Tried potty training my Son at the beginning of August. (He turned 3 in May.)
He was willing/happy to sit on the potty, spent all day without a nappy/pants on but would not produce anything on the potty. He would run to the potty saying he needed a wee but nothing came out. He had 1 wee accident on carpet which he apologised for. (He understands very well.) By bedtime he was hysterical sat on potty whilst wee came out and he was shouting for it to stop. It was very distressing. I decided to leave it for a while, ordered a toilet seat step combo to try instead, he picked Paw Patrol pants, was excited to wear them. We talked about it all, read books and watched videos etc.
On Monday he woke at 6.30am, nappy off, he chose a pair of pants to wear and he was happy to sit on the toilet, he would say I need a wee and we would go to the toilet. He was happy pulling his pants down himself, sat reading books etc but he didn't produce anything. After lunch he had an accident on carpet, he ran to toilet, he sat on but he'd already done it all. He apologised and I cleaned up. He carried on the same as the morning going to toilet but not producing anything. He then was saying he needed a poo, we sat for 30 mins, reading, cuddling, singing all on his request but nothing. This went on all afternoon on and off. (5-10 mins here and there.) By bedtime he was desperate and did 2 small wee's on the toilet with me cuddling him whilst he shouted for it to stop. (I praise him, we were excited, gave him chocolate stars.) He went to bed with nappy on and woke yesterday morning with a huge smelly wet nappy.
Started day off with pants at 6.30am, same again going to toilet regularly when he wanted. He would feel a wee coming, little dribble in his pants run to toilet, pull them down, sit down but nothing would come out. This went on all day, by 3pm I was worried as no wee since at least 6.30am. I tried jug of warm water for his hand, I poured a warm jug of water over his tummy in to toilet, had the tap running, we've always tried blowing bubbles, laughing etc. He ended up doing part of a wee whilst clinging to me, I was singing baa baa black sheep and he was shouting no stop my wee, I don't want to. (He was praised, chocolate stars, phoned Daddy to tell him.) A while later, he went back to toilet, he wanted to get off but I insisted he try and wee as his tummy was big and hard, he did a small wee whilst drawing and colouring. He was shouting no, stop my wee, shaking, sweating. I was saying well done etc. Bedtime came, nappy on he called me up 5 mins later he had done a wee and poo.
This morning, up 6.30am, pants on but today he wouldn't go to the toilet at all. Kept saying I need a wee but he would run to toilet, stop and say I'm fine. He also said I don't want big boy pants anymore. I gently suggested toilet a couple of times asking if he wanted to draw or read but he said no. He was very upset, uncomfortable and frustrated all morning whilst playing. At 2.40pm I was worried no wee at all so I set an alarm on my phone and when it went off I said it's time to sit on the toilet. We quickly went to toilet and he sat on but straight away said no and wanted to get off. I said I will sing and cuddle you, I put the tap on and he was shouting no, sweating, very distressed. I asked him what he wanted to do, he said go in frontroom. I asked if he would like a nappy on and he said yes. Within 10 mins of nappy he went off and did a wee. He came in telling me he'd done it changed him and 10 mins later he did a poo.
So this is where we are now, I have no idea what to do other than wait. Do you think he just isn't ready? I felt I couldn't give up too soon so had to give it a couple of days but it's like torture.
He is my 3rd child and my first two did it themselves at 2yrs 3 months and 2 years 6 months.
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