Soon to be 4 YO twin boys who only poo in pants...help!

[TwinMum101]

We toilet trained our twins 6 weeks ago (they will be 4 next month) and they are good with peeing into the toilet and telling us when they need... but for poos they only ever poo in their pants unless we physically lift them onto the toilet when we see signs they need. This is very challenging as there are 2 of them and they poo multiple times a day each. We have tried all the normal rewards etc and talking to them and watching the Poland video. We have nursery on board and it's the same situation there. We are getting support from ERIC.

But I would like to hear any success stories of kids around this age who used to poo in their pants and how long it took until they were able to say when they needed a poo and get onto the toilet.

I don't think they are constipated as they have soft normal poo and they go multiple times per day...

[MindfulSquirrel]

I think the tricky thing is that people could give you stories but given the range of causes for soiling, they could be about children with a completely different set of circumstances. However, four is still pretty young, six weeks is not very long, and poos do seem harder to grasp than wees for many kids. If they’re not constipated or there’s no sign of any food intolerances etc. then they may well just need a little more time, and you just need to keep things as shame free as possible whilst they get there. Are they August babies?

However, having to manage it with two sounds very challenging, so make sure you look after yourself too.

It is worth saying that multiple small poos a day can be a sign of constipation so it’s potentially worth getting them reviewed by their GP, to properly rule it out if nothing else.

[MindfulSquirrel in reply to MindfulSquirrel]

I also think the poo videos don’t help too much if the issue is the child not recognising the signs that they need a poo, but that is developmental even if some children are on a different schedule to others.