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From the high of yesterday finding out that the sperm retrieval had worked we got the devastating news this morning that none of our 6 eggs had fertilised, heartbroken doesn’t come close. Just want to thank everyone for their support and encouragement through this journey. Need time to come to terms with this as this has consumed our lives for the past 3 years. I wish everyone all the luck in the world with their journeys xx

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I’m so sorry to hear this and I send u all my best wishes and thoughts it’s the hardest journey with the highs and the lows just getting through each day can be a struggle. All my love xxx

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Cinderella5

I'm so sorry to hear this! Utterly devastating for you to be in this situation. Sending massive hugs.xx

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Caza2009

I am so so sorry to hear your news! Sending you loads of love ❤️ take some time out for yourself. Life can be so unfair sometimes xx

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TRYING2016

Xxxxx

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Faithful06

I’m so very sorry 😢😢

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kumkums

I'm so sorry to hear this 😢😢😢😢. It is indeed devastating to hear. Wishing you strenght as you go through this phase.

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Cako123

Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear this. I was absolutely elated for you when I read your post yesterday, and it made me feel so hopeful about our journey! It is such a testing journey. You literally just have to focus on every step don’t you?! The only thing that this process has taught me is that no matter how raw, or traumatising a feeling is - you will feel differently in time. So just keep faith and other doors that you never even knew were there might open 😊 Definitely take some time out for yourself, you are strong enough to deal with this even if you might not feel like it right now. Everyone is still on hear to support you 😘 Sending you lots of love! Xxxxx

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Thegirl84 in reply toCako123

Thank you, it’s very hard to deal with as yesterday was amazing and I really thought it would work😔 our clinic in Newcastle have been lovely and we will be going back next week to speak and I think I will sign up to the counselling service. I have peace of mind that we did everything we could and your right about other doors opening. We are going to take the rest of this year to focus on ourselves and enjoy living again! We will pursue adoption in the new year (as we knew our chances were slim we have already discussed this) I hope news doesn’t discourage you as there was another couple who had the same op the week before us and they were back in for embryo transfer yesterday! guess we were just unlucky. I wish you all the best in your journey xxx

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Cako123 in reply toThegirl84

Aw honestly my heart is absolutely breaking for you - I can’t even imagine how fantastic you must have felt to then get this news. It is truly horrendous. It sounds so cold to just say that you will be ok and that other doors will open, but you will be I promise 😘 You can remind me of all this in a few months time! I’d definitely recommend counselling, I go every week to a private one which is probably overkill lol but I just thought it would help prepare me for everything. Which clinic are you with in Newcastle? We are in Newcastle too at the life centre!

This news doesn’t discourage me - we’ve got a sperm donor as a back up so a little bit of a different journey. I suppose it just reminds me of how cruel this journey can be and that you have to be so grateful in the moment, but at the same time take nothing for granted xxx

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Thegirl84 in reply toCako123

Thank you, yes we are at centre for life in Newcastle too. I agree with not taking anything for granted on this journey. My 24hrs where I thought it was possible was amazing and I feel lucky that I got that x

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Kirstyes

Sending love.

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Star9

I’m sorry to read your news, this journey can be blooming cruel at times. Sending you love and hugs xxxx

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elle80

I'm so sorry to hear your news! Sending you massive loves and hugs. 😘 Xx

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Tugsgirl

Oh I’m so sorry. That’s so harsh. Thinking of you both as you both must feel wretched xx

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AnnieAnnie

I'm so sorry to read this. This journey is definitely heart breaking. It consumes your life when you're on it and life passes you by but at least you know you've tried all you can. Enjoy your time now with your oh sending hugs xx

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Kyell2

I’m so sorry to read this. It’s just awful news and I really hoped that today would go well for you both 😔.

When we got bad news at our sperm retrieval it felt like the end of the world and we needed some time before we made any decisions. You are definitely making the right choice in taking some time out. Look after each other xx

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SMoon84

I’m so sorry :( my heart hurts for you. So much love xxx

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LKT1

So sorry to hear your news. Good idea to take sometime to yourself. It may not have been plan A but adoption is a wonderful thing. Wishing you the best xX

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sandra81

I am so very sorry to hear about this. You definitely need time to regroup. I am sending you a thousand hugs.

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GELL18

So so sorry dear... this is one of the most painful journey we have all taken. Praying for strength to walk it for you and partner. May you find peace..

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precioce

So sorry to see this update.xx

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strong-girl

Stay strong xx thinking of u

I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s so upsetting to get this kind of news especially as it seemed to be going well with 6 eggs collected. What a rollercoaster. Take time to heal, take time out and maybe speak to a counsellor/ therapist. Lots of hugs x

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hannahding

Hey I am extremely sorry to hear about it. I am sure things will get better. Just don't give up yet. Stay positive and strong. You are very brave and I am proud of you. Just take a break for your peace of mind. Best of luck for the future. Sending baby dust your way.

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Kvelvetrose

So sorry to hear this, you must be heart broken! Big hugs and kisses xxx

Oh I’m so sorry. 😭

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Kay_K

So sorry to hear...please don’t give up! X

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TeenyTiny

Devastating news. So so sorry ❤️

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Autumnmoon

I'm so sorry you must feel so devastated after the 1st excitement it really can be a cruel world hope you have lots of love and support and can grieve together x

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Mifkipi

So sorry to hear this :( hope you feel better soon!

I'm so sorry, this journey is so hard. Sending you huge hugs xxx

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