9dp3dt shall I test?

[Queenr]

Hello all,

I’ve been getting a few twinges here and there and the occasional cramp and back pain but not sure if it’s PMS or Progesterone playing with me!

I also want to test! But I’ve been told to wait till the 6th of April-but I don’t think I can wait that long. It’s crazy 😜

Also I’m getting these hot flushes all the time and especially at night time. I used to get these before a period so I’m just feeling really negative 😳

Is there anyone else that’s had these hot flushes and then had a positive

Love xxxxxx

[JoyfulStar]

Hey you,

I think testing is completely your choice. I am the sort to wait till the date I am given to remove any doubt.

However plenty women do the opposite and test early. I know the 2WW is hard and long! It is even worse with a pandemic and little to distract you. 😔

I came on here to say wish you luck! You have been on my mind and I wondered how you were getting on...

Some of your symptoms sound promising! Take care of yourself 🤗

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

I’m so glad you commented on this! I was thinking of you too! How’s things going for you? I’m feeling like pms is on it’s way and I feel gutted. Xxxxx

[JoyfulStar in reply to Queenr]

Thank you my dear 😊I am doing okay and mostly over my disappointing second round.

My consultant said it was the sperm but I am not completely convinced because we did a sperm retrieval and are using the same sperm all this time. It’s hard to argue with the experts though. He was open to making some tweaks for the last round so we’ll see how that goes.

I will be having a final cycle and transfer next month.

The progesterone causes pms like symptoms so don’t worry too much about that if possible.

It is hard to stay positive though I know!

You have done really well to not test all this time. I will be keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

I’m having everything crossed for you! Just remain positive and keep relaxing. I might test tomorrow, so I will keep you updated with the outcome 🙈 Stay positive M’dear xxx

[JoyfulStar in reply to Queenr]

Thank you! All the best with the test!

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

I’ve been having yellow discharge and now I’m worried my period is on it’s way and that I’ve got all excited for no reason! It’s so unbearable when everyone around me is either pregnant or just had a baby! Ahh one of these days xxx

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

Ahh hun! Just did the test it came back negative!!! It’s 11dp3dt. I’ve been told to wait another 3 days but I just a first response test! So gutted 😞

[JoyfulStar in reply to Queenr]

I am so so sorry. 😔

This journey is so cruel and the odds are really stacked up against us going through IVF. Take some time to process it and retest in 3 days. I will continue to have you in my thoughts and prayers 🙏🏾

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

Thank you! I’ve been told to test on the 6th but I just feel like there’s no point. It’s going to be negative again! Thanks though hun xxxxx

[JoyfulStar in reply to Queenr]

I would test because I have seen late implantation stories on this forum. It is completely up to you though and I can understand your reluctance. My first BFN haunted me for days.

I personally wanted to recheck and check that it truly was the end. Unfortunately one of the tests gave me a false positive, it was awful. I checked a couple of days later and knew it was over.

My clinic even asked me to check a week later to ensure there was no ectopic pregnancy. So had to take another heartbreaking test. My period was awol all this time. I have since learned a lot since then.

Did the hospital ask you to come in for a test or to tell them the outcome of a home test?

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

Ahh the hospital has asked me to do the test and the call they with the outcome. I just feel so demotivated and absolutely gutted. The cramps are more severe now and feel like Aunty Flo is on the way. It is heartbreaking. I just don’t know what went wrong. Was there something I should have eaten? Was it because I was under a lot of stress at work? It’s just absolutely madness. Xxxx

[JoyfulStar in reply to Queenr]

Please please please don’t blame yourself. The likelihood of IVF working the first time is so low. There are people on here still going after 5, 6, even 7 cycles

Take some time to process and perhaps you may be able to do it again if you have the funds. After my BFN, the only thing that made me try again was the option of a plan b ie adoption and knowing that accumulative rounds mean more chances of success.

The odds are so stacked against you that if it was something else, I would have walked away. When I first saw the IVF stats, I was depressed for a few days but my desire for a baby was too strong not to try.

Like I said, this is not about you but more about the likelihood of success through IVF. Take care of yourself and don’t blame yourself.

[Inneedofamiracle]

Hi, I am new to this site. This is my first IVF cycle. I am 10dp5dt and I have my beta test in the morning. I couldn’t help but to test. Started 6dpt...all negative. I guess testing before beta is a way to mentally prepare for the worst?? I honestly don’t know why we do it to ourselves. I usually get hot flashes before period too but it could also be the progesterone. Yesterday, I felt like my period was coming on and off all day. Totally sucks because what’s the point of a beta test tomorrow when I feel it will be negative. Did you test yet? I wish you lots of luck! This process is so emotional. Fingers crossed for you!

[Queenr in reply to Inneedofamiracle]

Hello hun! It’s been the worst. I’ve got to test on Tuesday now and I’m not looking forward to it! I know the outcome but I’m still being positive and hopeful! I’ve still got the hot flushes but no discharge from today. It’s mad! Good luck for you tomorrow xxx

[Inneedofamiracle in reply to Queenr]

The TWW is like torture. I have been having lower back pain and right ovary dull aching pain today. Trying to be hopeful that it’s a good sign. Hubby keeps telling me to be positive. It’s so hard. Dreading my beta tomorrow. I’m so over getting negatives. I’ve never had a positive test in my life and I’m 40. Starting to wonder if I can even get pregnant. We had to use DE because my AMH was 0.12 with severe DOR. I am praying this will work out for both of us!

[Queenr in reply to Inneedofamiracle]

Aww! I’ve also never had a positive hpt! I’ve got my fingers crossed for you too & please let me know what the outcome is! I hope we both get that positive outcome xxxx