It's Getting Real Now!

Hello ladies! I have not written in 3 months as things were really up in the air and my husband and I were faced with some major decisions. I have never stopped reading the posts on here as you are all so compassionate and supportive of each other and seeing some fabulous BFP's lately has really made me smile.

I have been in counselling since November last year, as at the time the NHS signed me off, I sank to an all time low of crying everyday, having anxiety attacks and struggling to cope. The therapist has proved wonderful and I have made steady progress. She is not a fertility specialist by any means, but just having an objective ear has made a huge difference.

Anyhow, here is my update. After looking into local IVF clinics, we decided against having treatment here in the UK and after contacting 10 international clinics, chose one. We had to get all our testing redone and this has taken about 6 weeks. We had our first consultation with the Consultant 3.5 weeks ago.

The upshot is that we have booked a date (24th May) and selected a donor. I believe I will start with meds in March... I almost cannot believe that this is finally happening. I know that there are no guarantees in this life and that the treatment may fail, but I cannot contain the overwhelming sense of hope and excitement that is starting to take hold.

I will let you know how I get on, but we are hoping for smooth sailing and the chance of fulfilling a dream.

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  • Congratulations to get to where you are. What a great post to read hang on to your overwhelming sense of hope and excitement as that is what will make you successful. Positive minds create positive outcomes. All the best I hope to read of your successful BFP soon xx

  • Thank you Mrsjj, I am going to do my best to be as 'Pollyanna' as I can!! Appreciate the kind words of support xx

  • Hi CountryCat. Well that has all taken lots of time to sort out, and many decisions to make, but you've done it! Just wanted to wish well with your treatment cycle and safe travelling to the clinic. Hope all goes well and wish you every success. Thinking of you. Diane

  • Thank you Diane. I have often read your sage advice and sensible posts - you are such an asset to this site! Xx

  • Hi CountryCat. Thank you for your kind comments. Diane

  • Hi countrycat I'm so pleased you're all sorted and ready to start treatment soon! It's great that you have someone to talk to, it can really help put things into focus. Wishing you lots of luck for your treatment, keeping checking in with how you are doing. We're all right behind you x x x

  • Thanks a million for the reply, which really means a lot!

    Come what may, at least I feel I am walking with confidence in the right direction xxx

  • Sorry to hear you had such a tough time but good to see that you've in a better place and your taking the next steps in your journey. My counsellor said to me that there are going to be points in everyones lives where they have to process and deal with pain and she said if you learn to deal with it now then you're already starting to create the necessary building blocks for the next episode in your life when it's an illness or losing someone as it's something we will all experience at somepoint in our lives. It basically means that you become a stronger person and better equipped with what lives throws at you, it looks like you've already come along in dealing with some of these issues, wishing you all the best I hope your dreams come true xxx

  • Hi Nmill, what a great insight your counsellor has...I have to agree. It is like armour-proofing yourself for the future, as much as that is possible. I have found that I have gained back the perspective that I had lost in this crazy process...that in itself is a great gift.

    Thank you for the support and I wish you only the best xx

  • Thank you thats very lovely of you. I think it's so important to be in the right frame of mind (as much as we can be) to go through with treatment and im sure you feel in a much better place mentally to start treatment xxx

  • so glad you are moving towards your goal after what sounds like a very difficult time. very best of luck on your journey xxx

  • Thank you very much for your kindness! Xxx

  • Great news and it does take ages to research and find exactly want you want. We have just started our first DE round and are so excited xxx

  • Button, I have followed your story for a while and have everything crossed for you!! I would be immensely grateful if you felt that there was anything you could share with me from your experience (private message).

    All best wishes and thank you for the support xx

  • I defo will, not much happening at the moment just on patches but will update when things start moving xx

  • Hello CountryCat ๐Ÿฑ

    What an exciting time it is for you, the build up to beginning another cycle is a great feeling ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผwe wish you all the best with your donor and a smooth road ahead, you deserve this. It's your time after all the immense and great lengths you've gone to get to this moment in time. Roll on May! Positive vibes, happiness and Love โค๏ธ ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎโœจโœจโœจโœจโœจ๐Ÿฆ„๐Ÿฆ„๐Ÿฆ„๐Ÿฆ„๐Ÿฆ„๐Ÿฆ„๐Ÿฆ„โœจโœจโœจโœจโœจ

  • What a wonderful response...thank you from the bottom of my heart!

    I am so excited for you with your success and hope you have many, many joyful days ahead xx

    Look after yourself!