Scared of scan

[Gillyc1]

Just been talking to my daughter and she can’t relax because she is so scared of the viability scan. It’s as bad as the 2WW with the stress. Xxx

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

It's so normal to be scared honest I have the worst anxiety a week before each scan I have, my dating scan is tomorrow and my anxiety is through the roof I'm so worried it's unreal.

She just needs support keep talking and hold on to hope once she has the scan all is well she'll be on cloud nine for a bit then the worry will kick back in, if you find a remedy send it my way please but I feel unfortunately when we've had problems losses etc it just plaques the future pregnancies with worry

I wish her all the best when is the scan?

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[Gillyc1 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Ah bless ya, I’m sure you will be fine tomorrow. I will look out for your post. It’s because we have all been through so much to get to this point that it just scared us all so much. It’s a good job you ladies are so strong xxxx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Gillyc1]

It is such a worry I know how she'll be feeling and it makes the difference when you've got support you seem like such a close family and that really will help her, I have a big for nothing family no support only hubby and here is my support but I must admit this site has helped me loads and these lovelies are all so strong and really do get it which does help loads.

Thanks hun let us know when her scan is

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[Gillyc1 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

My daughters in laws are awful Ppl who have given them no support whatsoever even though it’s their son/brother with the problem. Our side of the family have been absolutely amazing . My niece has just given them £300 for a night away next month. Me and my hubby are taking our grandson away to Portugal for a week next month so they have got time to chill. Her scan is a week on Tuesday at 3.30 . Also my love, always here for you if you want to pm xx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Gillyc1]

I don't understand why families don't support properly.

You all sound amazing seriously they are very greatful I imagine for what your all doing so thoughtful it's lovely, iv always helped mine but their just takers so I gave up. My mil is lovely but she's really busy with her mum who has dementia she does cook me food and send it though bless her.

Thanks hun that's lovely of you not long at all for her scan bless her. Bless you too super mum

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[Gillyc1 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Always makes me smile when you call me super mum xx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Gillyc1]

😁 I only say it because I mean it. I'd love my mum to be like you. Send my love to your daughter please

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[Gillyc1 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Thankyou my love and I will pass the message onto my daughter xx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Gillyc1]

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[hopeforICSI in reply to Gillyc1]

awwww Loads of best wishes for you all. I am surprised to know that its with most of the people that they find no family help. I thought I have experienced difficult in-laws, I thought I am getting all this because of my cultural side. It is shocking for me to know it happens everywhere. I am blessed with the lovely baby boy, through ICSI. Baby is my lifeline for I could see life through him really. But I want to comment on male fertility issue. I had been through this for male factor alone. I thought things would go better. But his attitude is like he's taken this success as his masculine failure, he would not say this feeling, but his teasing attitude is interpreted just like that in counselling sessions.

hope things go well for all of you.

his family is same.

[Gillyc1 in reply to hopeforICSI]

My son in law never speaks about it so up until recently my daughter has “taken the blame” as Ppl say. We had to do find raising to do the last cycle as we had no money left after paying for a few cycles last year. We managed to raise £6000 in seven weeks. We did a go fund page so we had to write the whole story about their journey so that’s when Ppl knew it was Steve with the problem . Sorry what has happened with your family xxx

[hopeforICSI in reply to Gillyc1]

well. I think that's where it is strange for me. I chose not to take the blame on me!!! I think that's where attitude problem starts. at this stage of life, nothing else could help me understand the background than the discussion here!

'Its happening everywhere!'

Back in 2010, when the problem was revealed, in very first interaction with a doctor for the problem, the doctor in my home country, being the female gynaecologist, she clearly told me that " in our society, you have to take the blame on you". I dared not to take it on me! Now I am hearing it from another side of the planet, that we, women are supposed to do so quite commonly, and we are actually doing it in every story like this. I am sorry if I sounded like sexist in my choice of the word 'we' and 'women' but I really wanted to understand the situation. Maybe I can do better when I understand the other side.

I hope everything goes well with your daughter. Afterall we all want to see a bundle of joy with us. The ladies who go through such a tough time as I had, deserve all the best that they struggle for. I pray for everyone to have the blessed day and time whenever it is the right time for everyone.

[Emmad781]

I totally agree with Allweneedislove she is absolutely right.

I wish her luck it’s going to be tough but the day will soon come x

[Gillyc1 in reply to Emmad781]

I know. We will also find out if there is one or two xx

[NMP1026]

Aww bless yous. I've got mine next Wednesday and I'm absolutely petrified. Will be thinking of you guys! She's so lucky to have such a wonderful mum like you. I lost mine a few years ago and would kill to have her support in this journey. Wishing you all so much luck xxx

[Gillyc1 in reply to NMP1026]

I will be thinking of you next week. Your mum would have been so proud of you and your strength xx

[NMP1026 in reply to Gillyc1]

Thank you so much. I'm looking forward to the update tomorrow xx

[Gillyc1 in reply to NMP1026]

My daughters is a week on Tuesday xx

[NMP1026 in reply to Gillyc1]

So sorry I've no idea where I got tomorrow from. Ivf brain!!! Xx

[Gillyc1 in reply to NMP1026]

Haha no worries xx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to NMP1026]

Good luck for your scan on Wednesday hun, sorry your mum isn't here I feel I miss my dad on this journey also. Do listen to Super mum your mum would be so proud of you and your strength and I don't know what you believe but I do believe they see everything what goes on. Big hugs and I'll be thinking if you and looking forward to your update next Wednesday 💝💝😘😘

[NMP1026 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Thanks so much hun. I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I've lost mine too its so difficult but they are definitely looking down on us. I know your dad would be so proud of you. The way you have handled the journey and supported so many people along the way. I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Wishing you so much luck xxx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to NMP1026]

Awwwww my love that's real sweet of you.

I'm sorry you've lost both your parents hun. Huge hugs they are with us and are so proud

Your a lovely lady hun, wishing you the very best on Wednesday will be keeping an eye out hun

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[NMP1026 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Aww bless you hun. Thank you so much xxx

[Shanks_21]

It’s completely normal to feel anxious I found the time from finding out I was pregnant till the first scan awful such an anxious time, even prior to all the other scans I felt nervous u just want to know everything is ok. I’m 33 weeks pregnant and I’m still on edge don’t think I’ll fully relax till the baby arrives! She’s lucky she has got you as such a loving and supportive mum - she just needs to stay positive and trust her body - she can do this x

[Gillyc1 in reply to Shanks_21]

Oooo only 7 weeks to go for you. Thankyou for your kind words xxx

[Hidden]

I had mine today and I must have lost half a stone in stress and nervous energy. Tell her it’s important to think positively (lecture I received from the nurse at the hospital) and meditating really helps to calm the nerves. Tell her to have a look on you tube for pregnancy reiki music and to keep saying positive affirmations. I was in such a state and my lovely friend helped me to meditate and I felt much more positive and calm. Wishing her the best of luck xxx

[Gillyc1 in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou . I’ll tell her about meditation xx

[Autumnmoon]

Bless her this is exactly what we are going through too at the moment and it is so sad that the joy of BFP is so quickly replaced by the dread of it all going wrong give her all our love and hope for good news soon x

[Gillyc1 in reply to Autumnmoon]

Thankyou my love xx

[vic77]

you are an amazing mum and I wish your daughter all the love and luck in the world xxxx

[Gillyc1 in reply to vic77]

Thankyou, that’s lovely xx

[Hidden]

I think the stress is normal. I had a scan at 8.5 weeks and all was good and have another scan on Tuesday. I'm trying to relax but as I don't have much pregancy symptons I'm worried. Tell to daughter to try relax as stress not good for the baby (and after writing this I will try take my own advice!) Wishing you loads of luck for the scan x x x

[Gillyc1 in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou my love. Hope everything is ok with you I’m Tuesday xx