I thought long and hard about posting this in light of last night's heated debate. In the end, as you can see, I have decided to post both my good news and a scan pic. The reason being that these are precisely the sorts of posts that kept me going and gave me hope during IVF, OHSS and during the last 12 weeks when I was worried (convinced more like it!) that something was going to go wrong and my BFP would become a BFN. And so far it hasn't gone wrong - I'm very happy to say that my 12-week scan today was all good! To say I'm relieved is an understatement! My husband and I have been together for over 15 years (although not TTC all that time) and this is my first ever pregnancy and I never thought this day would happen.
Infertility hasn't left me even after getting my longed-for BFP. I think it is because of the infertility and years of unsuccessfully trying to get pregnant that I have been excessively worried that this precious and fragile pregnancy would be taken away. I had become so used to the fact we couldn't have children I didn't believe in my heart of hearts that would change. And then of course there was Dr Google, telling me my absence of morning sickness might be a bad sign and informing me about all sorts of slight risks I was convinced were going to become actualities. So far they haven't and fingers crossed they won't!
Of course, the anxiety hasn't left me yet but I've promised myself I'm going to try and relax during this pregnancy a little more and not let infertility ruin my experience of pregnancy too!
I hope this post doesn't upset anyone and perhaps might even give those still going through gruelling rounds of IVF some hope. You probably won't be hearing from me all that often anymore. Especially following the discussion last night I don't feel quite so welcome as I did previously on this forum. But I will be popping in every now and then, not least to see how everyone else is going. Xx
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Massive congratulations glad all was ok and what a clear beautiful scan pic. Aww don't leave you are very welcome and I share your fears I am almost 16 weeks now, I don't think that fear does fully go but I am defo enjoying more now xx
Thanks! I don't think I can leave entirely - I want to see how everyone is getting on and hear everyone else's news. And it is a bit tough in that I still feel like part of the infertility community, not the pregnancy communities out there - I can't relate to all those lucky people for whom pregnancy came easily (and many of whom don't share or understand our fears). Congratulations on 16 weeks too! I remember seeing your good news on here and was really happy for you (and still am!). X
Congratulations, I think as you say when you've travelled the journeys we do the worrying never ends. Wishing you all the best for a happy and healthy pregnancy xx
Wow congratulations!! I got my 12wk scan coming up soon...still waiting for the appointment and I'm 12wks on sat 🙈. ..I'm in the same boat though...so worried they're gonna say bubba has gone. Especially after my bleed a couple of weeks ago! I can barely function through worry and my concentration is shot to pieces at work! Anyhow, wishing you a smooth and peaceful pregnancy xxx
That is exactly how I was before my scan and without having had a bleed. I actually said during the scan "is it still there??!". Urgh, it is a horrible wait! But not long at all for you now! X
My dh says we're going private again for the scan if we haven't heard a date by Friday! I only got in to see the midwife at 10wks5d as they're so busy round here...and she complained that she already had too many women to look after. I've been told it could be 14wks before I get my scan which is too horrendous for words after my bleed at 9wks....I just wanna know now!! xxx
Depending on where you are located, i can recommend an excellent Dr who does the most amazing scans. She was part of the team who created NIPT. Let me know if you want this. My NHS 20 week scan was appalling, we were told to not talk or ask questions and it was soon stressful - we thought something was wrong. All was fine but we felt so unsure we went privately. And my how it was worth it. xxx
I completely understand - I know they are stretched but 14 weeks is a cruel wait. I got a private scan at 10 weeks because I was worried (no bleed but convinced my lack of morning sickness meant something had gone wrong). Not cheap but for the reassurance it was the best money I ever spent!
I can't believe you were told not to talk / ask questions during your scan - that is awful! My scan today was actually private, but that was because we decided to do the harmony test and the clinic we went to for that include the nuchal in the price. And I talked excitedly the whole way through it! Xx
The lady who scanned me was a Susan Boyle look alike, but a seriously horrible version. I was half chuckling to myself and half seething... telling me not to talk just doesn't work (I talk a lot, as you may gather from my all too long and winding replies) .
Glad you got the harmony test too. I would have that again. It wouldn't change the outcome for me, even if positive (its entirely a deeply personal choice of course) but I have a good friend with the most delightful daughter who has DS. But harmony I know tests for other things too, its very worth it.
So glad your scan was good - that's a really clear picture and a lovely healthy looking bubble of bubbakins.
So happy for you and I hope you can start to relax and enjoy being an expectant mummy...xxxx
Was this a package deal at a clinic in London with 10 week harmonybabd 12 week scan included for £400? Best money we've spent. Drs doing the scan and spending time looking at everything really put us at ease. Nhs 12 week scan was 💩 just counted limbs and said baby had a brain. Private scan was 45 minutes and she looked at all organs, heart valves and blood flow plus allowed us to record it. It was so long my husbands arms got tired holding his phone up!
Thank you! I'm so pleased to hear you say that - I was really worried about posting it. But I really did get so much encouragement from similar posts when I was going through IVF that I hoped others might feel the same way. X
Lovely pic congratulations. Glad everything is OK and hope you continue to have a happy healthy pregnancy. Don't worry about last night let's all move on and forward. Thanks for sharing xx
Gorgeous picture!!💕💕 I'm so chuffed you decided to post your picture and very pleased that you made it this far, I remember we had collection and transfer at the same time....you're right these posts are what keep me going and striving to get to our happy ending!! Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy! Oh and please keep us updated for the next one, don't run off and leave us!!😚xx
Oh thank you! I didn't mean to sound as if I was going to run away - of course I won't - I want to hear all about your next chapter! I just worry that I don't want to upset anyone and am not sure how to be an active member any more without accidentally doing just that! But hopefully I will manage to work it out. Xx
I think you can still be an active member after a successful pregnancy. My LO is now 15 months and I'm not as active as I was when ttc/during pregnancy but I still pop in every now and then. There always seems to be people at all stages of ttc/pregnancy asking for advice or hopeful story and I think we can still give that, especially if it's a situation specific to where we were. I find I don't mention my LO unless the post calls for it as I don't want to feel like I'm gloating but I haven't ever been made to feel bad when I have mentioned him and I don't think I've ever upset anyone by doing so. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.
Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy .thank you for sharing. Indeed such posts keep us going. Please don't go away for good.keep updating us with every big step. Take care of yourself and baby.
Thank you - that is so reassuring to hear. I really have been so touched by everyone's lovely messages. So I won't be going anywhere. I want to hear about everyone else's journeys too and offer whatever support I can x
What a lovely scan pic 😊 and a huge congrats to you both. These sort of pics keep me going when I have low days and shows me there is still hope. Now time for you to start enjoying your pregnancy xx
Congratulations! And thank you for posting. I've just had my egg collection for my first round of icsi and news like this helps to keep me hopeful.
As someone who has really struggled with seeing scan pictures, pregnancy announcements etc on social media, I've just never had the same issue with seeing them on here, as I know everyone has been through the same battle as me, or similar. It's good to see both sides of the coin; some people get bad news & others get good news which is realistic and gives you a sense of the kind of odds you're up against with ivf.
Same! On social media - it can be flippant and unaware that it may be hard for some people to see. But there is no element of that on here as much thought into the words that are written and often there is still worry and questions....a lovely scan picture, thanks for sharing and good luck with the rest of it! Xx
So amazing to see your scan & I 100% agree you should have posted it, I love seeing everyone's scan photos!! It's so hard to try not to worry once pregnant too Im currently 21 weeks pregnant for the first time with a little girl & my journey has been a difficult (different to most in the sense of other diagnosis to infertility) keep us all posted how it's going xx
Congratulations honey just wanted to reccomend a book I got in the library called 'precious babies' which is for pregancy, birth and parenting after infertility. I don't think infertility leaves you even after giving birth (I know how odd that sounds but it's true) and it's nice to have company on this amazing, special journey xxx good luck and hope you get to enjoy💕
I think i need this, thank you. IVF worked for me, but after 10 years of infertility it has not left me. It's so true, you do feel, well, I do, a little different to other mummies. I am lucky in that i have met another IVF lady mummy, and we see eachother every week. There is just this understanding between us that is different from what i have with my other mummy friends (who are very lovely, dont get me wrong, just different)...
I am going to look this book up now and order this, many thanks. xx
What a beautiful scan photo, and such encouragement for anyone needing this, to give HOPE is important. Good luck and take extra special care of yourself xx
Beautiful post and beautiful picture, thank you for expressing your thoughts and your worries and your happiness. I believe that the only way to have positive life's and outcomes are by thinking positive and how can anyone think positive without a positive influence. Congratulations on your little one and please for you ladies still trying, don't give up hope ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hi I am fairly new to this forum. But not new to the roller coaster of ivf, fet etc, etc! It is pictures like this that make my heart melt with so much joy!!! Trust me I had the extremely dramatic lows and anytime I see someone else's joy it surely lifts me up!!! Absolutely beautiful picture! I am 5 and a half weeks with extremely high hcg levels...it has been 10 years of recent try's and honestly other people success stories kept me pushing on!!! Well done! I am sure I am heading there...just need to get pass this morning sickness. When did yours stop, if you had any? Congratulations again! 😘💋😘👍🏽
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just wanted to reccomend a book I got in the library called 'precious babies' which is for pregancy, birth and parenting after infertility. I don't think infertility leaves you even after giving birth (I know how odd that sounds but it's true) and it's nice to have company on this amazing, special journey xxx good luck and hope you get to enjoy💕
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