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lost my little 12,5 week old baby yesterday. It was a boy. They said an infection. Ever heard of that? An infection from either swimming (I live in greece) from sea or pool or sex or just because. It’s rare they said, it doesn’t happen frequently they said otherwise all women would be told to stay in a room for 9 months. Don’t feel bad it’s not your fault they said. But the infection that went in to my cervix (which is an open wound they said) caused the cervix to open to push out the infection and rid of it (I didn’t have any symptoms at all) and by doing that pushed out my baby. So I was airlifted from a Greek island to the hospital in athens and as I sat there waiting for an ultrasound the baby just came out on the chair placenta and all. I literally gave birth. I went to bed the night before feeling amazing and happy and woke up with contractions and 8 hours later lost the life I had just seen the same morning bouncing around like a little bean.

They salvaged it from the floor, saw it was a boy and took it for a biopsy and then asked me if I wanted to take it home and bury it or if they would. I said no. I didn’t want it. Wanted to forget. Grieve in my own way. Baby number 9. 9 miscarriages. NINE. Because I got an infection. Because I was unlucky. Because that’s life.

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Star241

I am so sorry to read this you have been through hell, I hope you have support around you at this time, sending love ❤️

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McQueeny

I’m so so sorry. I don’t even know what to say. Can’t imagine the anguish. Sending strength 😣

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MissSaoPaulo

I'm so, so sorry xxx

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Kittykat198

I’m really sorry to hear your sad news. Sending love x

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IVFat40

I'm incredibly sorry to hear your devastating news, I can't imagine the pain. This is deeply deeply unfair and must so hard to comprehend.

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Cinderella5

Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry.😭 It's just not right when you're made to think it's just one of those things in life....its not, far from it!! I can't even imagine, I don't even want to. I really wish I could give you a massive hug. I know it doesn't mean much but you've been so lovely to me and we do care on here. I really hope you can see yourself through this terrible time with your little boys and husband. Lots of love.xxxx

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Corchi in reply to Cinderella5

thank you Cinderella … I’m still in shock but yes kids give me strength of course. Others are in my position without having two little smiley faces to come home to so trying to be grateful….

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Blueberry211

I am truly sorry to read this. This must be so hard and please take your time to grieve. Also please never blame yourself!! These situations are beyond our control :(

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MyLittlePinkness

I am just so so sorry for your loss. I have never heard of it. But it is just so cruel.💕💕💕

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Millbanks

Oh my love, that is so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.

Life can be so unfair - you did nothing wrong. How do these things just happen? Life is so precarious.

I hope you are being looked after and loved well - sending a huge amount of love to you xx

So sorry to read this, just devastating. There are no words but sending big hugs to you & your partner.x

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Klavolcra

I'm so sorry 😞

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Solly-44

It seems so inadequate but I am truly sorry. You have been through more than anyone should, it is heartbreaking. Thinking of you and sending love x

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Anoncasper

My heart is breaking for you as I read what has happened to you and your baby! I am so sorry that you have had to go through this!

I wish I could give you a big hug. My thoughts are with you and your family ❤️ x

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Littlepeax

I'm so sorry to read this Corchi this is heartbreaking 💔 😢 sending you love and strength. Be kind to yourself ♥️ thinking of you lovely xxx

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MrsBless

😭 I am so sorry.

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PenguinBlue

this is truly heartbreaking. I am so sorry to read this and sending you so much love and strength at this time. X

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AuroraXen

Corchi, I don't have any words to do justice here. This is one of the most heartbreaking posts I've ever read. I'm so very sorry. I can't even imagine the pain of nine miscarriages - just horrific. I don't know how you heal from this but I pray your family can lift you up right now and help your heart heal xx

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Corchi in reply to AuroraXen

thank you. I don’t know either. All I know is I was so happy and now I’m so unhappy. I try to remind myself how lucky i am that I have my two kids and considering I’ve been pregnant and loosing babies for over ten years it’s a miracle i even have them. It doesn’t make the pain go away but it def makes me be grateful and def wouldn’t be the same if i had nothing. Oh the perils we go through. Warriors. Physically and mentally. I’m exhausted. Thank you for your kind words. They mean the world at a time like this 💔

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Ggg555

omg this is absolutely devastating and heartbreaking. I am so sorry you are going through this and have been through so many losses. I hope you have some support and someone to talk to. Please give yourself time to grieve and process and please be kind to yourself. Really sorry this happened to you xx sending love xx

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