My dyslexia was identified 9 yeas ago at the age of 65.

[sandybrown]

I have suffered all my life not knowing about dyslexia and then due to work issues I went for a check up and I was told I am dyslexic!

Many problems, putting tins upside down, stopping mid conversation, incorrect spelling and many more. After test I got software for my laptop to listen what I am typing and also to convert text to audio. This helped at work.

At home life is day by day, the comment what can you do right? Keep forgetting things, getting lost in going to places, not finishing on what I started, leaving door open and so on.

I would like to get some answers from others offering help.

[rosetinted]

I was 45 before i worked out that the problems i was having were due to dyslexia. There is a certain amount of grief you go through when you realise that your life and your opportunities may have been very different.

It can take years to unpick the host of coping mechanisms and defensive strategies that you will have come up with over the years. I my view, not knowing had a very bad effect on my self esteem I seemed both very clever and very stupid at the same time. Attidudes to people with these kinds of problems have changed for the better, but I still do not reveal it to everyone as those who are not dyslexic have very little understanding of the difficulties that it can cause. For my organisational and time keeping problems I have found that the ADD community seem to have very good strategies to cope with these areas.

Good luck it is never too late to improve your life.

[sandybrown in reply to rosetinted]

Thank you, agree 100%. As I am retired now, my main problem is with home life!, Asian mentality is very different in understanding. When I here "you stupid and so stupid" on a daily basis I could not take it. Some how I managed it, I survived because of my work for 17 years, I could identify or fix difficult problem very quickly.

I will look into ADD community. I am looking into this now to help my brother's grand son, just graduated and looking for employment. My brother is also dyslexic but a brilliant surgeon . One of my team leader asked why I am making the same spelling mistake all the time after every one had a good laugh!, this was a starting point for me to go for tests at 63. I worked till 69. I do go for a part time job to keep me occupied, two days a week on basic wage, standing all the time on a 8-hour shift work. I do this to talk to other people and keep my brain in check and the work is like doing exercise.

Thank you.

[rosetinted in reply to sandybrown]

The people who laughed at you were very ignorant and the asian community is going to have to learn to adapt to changing times.You have to help them change by refusing to be called stupid ever again. There are wonderful gifts that can come with Dyslexia like the ability to problem solve and to imagine problems in three dimensions, just the skills needed to be a surgeon. It is a shame that you have to do work that is below your skill level. Just have pride in yourself and spread the word that being dyslexic and having organisation and attention problems is not an indicator of intelligence. I wish you all the luck in the world.

[ChrisWol]

I know the feeling I have it from since I was 9years old to now 42, it never goes away, but you have to find things that make u happy, mine was America history and the bible, in relationships it is hard because people dont understand you and its hard Express but work on it. In work find a career u enjoy and work at it, if you retire find an activity you enjoy doing me I love fishing. It's a struggle every day. But it will get better.

[sroach01]

growing up dyslexic my folks brother and sister included banned the words stupid, dumb, retard from our house. I have never gone through what you have gone through in your life. But it shows the world how strong you are that you were able to over come your home situation. I would look for a good counselor to help you deal with the past abuse (mental/emotional abuse) you received as a child.

[Mismo80]

My husband is Dyslexic and we knew nothing about it more than just a school level. He went back to school and was thrown out. He had a hard time not knowing why. I knew something had to be done so I had him go to a therapist to get proof of his dyslexia so he could get help at school in the future. It took us 5 therapists to get to the right one. Most only treat kids. We found a Neuro behavioral psychologist to test him. When we got our diagnosis back we were more confused than ever. The results said Dyslexic and ADHD-Inattentive type. We know nothing about adhd except a hyper active child with behavioral issues. My husband isn’t this. He’s very calm and quiet. Children don’t outgrow adhd and there’s different types just like there’s different types of dyslexia. Our psychologist said that if you have dyslexia you more than likely have adhd with it. The symptoms go hand in hand. It’s very rare to have dyslexia alone unless you had some sort of brain injury. You can have ADHD with out a learning disability but adults usually have comorbidity conditions with it such as Anxiety/depression. It goes over looked or misdiagnosed. I’m not saying you have ADHD but you may want to look into this as an option. Look up adhd-dyslexia and you may find more help with what’s going on. Your symptoms you list as forgetfulness and all the others my husband was doing. Let me know if I can be any assistance to you. 😊

[sandybrown in reply to Mismo80]

Thank you. My strong belief there is family gene on dyslexia. It is possible there is ADHD as well. I did online test for ADHD, the result was positive!

As I am 72, had lived with it for so lone, just accept all the comments as I have done. The problem is Asian community is that parents brothers and sisters all want you to do what they will do and always stop you doing things your way, and there will be a shouting match!!!!

In my younger days the cane was used. I was left handed and was forced to use write hand in many things including the writing!

Have you read any books, living with dyslexia husband?

Thank you for the offer of help.

[Mismo80 in reply to sandybrown]

My husband has a hard time with reading. I either read it out loud to him or he tries to get stuff in audio books. When you’re Dyslexic it’s harder for you to read a lot. It makes you tired. My husband used a green film over the words. If you are left handed it makes it even harder for you.