You know sometimes relationships go through a “we argue over every little thing” phase? Well I’m currently experiencing it except it is always in relation to this illness. I’m constantly in pain and running on empty and my partner is constantly on edge and I think has some sort of ptsd from seeing me in extreme pain.
I hate this illness.
Hi Ash24601
I'm sorry you are going through a hard time with your partner at the moment. Not only does Endometriosis cause all the horrible symptoms for you, it can cause additional stress on those close to you when they see you in so much pain and feel helpless.
I don't know if you are already aware but Endometriosis UK do have a section on their website about Endometriosis and Couples which may be useful for you both to read and talk about.
endometriosis-uk.org/endome...
There is also a leaflet here which has information on extra support:
endometriosis-uk.org/sites/...
I hope this helps and we are always here for you if you need support.
RicEndoUK
Volunteer Moderator
Aww thank you so much!
It’s not like he’s unsupportive but it is very hard for others I think.
Completely understand how you feel I had surgery just over 3 weeks ago and everyone expects me to be okay now . He can't understand why I can't walk and want to go out and do things and hates the fact I can't do what he wants. I'm in pain and it's not my fault sometimes I just wish they would understand . X
Don't feel bad. Me and my partner have been so in love since the day we met. He has been the kindest and most attentive man and I am so grateful to have him. He is supportive of everything I am going through, makes the dinner when I need him to, cleans the house, cuddles me all night, gets me hot water bottles. I can't fault him at all... But I still seem to snap at him ALLL of the time at the moment. I have such a short fuse and it is just because I'm so tired and so stressed worrying about whether I will ever have children, ever stop hurting. I feel so run down and so unwell all of the time and I take it out on him. I know I shouldn't, but it just happens and I feel so guilty. I look at him and think he doesn't deserve this at all. I feel like this awful, ungrateful person for having a go when he does so much. But I love him to bits and i know he adores me. Dealing with this every day is difficult for the strongest of people and relationships. You have to try not to be too hard on yourself because it's tough what you are going through and your partner. Just keep looking after each other, that's all we do. He continues to tend to my every need, and I have to do something I am not used to doing and say sorry and admit I am in the wrong! He forgives me and we stick together xxxx
Yes chronic pain changes you! It makes me feel snappy and anti social but i would otherwise describe myself as a chilled sociable person. I hate that this illness turns me into someone I’m not.
I know this is really cliché but you have to try not to let it define you. Kept muddling through and stay strong xxxx
Hi,
Sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time.
I’ve been ill with endo since 2009 and had multiple operations. Actually i’ve lost count at how many operations I have had. This illness has caused many arguments and tension and stress with my marriage. I’m always in pain day and night unable to work it’s all depressing and has put a toll on my marriage we both have changed grown distant most of the times. My hubby at times blames me for ruining everything and other times he’s understanding and caring. Having endo sucks big time😢
Sweety.
I think the problem is when it effects so much it can completely change the dynamics
So true.
Constantly feeling sad and crying 
constant Endo pain ruining my life
Zoladex...constant headache
Constantly needing the loo
constant pain 
