BFP... too anxious to enjoy it

[lisaboyle36]

I apologise if this post hurts or offends anyone, it is not my intention to sound selfish.

My husband and I finally got our longed for BFP and I am 6 weeks pregnant. We had two failed ICSI treatments but conceived naturally. However I am sick to my stomach with worry that it’s all going to go wrong. I am fretting over the slightest pain, but even more worried when there is no pain at all. I’ve spent the past week looking up things like “signs you are about to miscarry” and i’ve done at least one pregnancy test a day.

My Doctor’s appointment isn’t until 27th November and I think I might go mad before then

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

Hun I can totally relate to how your feeling. Congratulations and book yourself a private scan to keep your mind at rest till you see the Dr. I'd say book it for 7 week though because if you don't see anything it will stress u out more trust me I know iv had two scans already and waiting for my third om Monday to confirm heartbeat. Keep strong hun get a scan booked for piece of mind and once again congratulations 💗💗🤗😘😘

[lisaboyle36 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Thanks Hun xxx

[Alc0503]

Congratulations on your bfp I was the exact same I had 2 failed Icsi cycles then Conceived naturally I worried over every twinge and ache & pain but I had a normal pregnancy & a healthy baby girl enjoy your pregnancy but if you are really worried make an app with your gp they will maybe be able to put ur mind at rest 😊 xx

[lisaboyle36 in reply to Alc0503]

Congrats on your little one xxx. Going to see my gp on 27th so fingers crossed

[lou79]

It's totally natural to fret and worry when you get something you have longed for so much. Am I right in saying you live in NI? If so, contact GMRC or Ulster independent clinic and get a 7wk scan to put your mind at ease. Delighted for you and congrats on your pregnancy. This is always the right place to post, all of us here no matter what stage of our journey we are on are always here for each other xx

[lisaboyle36 in reply to lou79]

Yes, I’m in Belfast. Thanks for the tips on who to contact. You’re a star xx

[lou79 in reply to lisaboyle36]

No worries, more than happy to help. One other option is ringing the EPU at the Ulster Hopsital in Dundonald and explain your history and your fears and they might be sympathetic considering what you have been through previously and agree to scan you. It wouldn't cost anything. Where as the other places might be pricey for an early scan x

[Runner90]

Congratulations! I’m in the same position, nearly 6 weeks and terrified something will go wrong, my first appointment is the 28th.

I don’t really have an advice since I still feel exactly the same and google everything which just makes me feel worse, except try really hard to relax and keep busy to keep your mind off worrying.

Try to stay off google as well, because it’ll drive you crazy.

Also because I think problems seem more common when you’re looking for them - the information from my clinic said after 6 weeks you have a 90% of everything going well. That’s what I keep telling myself anyway

Good luck for your appointment

[lisaboyle36 in reply to Runner90]

Congrats honey. Here’s to a happy, healthy pregnancy for both of us xx

[LHow81]

It’s so unfair isn’t it. You long for a BFP you get it and then you can’t enjoy it.

I hope you’ll be like me and you will relax the further along you get. I never fully stopped worrying until he was in my arms.

My only advice and I know it’s hard, STOP googling!! Xx

[lisaboyle36 in reply to LHow81]

I really feel like I will feel more settled as time goes on. It’s such early days and so much can go wrong, but I know i’ll feel happier once i’m further along.

[ClarabGlasgow]

Congrats on the natural bfp. Just try to th No there’s no reason it won’t last . You could go for an early scan? Xx

[lisaboyle36 in reply to ClarabGlasgow]

Yeah, I’m going to look into that. I think it might help put my mind at ease xxx

[Hidden]

Hi, I think I would feel the same! It doesn’t take much for me to worry. Have you thought about Hypnotherapy? I started Hypnotherapy after my first failed icsi in the summer and now I feel a lot better and ready for another go! Might be worth a try?

[lisaboyle36 in reply to Hidden]

I’ve never thought about hypnotherapy. I think i’ll look into that. Thanks xx

[Hidden]

no its not at all selfish to feel like that. Its because you have had to fight to get thar bfp that you feel like that as you are scared it might get taken away from you at any time.

[Tugsgirl]

This is so understandable and so relatable. The tww is a breeze compared to the wait in between scans xx