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Hi my names emily and I did my first fresh Ivf in June 2015, unfortunately it was stopped after egg retrieval due to ohss, naturally devastated and rather poorly we were also rather shocked as we went in to Ivf so positive and rather naive. Since I have had 2 fet that we're both a success until 8-10 weeks then unfortunately early miscarriage, as well as havin 3 miscarriages naturally, I think the hardest thing is being told there's no under lineing issue medically with me or my hubby, so I have nothing to go by other than unexplained. A few people we know have referred us to seeking help through the herbal side of things with certain remedies and acupuncture (I tried this with my first fet) I'm just wondering if anybody has given up hope with Ivf like we have and have turned to other ways?

i have also found myself finding day to day tasks hard as I can't focus on anything, it's as if all the pain and hurt from the past 18 months have been storing up inside me and I've finally cracked, nothing seems to give me enjoyment anymore, I cry at everything, I don't recognise myself when I look in the mirror as my body has changed since all the Ivf drugs and new hormones, I used to be so happy and positive but I find myself not being able to go to work or socialising in numbers. Has anybody else found themselves or are in this situation? I want to try and do another FET this year but I'm so afraid of it failing i just want to make sure I have tried every single thing I possibly can to help it be successful, so any advice would be amazing!

Thank you


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So sorry to hear this must be so difficult going through it to miscarry. At least you will feel like you've done everything you could.xx


Were you taking aspirin each pregnancy? I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I know how you feel as I too have been through miscarriage and it's so painful. I'm currently 7 weeks pregnant and this time I'm taking aspirin and clexane injections, so we are trying to remain positive but not getting too excited. Infertility is so painful and there is no magic cure, I think you just have to have faith and remain positive which is what we've done this time round. Wishing you lots of luck x


Really sorry to hear about your journey so far Emily. You've gone through such a lot in a short time - it must be so hard. I just wanted to wish you all the best with your journey. I can relate to what you say about changing throughout this process. I am usually happy and positive too but this whole ttc and miscarriages and doctors/hospital appointments and waiting for ivf etc has really tested that for me and I find myself unable to concentrate well on things and I find socialising a bit difficult too. I don't really know what the answer is I'm afraid but I suppose I just wanted to say that I understand and wish you the best.

I don't really have any advice about other things you could try but there may be other people along with some good ideas. I read the book 'It starts with the egg' and I have tried to cut down on my exposure to chemicals etc. Not sure if it will make a difference but I feel that at least I am trying something that is under my control.

Take care of yourself as best you can xx


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