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Hi all, I had a failed round beginning of the month and currently having some time off before going again but I have had a horrible time of it and feel like I’m falling apart. I currently had a cold and my endo symptoms are worse than ever.

Has anyone else found this?

I know you can get ill during ivf but not afterwards.

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genten

Hi

Aww bless you, it sounds like you need a rest!

I've not had the same thing. But just wanted to say that I hope you feel better very soon and in the meantime, rest When you can. Xx

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sam_chris_fertility in reply to genten

Thanks for your reply. Prehaps your right although I just had two weeks off doing nothing 🤷‍♀️ maybe it’s all just got to much. Thanks again xxxx

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Caza2009

Hey, just wanted to send you some love! I think this is perfectly normal - you’re body is probably trying to get back to normal after being pumped full of hormones! Hopefully you feel better soon.

I think you should rest up and enjoy your time off.

Wishing you loads of luck for your next cycle! Xxxxx

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sam_chris_fertility in reply to Caza2009

Thank you 🙂 xxxx

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Anisa28

I am really sorry about your failed IVF. But dear don't lose hope. Only in rare cases, it might go successfully on the first cycle. Just don't lose hope nor be sad. It might go successfully in the next cycle. It's the matter of luck. I hope everything goes smoothly. Wish you the best of luck.

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sam_chris_fertility in reply to Anisa28

Thank you I know it’s rare but I think maybe all this has taken its toll and so I’m feeling rather unwell. Thanks for your support ❤️

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Dunla

It takes it out of you for sure. The physical and emotional side effects can leave you pretty shattered and run down. Try to get plenty of sleep and look after your body by eating well and drinking lots of water. Hoping you are feeling better soon xx

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sam_chris_fertility in reply to Dunla

It sure does. Thank you 😊

I am so sorry to read this. Just be assured that it is not unusual. We may all appear to be strong Amazonian warriors, but believe me underneath we are all vulnerable and suffering physically and emotionally from all of this. We wouldn't be human if we weren't. I have so far had 5 rounds of ivf. After my 4th did not succeed at the end of last year I realised that I couldn't continue both my job and my mission (to get pregnant) and that I was doing neither any justice. I was very fortunate in that my work offered me a sabbatical. I was off from January until mid May. I focused on de stressing and working through my demons. I did mindfulness, joined a choir, went to a counsellor and then in mid Feb we felt ready to try again. Our transfer in March was the first time in my life I have had a positive result. We were over the moon! Whilst that did end in an anembryonic pregnancy we took so much positivity from knowing that it can actually work. I returned to work one month after, I have a much more balanced and less stressful approach to my work now and we are all set for our next round in October (having had a number of tests etc in the meantime).

It took time, it took lots of leaning on people, some confiding (I am not good at talking about my feelings and emotions, which is another reason why this forum is amazing), and a change of mindset on my part. But now we are ready.

Back to the point - it's ok to not be ok. Sometimes we have to take a step back and breathe.

Message me if you need someone to talk to xxx

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sam_chris_fertility in reply to

Sorry for the late reply I wanted to take the time and read this properly. I have thought about taking some time off work however I’m worried I would just sit around mopping at not being pregnant? 😟was u the same and did u find it useful? How did you fill your days? My other concern is money? xxx

I think I had without knowing come to the conclusion that it was what I needed. And I am glad I came to that before I was at a point where I broke. In some ways I did break. I did lots of lying in and watching box sets. Kind of like Christmas holidays. I sorted out lots of life admin that just hadn't been done.

There are lots of things that you can do which are free. I even found someone who wasn't quite yet qualified at mindfulness so she came to the house once a week and we had group mindfulness sessions (absolutely amazing and free). I decided that I needed to be more forgiving of myself and less harsh. It worked wonders.

Now I am back at work I am such a different person. And, I know, when we do our next transfer, it will work this time xxx

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Yes I think I could do with a break from work only issue is we need my wage. Maybe it’s time to save for that too. I will look into mindfulness I know a few ppl who have also found it extremely useful. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Yes it will work next time z😊 wishing u all the best x

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Thank you. I also find that kinesiology has worked wonders for me. Kind of like counselling but for the body xx

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sam_chris_fertility in reply to

Ok I’ll look that up along with mindfulness 😊 thank you so so much xxx

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I hope it helps you as much as I feel it has helped me xx

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