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EC done 15 collected 0 fertilised

Hi guys Defo need my fertility family support today.

I had my EC yesterday it was okay though I was really scared and they retrieved 15 eggs.

I got a call this morning saying 0 had fertilised 😩😩

Me and hubby were in shock and upset

We are just trying to stay strong we did not expect any of this.

I'm feeling sore after EC and now have to abandon this cycle.

It's just feels like such a waste

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I am so sorry to hear this. Take time to get over the bad news and let ur end get round what’s just happened. Then when ur feeling up to it u will probably have a lot of questions to ask and what’s best to do for ur next cycle. Send u big hugs 🤗 xxx

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Hi strong-girl. I'm so, so sorry to hear this. For the moment, you need to rest and drink plenty of water (me being practical, I'm afraid). Obviously, you will need to speak to your embryologist to see whether he/she can tell you why this has happened. Perhaps it may mean that you need to use "ICSI" next time, to ensure that the sperm gets into the eggs. So much to go over in your head. Thinking of you. Diane

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Thank u soo much for the support

It definitely feels like a blow and I'm shocked as I did not expect this at all.

I need to be positive and gain the strength to face it all over again not going to let it get me down xxx

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Good girl! xx

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You do indeed sound like one strong girl! Don’t rush to pick up the pieces though, take your time. Good luck on the rest of your journey xx

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Thank u soo much ur a strong one yourself Iv been reading ur post and ur right looking after urself is important all this is a lot of pressure and can make u go mad if u let it.

I'm lucky to have the support from all u lovely ladies xxx

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Hi strong-girl. If you want, I do have a couple of lists of questions I could send you. Most won't be applicable, but there may be a few you hadn't thought to ask. Too long to add here, but if you email me in confidence to support@fertilitynetworkuk.org I can send them to you. Diane

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DianeArnold Icsi would have been my possible suggestion too. We went through the exact same thing on our first collection with 9 collected and 0 fertilised. It broke me as it was completely unexpected, as I expect yours was too. But after 2 cycles after that we ended up with 4 embryos. We used icsi for those 2 cycles and I'm so glad we did. Sometimes it feels like you're completely on your own when things go slightly off track, but I always feel comforted by the fact that I know there is someone out there who completely understands how emotionally challenging it all is☺️ strong-girl

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Thank u I will defo email you because my brain is not working

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I'm so sorry to hear this. Take some time to rest and focus on both of you. Wishing you lots of luck for the rest of your journey xx

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Totally gutted for you. I can only imagine how upset and frustrated you must feel. Hope you get some answers. In the meantime, look after yourself and take time to process the news and grieve. Xx

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Oh strong-girl, I am SO, SO sorry....I know how destraught you must be. I was told that that I had 9 follicles, they collected 7 eggs and 2 eggs fertilised.....we were really upset to start off with but we soon realised that 2 embryos, however weak or low stage developed were 2 potential lives. Like you my dh and I were totally shocked and no-one prepared us for this potential outcome, which I found harder to deal with. The physical pain will subside, but it may take a while to deal with the emotional trauma. My thoughts are with you alongside everyone else's.

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I'm so sorry 😢 xx

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Oh no! That’s so hard to deal with. So sorry to hear this 😢 xxx

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I so sorry 😥

Take some time and look to the future when you’re ready, for now just focus on you.

Xx

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Oh no! What awful news for you.

I'm sure it will take a while for you to get your head round this. Although it all might seem like a waste of time, even a failure gives you more answers about why you're not getting pregnant. They might recommend more tests on your hubbie, maybe a sperm DNA fragmentation test for example. I only had one fertilise on my first round and it was a very poor grade embie when it went back in- they put it back immediately as said no point waiting, and I got a full bleed really soon after. I empathise with your disappointment. We really weren't expecting such a poor result, but I'm not sure it's possible to be prepared for these things. You just have to get through it. Please know that we are all thinking of you xx

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So sorry to hear this. You must be devastated. Allow your self time to get angry, sad and all the other crap emotions that go with this rubbish journey. You guys will come through it xxx

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Gutted for you x We had to abandon our 2nd cycle as the egg didn't fertiliser overnight. Our consultant thought that it was probably to do with the egg rather than the sperm when it failed that quickly.

Don't rush into any decision yet, you have to make time to deal with the current cycle now.

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that is quite a shock!!!! I am really sorry.xxx ..I pray that you both find more strength, courage and faith to continue with the fight...

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Oh that is such a shock when you have so much hope and expectations on each part of this process. It's so disappointing. Like the others said this will give you and the doctors so much information on what to do next. Fingers crossed for you x

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Oh my gosh, poor you, so sorry. This is awful. I bet you were shocked as that's a really good number of eggs. Yes maybe they'll suggest ICSI next time. With our first cycle they only got 1 egg and I burst into tears when the embryologist came into tell us as I just knew it was v unlikely for that one to fertilise. It didn't. So that was game over straight away for us too and you're so positive and excited when it's your first go. But every time we've done it we've had a better round and much better results unfortunately after round 3 still no success but got 2 frozen embryos this time we can use. Have you looked into acupuncture at all? I'm sure this helped us and also Co-q10 supplements are meant to help egg quality as well as drinking whey protein shakes / whole milk - this was the only think I did differently for 2-3 months between cycles and I'm sure that's what made us get high fertilisation numbers this time. Write some questions down to ask your consultant at the follow up it will help and good luck. Don't beat yourself up it was just very unlucky. Take care and look after yourselves. I know how much of a waste it feels after all the injections etc - all for nothing but it won't be in the end - keep going and stay 💪🏻 strong girl!! You will beat this - we all will xxxx

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Thank you all for your kind words and support, I feel like it has all sunk in now and Iv come to understand after crying a couple of times that I can't change anything about this situation other than to carry on and hope for the best xxxx

Hopefully some light will be shed on this next week when I'll see the specialists

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Oh I am so sorry to read your post. Sending you a big hug and I hope that over time you are able to get answers to the many questions I am sure that you will have. (I wrote all of my questions down irrelevant of how small or what I thought was silly - It might help).

Take care of yourself.

xx

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Im so sorry, how utterly devastating for you both! I can relate to how it feels to have gone through a cycle to not even get to transfer, it really knocks you off your feet! Take some time to grieve in whatever way is right for you and hold on tight to each other! Sending big hugs xx

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Thank u soo much sending you all lots of love and baby dust xxx

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Sorry to hear that but 15 eggs is great so hopefully they can do something differently next time. Although ivf is Very trying it does often give answers you never had before so now they will be able to tailor your investigations & treatment a wee bit. Take care xx

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What a shame! But if you try and take the positive from it then you know you can get a good number of eggs so you respond well to the drugs . And you might have found the cause of your infertility too (or the point at which it goes wrong even if you don't know why). Your embryologist might be able to shed some more light on it too. Agree with the other ladies that ICSI could be a good option. Good luck with the next round!

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That's so heart breaking - fingers crossed that they can learn a lot from it for next time now though and give you a good plan x

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