I've never joined or posted in a forum before, so I'm slightly nervous about this - forgive me if I make any rookie errors!
My husband and I are currently under the care of a fertility consultant, and our repeat test results show that we are dealing with male-factor issues; very low sperm count (last test 2.3mil, this time 4.4mil, so surely that's good news in a way?!), 13% motility. My own test results have been fine, so I next steps will be chromosome/genetic tests to determine a cause, and ultimately IVF.
I have to admit I am finding this very hard, I broke my heart today in front of all my work colleagues after he text me the results. I think I am most sad that my husband feels like it is entirely his fault. He has taken anti-depressants for over a decade, and made the decision to stop taking them as he read this can reduce sperm count and damage DNA. I'm not sure if it's made any difference, other than to add withdrawal and major clinical depression into the mix!
It also means I cannot discuss this with anyone, not even my own family. My husband sees this as emasculating and embarrassing, so he doesn't want anyone knowing at all.
I know this is obviously a painful subject for everyone, but I wanted to know what people have found helpful, and what information might I find useful? How can I best support my husband through all this?
I just want to mentally and physically prepare myself as best I can, so I really appreciate any advice you can offer. Many thanks in advance x