Anyone out there who has approached menopause and for who it is now impossible to concieve and might be considering adoption

[traceywelford]

[pollypopps]

Hey

I'm just about there, but hoping to try one round

Of natural IVF, even though conventuals clinics say they won't treat me.

Aware this has a very low success rate, so next journey is the possibility of adoption.

How about you?

[traceywelford]

Hi

I only did one round of IVF and had such a horrible time with it that I decided to knock it on the head as I was given such a miserably low success rate and frankly didn't have the money to continue anyway. I have looked into the possibility of adoption and was quite surprised to hear that our age wasn't a barrier.

I have only got as far as the application form but seem to be holding back, I think because I hear so many stories about how hard the assessment process is. I

Hope you are successful in your attempt for further IVF. How many rounds have you tried?

[pollypopps in reply to traceywelford]

Hi Tracey

Sorry you had such a horrid time, and money's a bummer isn't it!!

I haven't had any yet, we were going to use my sisters eggs, but alas it's not going to be healthy for her to do! So hoping for one go at Natural IVF in Aug, with a 10% chance plus my periods seemingly disappearing, it's not a great outlook, but we feel we need to try once.

I did enquire about Adoption with my local authority last year and spoke to someone on the phone. She quite rightly explained we have to finish our fertility journey first, too much to deal with all in one go. Maybe your still processing the IVF and thats why you can't do the forms?

I wonder what the difference is doing it through local authority as opposed to somewhere like Barnados?

x

[traceywelford in reply to pollypopps]

Hi

The IVF journey was a long time ago and I think I have left it too long to start the process of adoption to be honest. I just can't seem to muster the energy I think that I would need to go through the assessment process. I did wonder myself what the difference was between Barnados and local authority. In the end I just think its down to luck as to which social worker you get if it's local authority and that they do a good match.

I really wish you all the luck with the IVF, You just never know it might work. It's definately worth trying. I know I needed to try at least once.so I had no regrets on that score

xx

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Hi tracey

Have you had support to process the loss that you are going through in moving away from having your own child?

It took us about a year to move towards egg donation, during which time we did a lot of thinking individually, together, and also with support from others, including getting books on the subject. Invest some time here, and you will know when it is time to fill in the form.

[traceywelford]

Yes, alot but my partner has not been keen on adopting. Now I wonder whether I have just got used to it just being the two of us, even though he did eventually come round to supporting me with it if I went ahead. I think in the end the process of adoption itself will help me to decide.