So had our 10day post FET on Monday, positive but low beta at 45. Today we did a repeat, beta now 21...little embies not sticking, again. Feel so sad and that I am disappointing everyone, esp sad to see my parents heart ache who still have no grandkids and would make the best grandparents any child could hope for. 5 years and we are no further than when we started. 😢
To top this week off - my brother in law and his wife are expecting (they were married 6months and then conceived...). They asked whether they could host there 70+ person joint babyshower at our house (?!!!?) which we somehow got out of. Even though they know we’re doing IvF...Then I somehow got added to the babyshower organizing committee without my consent or knowledge (again?!!?) and now the blessed event is this Saturday! 😩
I really am happy for them, but I’m not sure I have the energy for this right now!
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Thanks Michelle... feeling a bit teary now as did not really get a chance to process it at work... have to be grownup and efficient and all that..🙄...so brain still catching up with news...😩
Have a good cry and hug with your partner. Then when you're ready you can think about your next steps... I hope Saturday goes quickly and as painlessly as possible for you xx
Oh God love you poor thing..I'm so sorry for what you're going through. It's too emotional and painful I know..I'm feeling ashamed I did find all of good excuses for not coming to babyshowers at all when I was battling infertility. It was too hard, I was afraid of going insane with all my bfns and seeing the sad perspective of using donor eggs..Gosh it's so increadibly hard do endure. But I'm so proud of you, bravie. I loved your ''I’m not sure I have the energy for this RIGHT NOW'' You're the strong lady who just needs some time to recover, but it's still possible for you to come to the coming babyshower and share this event with your closest. I'm proud of you that you don't quit like me..I do regret I used to be that weak then..Dear Nix44, I know some comforting words for this situation can hardly be found. Bfn always causes huge pain. But this pain cannot be compared to the joy which one day will break into your life. I'll be keeping you in my prayers. All my positive thoughts going your way. I'm hoping for you & be blessed always xx
Andylins you will have be bawling my eyes out with such a sweet post like that! ❤️
Don’t often feel brave, just feel sometimes we have no choice but to keep chugging along like the little engine that could 😊 And hope we don’t tun out of steam!
Totally know how you feel. We have been trying for 4 years and my brother and girlfriend just had their baby. It’s all my parents talk about. They’ve only been together 2 years and told me they understand as wasn’t easy for them to get pregnant 😡😡😡. I feel as if I just totally try and avoid people cause I can’t deal with it!!!
Apdp ever feel like just wacking someone over the head with a rolled up newspaper or vaginal probe when they say to you casually at a bbq - oh yes we’ve also been trying for aaaages, at least 3 months. By having sex 🤦🏻♀️
Oh big time. Try using pessaries twice a day and sticking all sorts up there then come back to me 😂😂😂. Because I’ve just started another cycle, I was in town today and honestly everyone I saw was pregnant!!!!
I can't believe how insensitive they are being. Can you explain that you just can't do this right now and are sure they will understand? I am so sorry for your loss. It is difficult enough at the best of times.
Have you done the thrombophilia screening? That will let you know of any blood issues? I am surebthe clinic will advise. I was told that they wait for 3 miscarriages before doing any further testing but I insisted on having more done this time before I try again.
Thanks Camillage. Yes I do feel like we should do tests to see if there are anything else playing a role, just don’t really know where to start. I’ll definitely ask Dr about thrombophilia screening, and what else we could test. Thank you for telling me about it.
About the babyshower - I did think about not going, but at the moment having to explain ‘why not’ seems harder than just going for a short while and blending into the crowds!
I am really sorry to hear of both of your losses.
I had a early miscarriage last year and the way I felt afterwards I couldn’t have been near any pregnant woman family or not. I didn’t want to be near anyone afterwards I needed time and space to process the loss.
I would put yourself first and if you can’t cope right now that is understandable; I would explain what happened and if they don’t understand there is something wrong with them. Only you know what you can deal with....
P.s my fertility doctor said if I lost another pregnancy he would instantly refer me to a miscarriage clinic for tests; worth checking with your fertility clinic.❤️ xoxo
Hi Jess. Thank you for the msg. Our specialist keeps saying that the only reason an embryo won’t take was because it was chromosomally abnormal - which I don’t entirely agree with given that there are many genetically tested embryos that also fail to implant! So I do feel that we should go for more testing, just not sure where to start. I’m going to research it a bit. Thanks x
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I’m back 👋 Low HCG beta trying for no.2
Hcg 
15dpt faint positive line after few hours plus bleeding :(
So, I've got my HCG test result!
Not feeling so positive
