They put it up because they have gone through a journey just like us and it is to give us women hope who are yet to become mothers.

I understand you may be upset and it is upsetting as it is a difficult journey but it was and is for them too.

Goodluck Lucy wherever you are at your journey and i hope looking at these beautiful scan pictures gives you hope like it does me x

[HollieW]

I agree with trying2016. Although it is difficult it does give those going through this hope. If we only ever saw the negatives of IVF it would never seem worth it! Wishing you luck on your journey xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I think it depends if you’re looking on a computer or on a mobile app as to whether it shows up right away. I know they can be a trigger but they can also give hope. Best of luck on your journey xx

[Kyell2]

Hi Lucy, I hope you are ok. Are you new to the forum, if so you’ll have lots of support here if you need anything.

We kinda like scan pics around here because we all know how difficult it was to get there. Each one is like a mini celebration.

I know it can be tough though to see them on a low day. Sending hugs your way xx

[Hidden]

I understand how people find this upsetting.

I post updates after scans but not photos and I wonder if this is a good idea......

I found scan photos and even baby photos after birth encouraging when I was going through IVF just to visualise my goal.....to show me why I was going through it all.....even after my failed cycle I found it gave me hope to keep going.

Hope that the forum can offer you lots of support if you can overcome the trauma of seeing the scan photos from time to time.

Xxx

[Gem5]

You can read such sad stories on here all day long, scan pictures just prove that our dreams are possible. Personally I love any positive threads as it gives us a little hope. Good luck on your journey

[genten]

Hi

I understand that it hurts and it's hard to see but I also find it comforting that the treatment that I'm going through has worked for others. I also think that they themselves have been through super tough, scary and emotional times to get where they are and as others say, picture updates definitely give me hope.

Mirroring what the others have said, I hope you'll be able to find support and advice here on the forum.

Xx

[Hidden]

I agree with the others. Amongst all the negativity the positive posts give us hope. Everyone on here has been going through such pain and heartache, it is so comforting to know that we get there in the end. Wishing you every luck in your journey. Do lean on us or feel free to have a rant any time you like. That's what we are all here for xxx

[kelsbels88]

Hi Lucy I hope you’re doing ok...

As the others have said they can on the low days be hard to see however they do give loads of us hope to keep going.

I know although I have low days that make it challenging this journey has been so full of negatives for me that seeing others get their dream endings is a sign that it’s still possible for me and reminds me to never give up on my dream.

Know that this forum is full of amazing ladies all struggling with their journeys just like you may be we are all here to support each other and you if you need us xxx

[kt_11]

As Lizzielizzielizzie says, it depends which device you’re using. If you’re on a computer, the pictures don’t come up until you click the title so by putting a warning it stops people looking if they would prefer not to. I only really use the mobile app so the photos are there anyway.

Sorry if you have a reason to find it difficult to see these pictures. I always found it inspiring to see success stories on here as I knew what people had been through to get there. I always felt very different seeing people’s test & scan pics on here compared with the flippant way that people tend to put them on social media. Seeing some people have success after years of difficulties definitely gave me hope for my journey.

Although it’s really important that people feel they can vent about their struggles here at difficult times, if it was all negative I’m not sure I’d have bothered staying. I was always glad of be able to see both sides of the coin when going through my treatment and now I like to feel my successful treatment can help bring hope to others. Take care of yourself xx

[Lynnr54]

If you’re struggling to see scan pictures then I think there are a couple of possible ways around it. One thing you can do is get a daily newsfeed emailed to your phone - each story has the heading and first couple of lines so you can decide which ones you want to click into. The downside to that is that you’re usually a day behind on everything. But if you do it daily you don’t miss anything.

The other thing is to scroll down on your phone to after a post has finished and it will show you the next 2-3 posts and I’ve never seen pictures on there. The challenge with that one is that you need to work out how to get to the most recent post without having to scroll through all posts and work out which is the most recent. I’ve never worked out how to get newsfeed to show me the most recent posts only, just the posts with the most recent comments and you often find that scan pictures do tend to feature near the top as they get a lot of comments on them.

I do understand why scan pictures can be upsetting but as the other ladies have said they can give hope in what could be an otherwise endless flow of bad news and I know a year or so ago admin did consider banning them but there was a lot of support to keep them so they allowed it. Ladies put the warning now so that if your device does allow the choice then it’s your decision. I hope you manage to find a way to not see them or to allow them to give you hope. Good luck on your journey.

[Hidden]

Whilst I went through the horror Of a miscarriage ( after 6 years of TTC) I found scan pictures really difficult to see. Not because I wasn’t happy for others but because it reminded me of what I had lost 😢 I came of the site for 6 months & came to terms with my early miscarriage.

I can say now in honestly enjoy reading positive success stories & it doesn’t hurt me to see them. I smile , because I know behind each happy ending was lots of tears & pain to get there. I find it gives me hope that could be me having a scan with good news. Personally I wouldn’t post a scan pic in case it upset others, but that is an individual decision.

But I can understand that on difficult days it can be hurtful to see scan pics. It’s a shame that on mobile /I pads there isn’t a way to filter it to ,soyou can see what you feel okay with on that day. This journey is unbelievably difficult & im sure no one judges anyone for how they feel.

Feel free to pm me anytime 🙂

Hopefully we will be celebrating good news from you soon 😍 xoxo

[Penders]

Hi Lucy I'm sorry you are finding the scan pictures hard it's not always easy to look at them depending on what you are going through. I mainly look at this site via my mobile internet search and you have to actually click on the post to see the picture so you can scroll on past if you don't want to look, I'm not sure what the app is like as I don't use it. I know on a laptop it shows the picture without clicking the post so maybe try using your mobile for a while if you can. Big hugs to you. Xxx

[Hidden]

Ps. Maybe there is a way that the images could be obscured on the site and users could choose to download of they want to.....like on twitter sometimes when it does not display certain content....

That might be a bit too difficult to re-design though.....x

[lorraineb61]

I find scan pictures really reassuring on here - it shows everyone what the end goal is. I find them much easier to deal with on here rather than on Facebook from people that tried once & fell pregnant.

We all have stories, some good, some bad & hopefully, as others have said, you find the support you need on here & get to the stage where you look forward to seeing peoples good news. x

[Missy_22]

I recently posted a picture of my scan and I really hope it didn’t upset you. I never meant to upset you or anyone.

Trust me my journey has been hell with five miscarriages and loosing my daughter last year at 23 weeks.

For me seeing other people’s scan pictures gave me hope and on my phone you can decide whether to go into the message before the picture pops up.

This forum has been so supportive towards me and I hope you find the support from this forum to..........

[Hidden]

I used to feel like this, but you've got to really think that these stories and scan pic give all of us hope! 😘😘😘😘😘😘

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

Hi, Lucy

Scans that get posted on here are milestones not success stories, their posted by women that have struggled so much and, have come here for support and supported and are just sharing a milestone they've accomplished on their journey, their not trying to upset or offend they are sharing a happy moment in their journey which has, most likely, been full of doom and gloom and that anxiety filled moment when that scan is done and happy news has come, is, so worth sharing to let us know that wow this is amazing, although theyre not out of the woods they've got this, far and others, can too. Their lovely to look at and like Lizzie said it depends which way you come on to the site whether you see the pic or not before clicking in the post. I understand it can be hard for ppl to look at, but please try to remember that these aren't being posted to rub in others, faces their being posted out of hope and out of that wow I can't believe we've reached this far after this terrible journey, others that have followed journeys are delighted to see these as it really can lift the spirits it's not all negative and upset there's moments little ones of hope and joy. Sorry you've, felt upset by these hun it really wouldn't have been anyone's intention 😘😘💝💝

[Faithful06]

Lucy I understand what you mean. Although it gives it seems many of the others hope it’s still quite upsetting to see when you’ve been trying to conceive for a very long time like I have. I’ve often tried to find ways to stop seeing these but I check these posts on my mobile and see every last one of them. I try to quickly scroll by. You’re not alone. I hope you’re OK. Big hugs.