And while I'm in this mood...!

[Imd123]

This rubbish on Facebook really winds me up sometimes!😡

[1Boo]

Oh hell yeh! 😡 And also the ones that say

"Being a mum is worth every stretch mark, wrinkle and sleepless night" bla bla bla!!!

How about a shout out and some compassion for those of us whod give our left arm for for those things but may never happen 😥

I hear ya x

[MommaBear16]

😂😂😂 love this! I had a similar rant on here recently about the same thing. It is hard. i totally understand x x x

[Hopeful1982]

This kind of Facebook post drives me mad! A bunch of self-righteous martyers!

The emotional toll of coping with infertility is absolutely exhausting! I was very fortunate to have a successful round of IVF but having done both the sleepless nights from having and not being able to have a baby I can tell you right now what one is the hardest/most tiring/draining and it's not the baby! x

[Katm123]

So here's the thing, from where I'm sitting at least. I would have given my right arm for my little, as you say, I would do it 100 times over to be her mum. Am I the same as I was? Not by a long way? Was she worth it? Absolutely! Would I change a thing? Never! Do I feel I sometime need to justify the body I am left with? Without question.

Not being able to make a baby it turns out, was only 1 of my problems, realistically I was not designed to have children, it turns out my spine and pelvis don't line up, I pushed lots for a long time to deliver her before being told this was never gonna happen and no one could see her, so I has a section, but ruptured an assortment of things, was in hospital for a good few days, and since then have a a bit of corrective surgery. My body is a mess, a few things didn't do back where they can from and I have a huge fold of skin on my abdoment that just hangs and no amount of excercise can put right (a bit like people who go from 20 stone to 10 or something) I never justify stretch marks, they arecthe least if my worries but would I be stuggling to live with this if I hadn't gone through so much to have her? Absolutely yes, 100 times over I would. Just for the record I'm fine emotionally, I totally get that I forced my body to do something that it told me it couldn't do every month for years, and this is the cost of that.

My point really is you never know what soneone is carrying around with them, and facebook is probably thectip ofctheir ice berg, I'm positive someone who feels they need to justify every stretch mark would not mean to hurt us, or even have any idea of the journey we have been on/ are making/ have yet to face. It's hard but it's not personal.

Lots of love, and best wishes (and please excuse the typo's.xxx

[Kat9lives]

Yesssss!!! Like only those people who are parents or mothers are allowed to feel tired or know the true meaning of hard work!! Hahahaha I'm with you on that one xxxx

[72cloud9]

Even my friends that know I've just had failed IVF keep meaning about the trials & tribulations of having kids!! ....and I know it's not to make me feel better!!

Grgggggggghhhh!!😖

[72cloud9]

*moaning even! Sorry my fat fingers!!

[Blondyboo]

Only at the weekend I had two friends talking about disciplining kids... I stupidly joined in with a remark and was told... Oh you don't know how hard it can get though..... I replied with well actually I want too!!!!!! Soon shut them up but thoughtless all the same! X

[baby2016]

Its the motherhood challenge that drives me mad! Its a huge middle finger up to anyone who hasn't got kids! My mate posted on fb an article the guardian had written about it being a load of rubbish and she put her views on it. So may people commented to apologise for basically rubbing it in her face that she didn't have kids!

[Tlove in reply to baby2016]

This one annoys me too! They're only meant to post one photo but for some reason feel obliged to post a collage of multiple photos!!! And then they nominate people to do the same, so it's very excluding. I must have a look for that Guardian article.

[Hopeful1982 in reply to baby2016]

I hate the motherhood challenge too! There's absolutely nothing 'challenging' about posting a picture'! It's almost as annoying as someone posting a photo of their child followed by '#blessed' 😁😁😁

[baby2016]

Sorry think it was the inpendant, not the guardian. just found the link:

independent.co.uk/life-styl...

[Tlove in reply to baby2016]

There was a link within that article to the one on the Guardian. They're both a good read, thanks for sharing!

theguardian.com/commentisfr...