How do they do it??

I don’t get it???! How do these women do it??? My mun got pregnant at 39 and I have the menapause at 37 how is this possible ? How do they do it I don’t understand why is this happening to me why can’t I just have a baby and be happy !!

[Birdwithnoname]

I’m so sorry you are going through this 😓 it’s just not fair

[lc01sw]

Hi, sorry to hear that your going through the menopause at such a young age, it's very hard when other women manage to have children so easy at that age. Where do you live? It sounds like you need to meet other people. Take care

[Starryeyes1984]

Really sorry you’re in pain. I know you’re angry and frustrated and it’s pretty rubbish being surrounded by pregnancy and children everywhere you turn in your thirties while you have the joys of getting to grips with menopause instead. Hopefully you’ll find a path that leads you to motherhood even if it’s not the way you initially envisaged. I am in the same boat and have to believe that we can still have families and in time it won’t feel like something will always be missing - I literally felt like my children had died before I’d even had a fair chance at having any of them when I first found out. My mum has literally been scratching her head wondering what she did when I was in the womb that could have caused this! I found it really helpful watching this vlogger called Amanda Dawn who went through early menopause when she was 11 and then talks about trying to conceive using donor eggs. It mostly just made me feel less alone and like there was some hope for me. Good luck! And vent all you like at anyone who will listen if it helps you! I personally am not being super secret about this because it’s so totally and utterly sh!t and unfair that I can’t even be bothered to engage with suffering through it on my own. Talking helps!

[CBOO1]

Wish there was something I could do to take the pain away, I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it’s just not fair!!! Xxx

[Mifkipi]

The fact that we suffer from infertility in whichever form is unfair. I don't know what words to offer but I just want you to know that you are not alone in this x

[Blondyboo]

You are not alone bit there is hope. I too am menapausal but currently feeding my little boy.... DE took 3 goes but I became a mummy. Don’t give up xx

[Becca21 in reply to Blondyboo]

On DE+IVF and worst part, I'm spotting since yesterday.. that would be 11DP5DT on the count. I guess with more frosties to go in and your success story.. definitely inspires hope. Though I wish it doesn't escalate to it and we can keep the frosties for planning siblings later. fingers crossed!

[Becca21]

Sorry to hear about your POF! You're talking about an earlier generation... I bet they had more healthy and less hectic lifestyle than us to keep the odds at bay. Stress sucks the life off us! Not that it's always the lifestyle that is to be blamed alone for infertility, but in this case maybe it is. I get more depressed seeing women around my age getting pregnant with baby 3 without much efforts and possibly just because they weren't careful on contraceptives. Imagine they not getting the Oops baby and we getting our rainbow baby instead sounds like a perfect balance. I hope no one will judge me... I'm not jealous really but just think of it... think of the comparison. I was reading through this blog and that says because there are more advances in diagnostics and assisted fertility procedure, more and more couple are taking active measure to get pregnant which is why it seems like the cases have increased.. but it's not really the case. Well, that could be another way to look at it... if nothing it gives some consolation for sure.

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry that you're feeling so low, and that you are going through so much. This journey is so tough. Sending you huge hugs xxx

[AJJ123]

I know my gran carried on have kids into her 40s and literally popped them out - I got pregnant once in my twenties and that is my lot. Xx