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i think someone should design a special IVF pregnancy test, “not this time, but you’re going to be ok”.

sadly many of you understand the pain of multiple failed cycles. despair. emptiness. failed wife, failed daughter. being that weird friend.

we approached this cycle with hope and open hearts - made lifestyle adjustments early on, had the scratch, laughed a lot, ate healthily, swapped my beloved bikram yoga for walking, practiced daily mindfulness, had reflexology and CBT. my hub lovingly did all my injections while telling me he was having guyVF!!

my lining was “beautiful”, my embryos “vibrant”.

the birds still sing, while we silently grieve for something we never had.

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emu2016

Oh noodles. Sending you so much love. Hold each other tight and remember... you’re not weird xx

So sorry to read this noodles. Sending you big hugs and positivity for the future xxx

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Penders

Oh noodles I'm really sorry. Sending lots of love and hugs xxx

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Cinderella5

I'm so sorry Noodles! Sending hugs xxx

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vic77

sending you so much love. ..I am so so sorry xxxxxx

So sorry Noodles. Every BFN is like a loss especially when you've been through so much to get to that point. It's just so unfair. Thinking of you xx

I’m so sorry x

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Looby25

I’m so sorry to hear this! Look after each other and never give up on your dream! Thinking of you x x x

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E_05

So sorry to read this, it’s so unfair xx

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Jenjen84

Sorry to hear this.. Sending love xxx

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Princes14

So sorry Noodles, squeeze your OT tight - he sounds like a hero. Thinking of you xxx

Oh sweet I’m so sorry. I have no words for it all- I don’t understand why we all given such a s**t hand. You take care of yourself and know we are all here for you xoxo

I'm so sorry to hear this, sending hugs to you both xx

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Franco81

Oh Noodles, I’m so sad to read this, I’m in tears here as unfortunately I totally understand your pain. You put so much into this (as we all do) so the frustration and disappointment is unbearable.

Take time with your OH to gather strength and look to the future when you are ready.

Sending you hugs xx

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Missy_22

I’m so sorry this is so unfair xxxx big hugs xxx

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Tugsgirl

I’m so sorry noodles. A bfn is definitely a loss in its own way 😞 xx

I'm really sorry, take care of yourselves xxx

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Littleflower82

Noodles I am so so sorry, it's just heaetbreaking for you both an such a stressful time, take care xx

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Kiedy84

Hi Noodles, I am so sorry, your message made me cry this morning, so unfair. Sending lots of love xx

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Dunla

Aw Noodles, I am so sorry. I can really identify with your post. It’s so difficult, I know how much effort goes into a cycle, and how you have worked so hard to try to make this work. Sending you lots of love, take good care of yourselves xxx

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Kari55

So sorry to hear this Noodles. Be kind to yourself, you are not failed or weird. Sending hugs x

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Amanda86

So sorry noodles 🙁 xxx

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Snowy76

so sorry for you both x

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Duda-24

I'm sorry, hugs. Xox

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Awwww lovely, I'm so sorry thinking of you sending you lots of love and hugs 💗🤗😘

Oh lovely noodles. Thinking of you x

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Tezzabell86

Oh noodles I’m so sorry. And you are not weird in any way xx

I’m so sorry noodles 😔 Completely agree regarding the tests, very difficult reading those words. Take care of yourself xxx

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Poppy16

Really sorry to read this. It's all so cruel. We are all here for you. Sending you a massive hug. Xo

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Positive2022

So sorry to read this, sending you love and BIG hugs. Thinking of you xxx

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Lou7744

I’m so sorry to read this. BFN’s are just rubbish ☹️ Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

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7AVA

So sorry to hear this noodles, this journey just doesn’t get any easier. Xxx

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Laceygirl

So sorry to hear of your BFN - we invest so much of our time, love and emotions into this process it really is a loss when it doesn’t work - everyone we deal with gives you their best wishes and you fill up with positivity that when you get that BFN it’s like someone has just plugged the plug - it’s all washes away in an instant and there is nothing you can do but grieve and love each other. Wishing you peace during this awful time and pray that it’s the last time you have to suffer it xxx

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Rachael_

So sorry to be reading this ..... take care of yourself xxx

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Flimzee

This is so sad: I am sorry. Every negative is a loss of the dreams and hopes we have. Sounds like you’ve got a good ‘un with his guyVF (made me smile) so try to take comfort in each other. Sending you lots of love xxx

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Ap98

Oh hun, I’m so sorry for you, just reading your message now...

I’m sending lots of love and hugs! And keep in mind that’s not done yet!

And we are here to help you!

Take some time for you and be ready for next round!

Xx

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Blondie_81

Totally echo this could have written it myself. We just had our 3rd bfn yesterday and we’re broken. Hope you’re ok and really sympathise /can relate with your situation xx

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