Hi all, we have decided to start our 2nd IVF in Aug/Sep but I’m not sure if I want to tell family and friends about it. We told quite a few people last time and some of them were great but I think I built a certain expectations around some people and was very upset when they were not met eg. my sister who I’m normally close with seemed to have undermined how hard the process is and didn’t give me the support I hoped for, my in laws had no idea about the IVF so preferred to avoid the subject as found it awkward to be talking about sperms etc. My mum was amazing but seeing her suffering because what I had to go through makes me now think whether I should be putting her through it again.
I would also need to tell my boss as I have a new one since my last IVF. He doesn’t have kids by choice so I’m not sure how this will be seen by him and how this will impact my career.
I wonder if some of you decided to keep it secret. Did you regret it? Should parents and siblings know?